Computer & Internet Safety

1. The Spiritual and the Technical Computer & Internet Safety

2. Welcome…about me • Converted 26 years ago as a freshman at UNC Chapel Hill • Graduated 1991, BS in Math & CS • Worked around gaming for 18 years • Gadget head • Just to be clear…I’m a geek…not a nerd  • Relax…slides will be posted

3. The Spiritual • “As no one is discharged in time of war, so wickedness will not release those who practice it.” Ecclesiastes 8:8 • Be honest with yourself… • Spiritual principle – if you allow sin & Satan to remain, even if it is “just every once in a while”, you are a slave to that sin (John 8:34) • Can’t expect to lead our families if we aren’t dealing with our sins!

4. The Spiritual • “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28 • Don’t think, “my spouse and I watch together…to spice things up” • "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.” Job 31:1

5. The Spiritual • “I will set before my eyes no vile thing. The deeds of faithless men I hate; they will not cling to me.” Psalm 101:3 • Maybe you think, “I will look away during the ‘bad scenes’” • Not sexual/lustful, but violence or crime/murder • Receiving pay channels with this type of content • Ask yourself, “What am I bringing into my home?” (commercial with mom & mob boss) • What am I exposing my heart/soul/conscience to? (1 Timothy 4:2 “seared as with a hot iron”)

6. The Spiritual • “You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.” Exodus 20:5-6 (cfEzekiel 18:20) • Need to understand the generational impact of our decisions and sins! • We think it is not seen…that our kids don’t know…but they do! Kids know how to access your history! • Repent, get open, and get help…Rick Fuller leads a purity group for men • If you know it is happening…turn them in!

7. The Spiritual • “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6 • All of the tech in the world won’t train our kids…we must! • Kids figure technology out much quicker than we do • Takes training, meaning continual teaching and monitoring of progress

8. The Spiritual • Much easier to just be lazy • Keeps the kid(s) busy and out of our hair • They don’t get in any “trouble” when they are using the devices…really? • What are we teaching them? • I get my entertainment & joy from this little box • Should be from loving relationships • Escape & selfish retreat (lunch out) • Concern for everyone, families, single and stay at home moms, etc. • Satan wants your kids!

9. The Spiritual • What really happens…when they spend too much time connected? • Play in virtual worlds completely unsupervised and unfiltered • Learning without the benefit of a parent to interpret and help teach values • Some are playing online…interacting with…who knows • Satan does not sleep while we are plugged into “The Matrix”!

10. The Spiritual • What are the results? • Like Rick talked about Sunday…see the passion they play with and how they respond (slam controller, etc.)…to things that aren’t real! • Lose contact and compassion with real human beings • Perpetuates the “people are objects” mentality…forget they are souls (Matthew 9:36 “harassed and helpless”) • Retards ability to build relationships

11. The Spiritual • What really happens…online? • Cyber bullying (it’s happening in our neighborhoods!) • “Sexting” – posting suggestive or worse pictures…that picture is out there forever (it’s happening in our church!) • Seemingly innocuous sites can contain objectionable content (Flickr, Instagram, Tumblr) • Cyber predators • Perceived anonymity – would you really say…or do…THAT (anger, flirting, etc.)? • Happens in chat rooms, social media like Twitter/Facebook, IRC, etc.

12. The Spiritual • What are the results? • Encourages narcissism (Romans 12:3) • Do you think people really care that you just got back home with the “tastiest Frappuccino eva”? • Encourages voyeurism (Instagram, etc. both ways) • Balance between relationships and addiction?

13. The Spiritual • What are the results? • Over sharing makes you vulnerable! • Google “Kevin Krautwald Raleigh NC”…within just a few links • Spouse and all kids names (passwords?) • Home address & phone (vacation?) • Employment

14. The Spiritual • Why not just shut it all down? Go all Amish on ya! • Nothing wrong with appropriate entertainment • Can be a source of enjoyment and bonding with family and friends • School work & grades are all on the internet • May need it for work • Lots of good, spiritual content • …but “If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out” Matthew 5:29-30

15. The Spiritual • Gain personal conviction: you cannot help anyone if you are consumed by these things…seek help • Be involved with your kids! • Sit with them while they consume media • Knowwhat they are playing/watching • Don’t let worldly ratings determine what is appropriate content

16. The Spiritual • Teach and give tools to make good decisions • Discuss how to handle inappropriate situations • Don’t get on internet at friend’s house • Kids should always know they can call you (ala driving) • Discuss what happens at school/friend’s house • Bullying/peer pressure/manipulation • Friend’s house: what did you watch? • When kids have friends over, “invade their privacy” • Would rather protect my child and be “lame” than let Satan get a foothold so I can be “cool”

17. The Spiritual • Practicals for home computer usage • Talk about it and set clear boundaries • Use the computer in a “public” area…they don’t have to have a computer in their room/behind closed doors • No unallowed sites • No erasing browsing history…no history = guilty • Disable the “private browsing” feature

18. The Spiritual • Put time limits on usage • Determine what is a reasonable amount • Put controls in place to monitor this (more later) • Have the kids earn time • Homework • Chores • Don’t make it to be the “awesome prize” • Remember: computer use is a privilege, not a right!

19. The Spiritual • Do technology and worship services go together? • Useful for electronic bible & note taking • Appropriate to text during service? • How does God see this? • Appropriate for kids to play games instead of attending classes? • What is this teaching our kids? • WWJD?

20. The Technical: Home Network • Have a firewall/router • First line of defense • Filters all traffic from internet • Prevents people from “seeing” your computer/files (Wargames/ping) • Provides wireless network • Set it up with WPA password • Can use MAC address filtering • Guest network • Still on G? Time for a new one!

21. The Technical: Home Network • Stay one step ahead • Apartment vs close neighborhood vs larger lots • Change your passwords • Router/admin • Wireless • Computer • Use non-identifying SSID

22. The Technical: Home Network • ASUS • $40 RT-N12 • $125 RT-N66U • Better wireless coverage/speed • USB ports for drives/printers • Gigabit LAN ports • Linksys/Cisco • Netgear • Buffalo • Belkin • Paying for features, stability, and performance

23. The Technical: Home Network • Apple • Airport Express $99 • Basic router, small range (N only) • Stream music to rooms • Printer • Airport Extreme $199 • Better wireless range (adds A&C) • Wired ports • Time Capsule $299 • Backup, automatic with Mac

24. The Technical: Home PC • Setup per user accounts • Fine grain control over what is appropriate for each family member • Windows:http://windows.microsoft.com/en-us/windows/create-user-account#create-user-account=windows-7 • Mac: http://support.apple.com/kb/ph4600

25. The Technical: Home PC • Setup OS level Parental Controls • Limit hours (on/off and total time) • Content restrictions • Windows:http://windows.microsoft.com/en-us/windows/set-parental-controls#1TC=windows-7 • Mac:http://support.apple.com/kb/HT2900?viewlocale=en_US&locale=en_US

26. The Technical: Home PC • Setup filtering • Prevent access to websites and content that is inappropriate • www.opendns.com $Free • www.netnanny.com $40 • www.k9webprotection.com $Free • Have your spouse set the password • Accountability Software • www.covenanteyes.com

27. The Technical: Home PC • Disable Incognito on Chrome: http://www.internetsafetyproject.org/wiki/how-disable-incognito-mode-chrome • Disable InPrivate mode on IE • Just setup parental controls! • Disable Private Browsing in OSX: http://www.ehow.com/how_8125784_disable-private-browsing-safari.html

28. The Technical: Home PC • Backups • Mac: Time Machine • PC • Built into Windows • Acronis Backup and Recovery $75 • Paragon Backup and Recovery $40 • SyncBack$Free • Off site or “cloud” backups

29. The Technical: Game Systems • Setup parental controls • Xbox360: http://support.xbox.com/en-US/xbox-360/security/xbox-live-parental-control • PS3: (sub accounts) http://manuals.playstation.net/document/en/ps3/current/basicoperations/parentallock.html • Similar for Xbox One and PS4 • Netflix, browser, etc. • Screen content in your home • Ask about what they played with friends

30. The Technical: Mobile • iOS, iPhone or iPod Touch • Parental Controls: http://support.apple.com/kb/ht4213 • Apple Configuration Utility: http://support.apple.com/kb/dl1466 • Restrict apps & content, basic web filtering • Find Friends App

31. The Technical: Mobile • Android: 4.3/Jellybean • Parental Controls: http://www.pcadvisor.co.uk/how-to/google-android/3461359/parental-control-on-android/ • Limit time, apps used, browser • NetNanny ($?) • MobileMinder ($30/year) • Disable all network access with your provider

32. The Technical: Online • Pray before going online! • Be careful what you share (Facebook, etc.)…make a phone call! • Never use a debit card online (just cause it says VISA != credit card) • If you don’t go to pirate sites, you are much better off! • Don’t open files…even from people you know… • Use STRONG passwords (internet banking, etc.) • > 8 characters, mix of characters & symbols, h@x0r5ty13 (hackerstyle) • Don’t access private sites (bank, etc.) from public WIFI

33. The Technical: Online • ALL of your emails are being mined for data…ALL of them (it’s not just the NSA) • Websites are tracking your every move/purchase/etc. • Apple FaceTime uses end to end encryption • Skype uses end to end as well for audio/video, but text chat goes through MS servers

34. Thanks! • Questions?

35. Online Resources • Internet: • http://www.internetsafetyproject.org • Mac • http://www.apple.com/support/mac101/ • www.macworld.com • http://www.osxfaq.com/index.ws • www.ifixit.com • Spiritual • www.crosswalk.com

36. Online Resources • Windows • www.google.com • www.microsoft.com • www.komando.com • General • www.wikipedia.org • www.howstuffworks.com • www.lynda.com/home/ViewCourses.aspx • www.engadget.com (Get your inner geek on!)