Counseling Schedule: Middle Childhood. VISIT. INTRODUCE. 5 YEARS. Establishing Routines and Setting Limits. 6 YEARS. Teaching Behavior Bullying Out-of-School Time. 8 YEARS. School Connections Alcohol and Drugs Interpersonal Skills. Child Mental Health School Performance.
Children grow and develop within a context of family, school, and community.
Do you have rules or limits with respect to TV, video games, and computer time?
Are you involved in any school-related activities?
How does your child help around the home?
Who is your child’s best friend?
Is your child happy most of the time or withdrawn?
School-age children need to be active participants in learning how to avoid and react to conflict.
Have you been in any pushing or shoving fights?
What happens when you and your friends argue or disagree?
What do you like best about school?
What do you do for fun?
If you see someone being bullied, what do you do?
Parents of Young Children
Visit: 5 Years
I’m here with your mother so it’s OK. No adult should ever tell you to keep a secret from your parents.
Visit: 6 Years
Have you ever been in any pushing or shoving fights?
Ask the child:
If the answer is yes, it is important to determine the child’s role.
Visit: 8 Years
Did you hear about _____ being charged with _____? What do you think about that?
Start conversations about drug abuse with the recent news:
Visit: 8 Years
Your Child Cope With Conflict
Visit: 10 Years
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Howard Spivak, MD
Robert Sege, MD, PhD
Elizabeth Hatmaker-Flanigan, MS
Kimberly Bardy, MPH
This project was supported by Grant No. 2001-JN-FX-0011 awarded by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Department of Justice. Points of view or opinions in this document are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the official position or policies of the U.S. Department of Justice.