Manners

1. Manners 線上英語自學中心 會話小老師Christine Hsieh 製作

2. Starting Questions • What do you think are some good manners? • Smiling, dress appropriately … • What do you think are some bad manners? • Spit, litter, starring at others … • Can you think of some good manners that are bad manners in another country? • Slurping (to make a sucking noise while eating or drinking ) your soup in Japan is considered as good manners which is a sign of your appreciation of the cooking. • While belching is considered to be rude and poor manners in the United States, a belch after a good meal is considered to be a compliment for the chef in some eastern cultures.

3. 10 Universal Manners • UNIVERSAL WORDS OF KINDNESS • PLEASEThis word will open any door. • THANK YOU.This will keep the door open, so you can return. • EXCUSE METhis will help you to enter the door when someonedecides to block your way. • HELLOThis will let the other people know you feel them worthyof respect. • GOOD-BYEThe wish for a happy life. • UNIVERSAL BEHAVIORS THAT SHOULD STOP 1. DO NOT SPIT And they need signs about nose blowing, and clearing the throat. 2. KEEP THE NOISE DOWN Especially the guy next door with the guitar trying to seduce the girl at 1:00 in the morning. Just because you love the noise, does not mean the rest of the world must. 3, DO NOT URINATE IN PUBLIC I hope they mean the dogs, and not the people. No there are lots of signs to tell people to not do their duty. Plus as you walk along streets there will be this strange smell from the night before.. 4. NO THROWING TRASH The travelers see the local people do it and follow their example. Grow up and be a good example. 5. DO NOT CUT INTO A LINE - STAND IN LINE No one is special. Obey the Queue. Stand in line, and wait your turn. Share the path or road. Move and help people to pass.

4. Further Discussion • Is kissing in public good manners? It depends. Some may consider public displays of affection somewhat rude. So you have to see if the occasion is appropriate to do it. You better not do it in some conservative Asia countries, like India. (Richard Gear's kissing of Shilpa Shetty during a stage program on AIDS causing quite a fuss in India. ) • Do you say "hi" to people even if they are strangers? Why? Why not? • Do you know the differences between “hi” and “hello”? "Hi" is normally an informal way of Greeting. The best way to greet a person is to say "Hello". Some also said “Hi” is American “Hello,” so don’t “hi” to everyone. • Do you honk your horn to people when you drive?

5. Have you ever… • Greet people with a kiss (x): British only kiss people who are close friends and relatives. • Talking loudly in public (x) • Stare at anyone in public (x): Privacy is highly regarded. • Ask a lady her age (x): It is considered impolite to ask a lady her age • Pick your nose in public (x):We are disgusted by this. If your nostrils need de-bugging, use a handkerchief. • Doing gestures such as backslapping and hugging (x): This is only done among close friends. • Spit (x): Spitting in the street is considered to be very bad mannered. • Burp in public(x): You may feel better by burping loudly after eating or drinking, but other people will not! If you can not stop a burp from bursting out, then cover your mouth with your hand and say 'excuse me' afterwards. • Pass wind in public (x):Now how can we say this politely? Let's say that you want to pass wind. What do you do? Go somewhere private and let it out. If you accidentally pass wind in company say 'pardon me'.

6. Vocabularies • Burp /打嗝 • Slurp /出聲音地吃 • Honk /按喇叭 • Horn /喇叭 • Spit /吐痰 • Litter /亂丟垃圾 • Cut into a line/插隊 • Pass wind/放屁 • Gesture/做手勢;用動作示意 • Urinate/小便 • Etiquette/禮節; 禮儀; 規矩 • Manners/禮貌; 風俗; 習慣 • Customary/習慣上; 合乎習俗的 • Handshake/握手 • Fuss/抱怨; make a fuse /大驚小怪 • Backslapping/拍背

7. Greeting Etiquettes (UK) • The Handshake A handshake is the most common form of greeting among the English and British people and is customary when you are introduced to somebody new. • The Kiss It is only when you meet friends, whom you haven't seen for a long time, that you would kiss the cheek of the opposite sex. In Britain one kiss is generally enough. • Formal greetings The usual formal greeting is a 'How do you do?' and a firm handshake, but with a lighter touch between men and women. ‘How do you do?’ is a greeting not a question and the correct response is to repeat ‘How do you do?' You say this when shaking hands with someone. First person "How do you do?"Second person " How do you do?" 'How are you?' is a question and the most common and polite response is "I am fine thank you and you?" First person "How are you?"Second person "I am fine thank you and you?" Nice to meet you – Nice to meet you too. (Often said whilst shaking hands) Delighted to meet you– Delighted to meet you too. Pleased to meet you – Pleased to meet you too. Glad to meet you - Glad to meet you too

8. References • Conversation Questions on ESL: http://iteslj.org/questions/manners.html • Hobo Travel Tips: http://www.hobotraveler.com/newstips066.php • British Life and Culture http://projectbritain.com/