Lesson 5 Domestic Violence
Welcome • Activity calendar/ Self-evaluation • Homework collection
What Is Domestic Violence? Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used by one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or dating. Examples of abuse include: • name-calling or putdowns • keeping a partner from contacting their family or friends • withholding money • stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job • actual or threatened physical harm • sexual assault • Stalking or intimidation
What Is Domestic Violence? • Abusers are trying to get and keep control in their relationships. Battering is a choice. It is used to gain power and control over another person. Physical abuse is only one part of a system of abusive behaviors.
Cycle of Violence in an Abusive Relationship • Phase One: The Tension Building Phase • Male enjoys feelings of control and power by stepping up intensity and frequency of psychological abuse • Female feels increasingly powerless, fearful and hopeless as she does everything she can to avert a violent incident • Phase Two: The Precipitating Event • Male “blames” female for “provoking” abuse as an excuse for the violence; female “blames” self for not preventing abuse
Cycle of Violence in an Abusive Relationship • Phase Three – The Acute Battering Event • Actual physical abuse occurs. May last a few minutes to several days • Phase Four – The Immediate Aftermath • Male frequently quiet and calm – feels relief from tension. • Female often dazed and immobilized with shock or fear
Cycle of Violence in an Abusive Relationship • Phase Five: The Honeymoon Phase • Male is “sorry” and tries to “make up” to female, begging for forgiveness, he promises not to hurt her again • Female enjoys male’s attention and remorse; she feels quite powerful, flattered by his attempts to win her back.
Good Intentions • Is based on the true story of a young women living in Ontario who experienced dating violence. She is now pursuing a career with the police force. • Complete the related assignment