Teen Dating. By : Andaru Taqisha Farras Muthia Nurmufida Rininta Permata Nariswari Vini Octaviani Puspita. What is Dating ?.
Dating is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.
The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country. The most common idea is two people trying out a relationship and exploring whether they're compatible by going out together in public as a couple, who may or may not yet be having sexual relations. This period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to engagement or marriage.
Dating as a social relationship
Social rules regarding dating vary considerably according to variables such as country, social class, religion, age, sexual orientation and gender. Behavior patterns are generally unwritten and constantly changing. There are considerable differences between social and personal values.
Each culture has particular patterns which determine such choices as whether the man asks the woman out, where people might meet, whether kissing is acceptable on a first date, the substance of conversation, who should pay for meals or entertainment.
- (source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating )
Teen dating provides a way to learn healthy communication skills with a partner. It often takes trial and error, but the Project Horizon violence prevention site explains that dating teens learn to resolve disagreements as they go through the ups and downs of a relationship. These skills are useful preparation for marriage.
Datingincreases a teenager's overall self-confidence and standing with her peers. Teens feel good when they realize they are attractive to the opposite sex. Going out with a partner reinforces the positive feelings and sense of attractiveness. This can spill over into higher self-esteem and better performance in school and other activities.
Dating teaches teenagers about compromise. A healthy relationship requires both parties to sometimes make a sacrifice. They must each give a little to meet the other person's needs. This is learned hands-on through the dating process to maintain the relationship. It's a valuable skill that can be used in adulthood in family and workplace situations.Positive sides of Dating
Teen dating teaching youngsters the importance of trust and honesty. These two things are the basis of a healthy relationship. Children's Hospital Boston explains there may be breaches of trust. This teaches the teen how to resolve problems or draw boundaries when necessary.
Dating is a social activity that gives teenagers an outlet to go to movies, dances and other enjoyable places and share the fun with a significant other. This is a good outlet that offsets some of the pressure of schoolwork and extracurricular activities.
Teenage dating is an opportunity for a young person to figure out what he is looking for in a partner. Teens learn which traits they find most attractive in others and the things that are annoying. This information is valuable in the eventual search for a marriage partner.Positive sides of Dating
Life is not perfect, and teens must learn to deal with rejection, because they will face many disappointments in adulthood. Many teen romances do not last long, and break-ups provide youngsters with experience in handling hurt and rejection. They learn to go through the grieving process and eventually move on.
Teens are in the transition from child to adult. Dating helps them to feel independent and mature. It's a step forward into "grown-up" behavior
- (source: http://www.livestrong.com/article/154840-positive-effects-of-dating-for-teenagers/)Positive sides of Dating
Teenage dating has been possible in the modern times due to modernisation and free flowing communication. As a result, it also comes with a set of negative implications. Read on to know the negative effects of teenage dating:
- (source: http://www.onlymyhealth.com/negative-effects-teenage-dating-1307094284)
defined as the physical, sexual, or psychological/emotional violence within a dating derelationship, as well as stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and may occur between a current or former dating partner. You may have heard several different words used to describe teen dating violence. Here are just a few:
About 1 in 5 women and nearly 1 in 7 men who ever experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey).
As teens develop emotionally, they are heavily influenced by their relationship experiences. Healthy relationship behaviors can have a positive effect on a teen’s emotional development. Unhealthy, abusive or violent relationships can cause short term and long term negative effects, or consequences to the developing teen. Victims of teen dating violence are more likely to do poorly in school, and report binge drinking, suicide attempts, and physical fighting. Victims may also carry the patterns of violence into future relationships.
Communicating with your partner, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect are a few ways to keep relationships healthy and non-violent. Teens receive messages about how to behave in relationships from peers, adults in their lives, and the media. All too often these examples suggest violence in a relationship is okay. Violence is never acceptable. But there are reasons why it happens.
Violence is related to certain risk factors. Risks of having unhealthy relationships increase for teens who:
- (source: http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/teen_dating_violence.html)
Teen dating violence runs across race, gender, and socioeconomic lines. Both males and females are victims, but boys and girls are abusive in different ways:
- “Teen Victim Project,” National Center for Victims of Crime, http://www.ncvc.org/tvp, (Last visited 10/5/04).
A comparison of Intimate Partner Violence rates between teens and adults reveals that teensare at higher risk of intimate partner abuse.
- Jay G. Silverman et Al, “Dating Violence Against Adolescent Girls and Associated Substance Use,Unhealthy Weight Control, Sexual Risk Behavior, Pregnancy, and Suicidality.” Journal of the AmericanMedical Association, Vol. 286, 572, 576-577, (Nov. 5, 2001).
Females ages 16-24 are more vulnerable to intimate partner violence than any other age group– at a rate almost triple the national average.
- U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence and Age of Victim, 1993-99 (Oct.2001, rev. 11/28/01).
Approximately 1 in 5 female high school students report being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.
- Jay G. Silverman, PhD; Anita Raj, PhD; Lorelei A. Mucci, MPH; and Jeanne E. Hathaway, MD, MPH, “Dating Violence Against Adolescent Girls andAssociated Substance Use, Unhealthy Weight Control, Sexual RiskBehavior, Pregnancy, and Suicidality,” Journalof the American Medical Association, Vol. 286, (No. 5, 2001)
Among female victims of intimate partner violence, a current or former boyfriend or girlfriendvictimized 94% of those between the ages of 16-19.
Between 1993 and 1999, 22% of all homicides against females ages 16-19 were committed by an intimate partner.
- Bureau of Justice Statistics Press Release, “Violence Rates Among Intimate Partners Differ Greatly According to Age,” (10/29/01).
Nearly one-half of adult sex offenders report committing their first sexual offenses prior to the age of 18.
- Ron Snipe, et Al, “Recidivism in Young Adulthood, Adolescent Sexual Offenders Grown Up,” 25 Criminal Justice & Behavior, 109, 117, (1998).
In a study of gay, lesbian, and bisexual adolescents, youths involved in same-sex dating are just as likely to experience dating violence as youths involved in opposite sex dating.
- “Prevalence of Partner Violence in Same-Sex Romantic and Sexual Relationships in a National Sample of Adolescents,” Halpern CT, Young ML, Waller MW, Martin SL, Kupper LL. Journal of Adolescent Health, Vol. 35, Issue 2, Pages 124-131, (August 2004).
- (source: http://www.clotheslineproject.org/teendatingviolencefacts.pdf )