How To Influence Your Spouse I Peter 3:1-7 March 10, 2013

2. How To Influence Your Spouse I Peter 3:1-7March 10, 2013

3. 1 Peter 3:1–7 (NRSV) Wives, in the same way, accept the authority of your husbands, so that, even if some of them do not obey the word, they may be won over without a word by their wives’ conduct,when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Do not adorn yourselves outwardly by braiding your hair, and by wearing gold ornaments or fine clothing…

4. …rather, let your adornment be the inner self with the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight. It was in this way long ago that the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves by accepting the authority of their husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord. You have become her daughters as long as you do what is good and never let fears alarm you.

5. Husbands, in the same way, show consideration for your wives in your life together, paying honor to the woman as the weaker sex, since they too are also heirs of the gracious gift of life—so that nothing may hinder your prayers.

16. Submission is the counterweight to our citizenship in heaven

17. Why should we all submit? Because God is interested in influence over fairness Because God is interested in mission over comfort

18. “The reader who does not understand Peter’s intent and his instruction to slaves, wives and husbands, will not understand the message of I Peter. Within this passage Peter grounds his ethical teaching on the Christian life rightly lived after the example of Christ’s suffering. How short-sighted it is to use this passage as if it were a marriage manual simply addressing the relationship between husbands and wives. And how ironic it is that the words that 1st century slaves and wives would have read as affirming and empowering are criticized today as being enslaving and oppressive.”

19. “When read within its original historic setting, these verses become a call to social transformation as a mission within their Christian community, allowing it to become an alternative society based on God’s redemptive plan.”

20. Why should we all submit? Because God is interested in influence over fairness Because God is interested in mission over comfort Because God is interested in His glory over your glory

21. “The love of God is not making much of us, but God’s saving us from self-centeredness so that we can enjoy making much of Him forever. We are all bent to believe that we are central in the universe. It is a mistake to say, ‘Well, if the aim was to rescue us, then we were the ultimate goal of the cross.’ No, we were rescued from sin in order that we might see and savor the glory of God. This is the ultimately loving aim of Christ’s death. He did not die to make much of us, but to free us to enjoy making much of God forever.” John Piper

22. God is interested in whatever makes Him look good, because Him looking good is the only hope for mankind.

23. Submission means exchanging fairness, comfort and our way, for influence, mission and God’s glory.

24. 3 ways to “do” marriage: Non-Christian equality (egalitarianism) Christian egalitarianism Christian complimentarianism

25. Authority of God: Matthew 28, Romans 13, Ephesians 1 Authority of husbands: Colossians 3, Ephesians 5, I Peter 3, Ephesians 6 Submission of wives: Colossians 3, I Timothy 2, I Corinthians 13, Titus 2, I Timothy 5, I Peter 3

26. 1 Peter 3:1 (NRSV) Wives, in the same way, accept the authority of your husbands…

27. Hoopotasso = Submit, Come Under

28. The Deepest Foundation for Christian Womanhood: Hope in God1 Peter 3:5 (NRSV) It was in this way long ago that the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves by accepting the authority of their husbands.

29. Proverbs 31:25 (NRSV) Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.

30. The Deepest Foundation for Christian Womanhood: Hope in God The Biggest Enemy of Christian Womanhood: Fear

31. 1 Peter 3:6 (NRSV) Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him lord. You have become her daughters as long as you do what is good and never let fears alarm you.

32. The Deepest Foundation for Christian Womanhood: Hope in God The Biggest Enemy of Christian Womanhood: Fear The Clearest Motivation for Christian Womanhood: Internal Adornment

33. 1 Peter 3:3–4 (NRSV) Do not adorn yourselves outwardly by braiding your hair, and by wearing gold ornaments or fine clothing;rather, let your adornment be the inner self with the lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in God’s sight.

34. Proverbs 11:22 (NRSV) Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman without good sense.

35. Proverbs 31:26 (NRSV) She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

36. What Submission is NOT: Does not mean agreeing with everything your husband says and does Does not mean leaving your brain and will at the wedding altar Does not mean NOT trying to influence her husband Does not mean putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ Does not mean that she gets her personal, spiritual strength through her husband

37. What Submission IS:

38. 1 Peter 3:7 (NRSV) Husbands, in the same way, show consideration for your wives in your life together, paying honor to the woman…