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GOALS FOR TODAY’S TALK

Cognitive-Behavioral Strategies for Treating Stress and Worry in Children and Adolescents Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman Guidance EXPO 2013 Westchester County Center, White Plains, New York website: drbaruchfeldman.com email: drcarenfeldman@msn.com. GOALS FOR TODAY’S TALK.

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GOALS FOR TODAY’S TALK

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  1. Cognitive-Behavioral Strategies for Treating Stress and Worry in Children and AdolescentsDr. Caren Baruch-FeldmanGuidance EXPO 2013Westchester County Center, White Plains, New Yorkwebsite: drbaruchfeldman.comemail: drcarenfeldman@msn.com Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  2. GOALS FOR TODAY’S TALK • Increase Your Understanding of the Causes of Stress Faced by Students. • 2. Teach You Cognitive Behavioral Strategies that Can Be Used to Treat Worry and Stress in Children and Adolescents. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  3. Is Stress and Worry Good, Bad, or Something In Between? Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  4. “The Yerkes-Dodson Law of Arousal Performance increases with arousal, but only to a certain point. When levels of arousal become too high, performance will decrease. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  5. Why Are Children So Stressed? • Pressure to Succeed • Need to Be Good at Everything • Play Dates, “White Van”, and Helicopter Parents • Internet/ Access to Information Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  6. When Should One Be Concerned About Their Child’s Level of Stress? • Behaving Differently From Usual • Avoids Activities That He/She • Used to Enjoy. • Significant Change in School Performance. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  7. How Can Children Turn Their Worry Into an Appropriate Level of Concern To Feel Better? • Psycho-Educational (3) Changing One’s Behavior (physiological and avoidance) (2) Changing One’s Thoughts No? Yes! Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  8. Understanding Stress and Worry • Nervous Systems • Genetic Predisposition • Worry as a Bad Habit • Choose a Different Path Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  9. Changing One’s Thoughts How One THINKS About A Situation Affects How One Feels. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  10. Experiment 1 What Do You See? Look around the room and try to find all the examples of RED you can see. What have you spotted? Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  11. Experiment 2 Picture yourself in the following situation: You are standing in line at the bank. There are about 50 people around. A robber enters and fires his weapon. You get shot in the arm, but no one is hurt. Would you consider yourself lucky or unlucky? Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  12. Experiment 3 Worried Florida Old Lonely Orange Bingo Conservative wrinkle Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  13. Expecting the Worst ……Worrying Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  14. Changing Ones Thoughts • Step1: Identify Negative Thoughts. • Look for Expecting the Worst. • Step 2: Question and Challenge Thoughts. • Where is the Evidence? • Is it Helpful? • Step 3: Come Up With More Realistic and Optimistic Thoughts to Feel Better. • 1)There is no evidence… • 2) Worrying won’t help…… Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  15. Step 1: Identifying Negative or Irrational Beliefs/Thinking Traps IRRATIONAL BELIEFS • Demandingness – SHOULDS/ MUSTS • Awfulizing – It Is Terrible! • Low Frustration Tolerance – I Can’t Stand It! • Global Rating of Self/Others. Self-Downing. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  16. Step 2: Question and Challenge Thoughts • Where is the evidence that what I am expecting will happen? • Is it helpful how I am thinking? • Would I think the same way if a friend presented this issue? Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  17. Step 3: Develop Rational Beliefs/Thoughts RATIONAL BELIEFS • Wishes/ Preferences • Living in the Gray • I Can Stand It • Total Self Acceptance Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  18. Mom, I’m Worried! Test Anxiety Expecting the Worst I am going to fail! It is going to be terrible! I will need to repeat the grade. If I fail I am a bad person! Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  19. Mom- I’m Confident! Confident Test Taker Realistic and Positive Thoughts There is no evidence that I will fail. I haven’t failed previous tests. Even if I fail, I am exaggerating how bad the results will be. Nobody gets left back in 7th grade because of one test. Worrying is a waste of energy. It is really the worst thing I can do. Since when I worry, I am not paying attention fully to the test. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  20. Irrational vs. Rational IRRATIONAL BELIEFS Demandingness – SHOULDS/MUSTS Awfulizing – It Is Terrible! Low Frustration Tolerance – I Can’t Stand It! Global Rating of Self/Others - Self Worth Tied to 1 Behavior or Action. Self-Downing RATIONAL BELIEFS Preferences Living in the Gray Realizing That They Can Stand It Not Judging Themselves Self Acceptance Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  21. Rational Emotive Imagery • Picture a bad event clearly. One that has either already happened or that you believe likely to happen. Take your time. Fill in the details. Visualize the people involved, hear them talk, describe the environment, let the situation happen in your mind. Feel the emotions; you can do it. Keep imagining until the emotions are as disturbed as you can get them. • After a minute or two, change your emotions from disturbed to merely unpleasant. Did you change your thinking? Was your thinking more realistic? It’s the thinking that causes the emotional response. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  22. Changing Behavior: Where Do I Feel Stress in My Body? Heart Pounding Blushing Chills Feeling Faint Dizziness Shortness of Breath Butterflies Shaky Headache Tightness in the chest Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  23. Changing Behavior: Physical Sensations • Be A Detective Use your symptoms as clues to knowing when you are feeling worried. Think of fear not as a signal to RETREAT, but rather consider it a CUE to go forward. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  24. Changing Behavior: Physical Sensations • Spell Your Name with Belly Breaths • Deep Muscle Relaxation • Guided Imagery Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  25. Changing Behavior: Don’t Avoid • Facing One’s Fear or Stress • Manageable and Hierarchical Manner • Success Breeds Success Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  26. Coping Cat- FEAR Plan • F = Feeling Frightened? • E = Expecting Bad Things to Happen? • A = Attitudes and Actions that can Help. • R = Results and Rewards • FEAR Ladder or Situation Cards Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  27. What Else Can You Do • Possibility vs. Probability. Determine How Likely It Will Happen. • Productive vs. Unproductive Worry • Living in the here and now, not the future. • Acceptance, not fighting pink elephants. • Be A Good Role Model-Mirror Neurons • Give Worry a Name. • Set Aside a Worry Time. • What’s the Best, Worst, Most Likely Outcome? • Write Down a Story With a Better Outcome. • Separate Thinking from Action. I am simply having the thought…. • Can’t Tell Someone to Relax/Calm Down. The Person Needs to Get There Him/Herself. • Positive Psychology: Grateful Activity, Journal the Positive, Random Acts of Kindness. • Exercising, Eating, and Sleeping Right. Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  28. SUMMARY • An intolerance for uncertainty and a need for control are at the heart of worrying. • Be a long-term hedonist vs. a short term one. • Live in the moment. • Turn failure into opportunity (e.g., I didn’t fail, my behavior did. Failure is not fatal). Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  29. From Challenge to Opportunity After SANDY Seeing it as an OPPORTUNITY Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  30. CBT Worksheet Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

  31. What Did I Learn? • What Did You Learn? • What Can You Do To Help Your Students to Decrease Stress? Dr. Caren Baruch-Feldman, Psychologist drbaruchfeldman.com drcarenfeldman@msn.com

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