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  1. Choosing theBest Life

  2. lesson one Choosing the Best Life 8 For the next 8 lessons we will be studying Choosing the Best Life , a course to help teens make the best choices about sexual behavior. 750,000 teens get pregnant each year 25% of sexually active Grads have a STD

  3. lesson one Choosing the Best Life “Sex, Emotions and self-respect” • The first lesson deals with sex, emotions and self-respect • Turn to page 6 • We will discuss the questions on page 6 after watching Video Segment One: “Males vs. Females” <6>

  4. lesson one lesson one Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 1“Guys vs. Girls”

  5. lesson one Guys: sex is physical, driven by hormones & peer pressure Girls: sex is an emotional experience, involving strong feelings “Males vs. Females” • How do guys and girls view sex differently? <6>

  6. lesson one lesson one “Males vs. Females” 2. Guys:What would you like girls to know to better understand about guys? <6>

  7. lesson one lesson one “Males vs. Females” Choosing the Best Life 3.GirlsWhat would you like guys to know to better understand about girls? <6>

  8. lesson one > Guys & Girls Can View Sex Differently Guys 1. Does not = personal relationship 2. Expect sex to happen sooner 3. Love & Commitment 4. Not Serious 5. Turned on/Curious/impress friends 6. Partner pressure 7. Less pleasure and satisfaction Guys Girls Guys Guys Girls Girls <7>

  9. lesson one Guys & Girls are different 3 Ways Sex is Misused to Meet Emotional Needs 1. Acceptance 2. Man 3. Valued Why? Disappointment <7>

  10. BRAIN ACTIVITY 1 side @ a time Both sides together How are girls affected by estrogen? Sex Hormones How does testosterone affect guys? Guys Girls Girls tend to have a broader view of sex, emphasizing the total relationship Guys can focus more easily on the physical side of sex w/out relationship View Sex Words, personality, touch? Girls are stimulated by the whole event. Sight? Guys can just see something sexual and be aroused. Stimulation Guys & Girls are different <7 supplemental >

  11. lesson one LEFT PORTION RIGHT PORTION the Logical Side the creative side Deals with concrete thinking and reasoning Deals with feelings and emotions Guys & Girls Can View Sex BRAIN ACTIVITY What does each side of the brain do? <7 supplemental >

  12. lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement Why? Effect? 1.Worry 2.Regret & Guilt 3. Impairs Personal Development 4. Fear of Future Relationships 5. Lowers Self-esteem 6. Depression <8>

  13. lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement Why? Effect? 1.Worry • Fear: • pregnancy • getting an STD or AIDS • parents finding out • Nervousness • loss of sleep • poor grades • possible long-term health problems <8>

  14. lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement Why? Effect? 2.Regret & Guilt • Relating sex to love and feeling loss when relationship ends • Regret about not reaching personal goals • Guilt about going against personal values • Being disappointed in self’ regret about hurting others • Medical problems such as ulcers • Eating disorders <8>

  15. lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement Why? Effect? 3. Impairs Personal Development • May turn inward • Fail to develop healthy interests and relationships • Fail to develop a personal, independent identity • Experience feelings of betrayal that can lead to rage • Can use sex to escape pressures or to avoid • Learning how to communicate in a healthy way with opposite sex <8>

  16. lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement Why? Effect? 4. Fear of Future Relationships • Difficulty trusting Inability to make a commitment to someone • Withdrawal from close relationships • pattern of use and abuse in relationships • Fear of being used or betrayed again • Have not learned healthy communication • Jealousy <8>

  17. lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement Why? Effect? 5. Lowers Self-esteem • May feel used or damaged, unhappy or lacking dignity • May have sex again to feel control • May seek attention or turn to destructive behavior • May feel dehumanized or worthless • Weak or powerless if partner is selfish or controlling <8>

  18. lesson one Six Emotional Effects of Premarital Sexual Involvement Why? Effect? 6. Depression • May lead to attempted or successful suicide • Girls sexually active = 6x more likely to attempt suicide than virgins • Boys= 8x • Feels like a failure • Feels deeper pain because already sees events in an emotional way <8>

  19. lesson one Character Application SEX & Self-Respect Heart Activity What parts of the story did you respond to by tearing large parts of your heart? Are there any differences in the piles of torn pieces on the boys’ vs girls’ desks? <9>

  20. Character Application SEX & Self-Respect • Heart Activity • Is it possible for Kendra to restore her life? • If Kendra respected herself, would she have given herself to Antonio without his commitment to her? • What is this commitment called? • Waiting for sex is called? • Consequences of abstinence? <9>

  21. Character Application SEX & Self-Respect Character is who you are on the inside. It’s how you act and think when no one else is around. One part of healthy character development is self-respect. Respect for yourself begins with the idea that you are valuable and worthy. We’ve seen how sexual relationships before marriage often lower self-respect in both people. The emotional pain can cause a downward spiral of feelings. Personal Application: <10>

  22. Character Application SEX & Self-Respect Discussion Questions: PAGE 10 Answer all questions on this page Personal Application: <10>

  23. lesson two Sex, alcohol and respect Choosing the Best Life View video and then we will discuss: “sex and alcohol don’t mix” Take notes on page 12 <11>

  24. Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 2“Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix”

  25. lesson two “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” • What effect does alcohol have on a young person? • Increased risk of sexual activity • Date rape • Contracting STDs • Pregnancy <12>

  26. lesson two “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” 2. Why do you think some teens drink alcohol? • Peer pressure • Like the calming feeling • Feel less inhibited and less anxious <12>

  27. lesson two “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” 3. What are some of the risks of “hooking up” under the influence of alcohol? • Become less inhibited • Become less assertive in maintaining boundaries • Can lose consciousness • Can be unaware of partner’s actions <12>

  28. lesson two “Sex and Alcohol Don’t Mix” Did she get pregnant? Did either of them contract an STD? What were the consequences for them? Activity: One Guy and One Girl <12>

  29. lesson two 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. • Force • Shame • Guilt • Sadness • Guy – school suspension • Girl – felt loss of respect • Drugs • Date Rape • Rape • Alone What do you know about“Date Rape? True True True False False True True False True True <13>

  30. lesson two Character Application SEX & Self-Respect Read the first paragraph on page 16 and then Sarah’s Story DATE RAPE: • Rape occurs when one person forces another to have sexual relations • Incidence of rape in U.S. peaks among women age 16-19. 700,000 rapes per year, 61% under age 18. • 84% of those who reported unwanted sexual intercourse knew their assailant. • Rape victims should seek immediate medical attention and contact a rape crisis center/hotline. • The victim is NEVER to blame for rape. • Rape is not about sex, but about control. <13>

  31. lesson two Character Application SEX & Self-Respect 7. Date rape drugs can facilitate sexual assault by causing sedation and amnesia to the point that the victim cannot or may not resist or remember. Mixing drugs and alcohol is dangerous and potentially fatal. 8. Date rape drugs are easy to hide – colorless and odorless, but somewhat salty tasting. Can be hidden in a drink. Never leave your drink unattended! 9. Rape is a CRIME and punishable by IMPRISONMENT. 10. Never be alone with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable or fails to show you respect. <13>

  32. lesson two > How Alcohol effects a young Person • Brain • Memory • Death • Inhibitions • Unconsciousness • Sex • Five • Alcohol • 50 to 75 percent • unplanned <14>

  33. lesson two The Physical Effects of Alcohol Abuse Activity: Bat Brain: learning Mental: coordination Heart: Attack Digestive Tract: cancer Immune System: infections ulcers Stomach: Liver: cancer Reproductive System: Impotence, irregular <15>

  34. lesson two Character Application SEX & Self-Respect Read and listen to the story on page16 Then answer the discussion questions. Personal Application: <16>

  35. lesson three Sex, STDs and honesty Choosing the Best Life STDs are unique because they are contracted through at risk sexual behaviors. Watch the video and make notes. <17>

  36. Choosing the Best Life DVD Video Segment 3“A Visit to a Microbiology Lab”

  37. lesson three “A Visit to a Microbiology Lab” • How can you tell if a person has an STD? You can’t! 2. Why are most teens not concerned about contracting an STD? They think they’re invincible. 3. Most common STDs? Chlamydia Gonorrhea Syphilis Human papillomavirus (HPV) Genital herpes <18>

  38. lesson three “Chlamydia” Read introductory paragraphs Slide 1 and 2 The Silent Disease • Bacterial,1.5 million • no • oral • Cured • PID; infertility • 3 to 10 <19>

  39. lesson three “Gonorrhea” Read introductory paragraph Slide 3 and 4 One of the Oldest STDs • 650,000 • no • Oral • PID • 50 • HIV <20>

  40. lesson three “Syphilis” Read introductory paragraph Slide 5-8 • bacterial • direct • oral • sore • cured • death <21>

  41. lesson three “Trichomoniasis” • parasite • no • cured <21>

  42. lesson three “Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)” Read introductory paragraph Slide 9-10 The Most Common Viral STD • Viral; 50%;43% • Genital; cancer • No; life • HPV; die • Pap • oral <22>

  43. lesson three “Genital Herpes” Read introductory paragraph Slide 11-13 More Than 45 Million Infected • Viral; 45 • 90% • life • Blisters • Skin to skin • Visual; not <23>

  44. lesson three STDs Are Wide Spread • 25 • 15.3 million; 65 million • 4 million; 10,959 daily; 457 hourly; 8 seconds • No; multiple; cervix <24>

  45. lesson three Here’s How they Spread ACTIVITY • 3 • 6 • 1 • 8 • 3 • 2 <24>

  46. What about ”safe Sex” • Condom • Every • Correctly • Not • Half How well do condoms work for birth control? • Break; • 15% Reduce STD risk ? • 85%; 15% • Fluids; 50% • Skin to skin • HPV • No Abstinence <25>

  47. lesson three What about ”safe Sex” Is ‘Safe sex really safe? What is the only way to ELIMINATE the risk of pregnancy or of contracting an STD? <25>

  48. lesson three What about ”safe Sex” What does abstinence involve? Making an informed decision to not participate in risk-taking behaviors that can lead to pregnancy or an STD <25>

  49. lesson three What about ”safe Sex” What are at-risk behaviors? • Vaginal sex • Anal sex • Oral sex • Mutual masturbation which can pass infected body fluids through skin-to-skin contact <25>