SEXUALITY EDUCATION

1. SEXUALITY EDUCATION Grounds rules to abide by: 1. Listen to others 2. No put downs 3. Show respect for others 4. One person speaks at a time 5. Try to understand people’s point of view 6. No gossip 7. Class confidentiality 8. Teacher and student has the right to “pass” on a question if they feel uncomfortable with the content

2. GROUND RULES CONTINUED…. 9. No personal experiences, student or teacher 10. NO SLANG TERMS 11. Controversial topics not allowed in the classroom RESPECT yourself and your classmates!!!

3. THINGS YOU WILL LEARN…. • Aspects of abstinence • Relationships • Communication • STI’s/HIV/AIDS KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!

4. Questions to ponder…. As we move through this unit think about the following questions. What would your answers be? • What are my personal beliefs and values? • Am I able to stand up to my beliefs and values no matter the situation? • Am I responsible enough to face the consequences of my actions? • Do I respect myself and others? • Who am I?

5. FACT…….. A baby is 9 TIMES more likely to grow up in poverty if his/her mother is: A TEENAGER, UNMARRIED, AND DOES NOT GRADUATE FROM HIGH SCHOOL

6. Abstinence– The conscious decision to avoid harmful decisions, including sexual activity before marriage and the use of tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs.

7. Life Skills To Support Abstinence • Being involved in activities that promote self-worth • Establishing goals • Developing loving family relationships • Being assertive and using decision-making skills • Establishing relationships with trusted adults • Selecting friends who also choose abstinence • Avoiding tempting situations • Abstaining from alcohol and drugs • Selecting appropriate entertainment

8. Reasons to WaitAdvantages of Abstinence • Freedom from pregnancy • Freedom from STI’s • Freedom from financial obligations/stability • Freedom from guilt, depression, disappointment, rejection, forced decision making • Freedom TO BE in control of your future • Freedom TO accomplish life goals • Freedom TO establish greater trust in marriage • Freedom TO enjoy being a teenager!!!

9. Sexuality vs Sexual Activity Sex is who you are NOT what you do! You are being sexual right now, I can’t prevent you from being sexual! There is a HUGE difference between sexuality and sexual activity! Sexuality includes physical, intellectual, emotional, social and spiritual aspects.

10. for Good Health Risk factors = Consequences Total Health INCLUDES Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Social, Spiritual and Financial Aspects.

11. Define the 5 Pillars of Health as it Applies to Relationships • Physical • Hugs • Play games • Hold hands • Tickle • Intellectual • Share hopes and dreams • Share school plans • Set goals • Do homework together

12. Continued……… • Emotional • Listen carefully • Share feelings • Laugh together • Cry together • Understand each other • Social • Attend activities together • Plan parties • Be friends • Have fun

13. Continued……… • Spiritual • Youth groups • Go to church • Help others • Give to charity • Pray together

14. Activity: Do Actions Have Consequences? You Decide

15. Maybe you didn’t think of…… • Babies • STD’s • Emotional Trauma • Addiction • Hurt • Obsession • Jealousy • Economic Hardship • Lowering grades • Dropping out of school • Depression • Hindered long term goals Activity Recap/ Discussion

16. GOALS A result that a person aims for and works hard to achieve • What are your personal goals? • Short term – LIST 5 • Long term – LIST 2 • How do you achieve your goals? • What are some road blocks?

17. ROAD BLOCKS TO ACHIEVING GOALS

18. YARDSTICK ACTIVITY Keep your eyes on the top of the yardstick, which represents your goals in life. What happens if you look to the bottom and lose focus of your goals?

19. HOW CAN YOU STAY ON TRACK?

20. Refusal Skills and Decision Making Refusal skills – Refusing to do something that others may pressure you to do against your will 1. Give a reason for your refusal 2. Show your concern for others 3. Provide alternatives 4. Use body language to reinforce what you say 5. Take a definite action

21. HONEST or PHONYGive a true reason for your refusal! This will show the more honest emotions!

23. COMPASSION AND CAREShow concern for others in your decision!“I wouldn’t want something bad to happen to you….”

24. SPORTS OR MOVIESProvide other options instead of the popular choice.

25. MAKE IT OBVIOUSUse clear body language to get your point across!!

26. ASSERTIVE or PASSIVETaking a definite action! Let others know your decision!

27. DECISION MAKING The DECIDE Process Define the Problem Look carefully at the decision you are facing and state the issue clearly. Explore the Alternatives Make a list of all the possible alternatives for solving your problem.

28. Consider the Consequences Think through what might happen if you were to chose each alternative. Identify your Values Sometimes your values influence your decisions when you are not aware of them. Decide and Act Decide what is best for you and the others involved. Evaluate the Results How did your decision work out? how has it affected your life?

29. How can poor decision making have immediate consequences and long term consequences? How can effective decision making aid you in staying on track with your dreams and goals?

30. COMMUNICATION Communication is key for every situation you will encounter in life.

31. Activity:Life with the Wright Family

32. List/Discuss Communication Skills“Communication Skills” Worksheet

33. How is your generation hurt by the influence of social media as it relates to relationships and communication?

34. Pros and Cons? How can these sites hurt communication skills? Can they cause more problems than good? Do these hurt personal relationships? Do these make relationships too public?

35. SEXTING Distribution Of Pornography **** A joke can very quickly turn into something serious! **** How can this change your reputation? What are the school consequences? What are the LEGAL consequences?

36. Communication is an essential part of building and maintaining healthy relationships with friends, family and partners.

37. Types of Relationships • Dating • Friendship • Family • Blended, Extended Family Units • Peer Why are these important and what are the boundaries in each type?

38. DATING FISHBOWL

39. Dating Fishbowl • What are the characteristics of your perfect partner? Physical, emotional, etc? • What are the stereotypes of you gender? • How do you expect to be treated on a date? • What do you think you should wear on a date? • When do you think you should be allowed to date?

40. As you can see, there are varying opinions and views amongst men and women. How are men and women really different?

41. VERSUS WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MAN AND WOMAN? **Differences Between Man and Woman Worksheet** OR

42. Secrets of Successful Dating • Ask the person out in advance • Comment on the person’s inner qualities • Plan dates prior to time • Arrive on time and show respect to your date’s parent • Be appreciative, be polite, be considerate • Maintain YOUR priorities • Dress in an appropriate manner • Do not talk about past relationships • Guard yourself against unrealistic expectations • Have fun and relax!

43. Purposes Get to know ourselves and others Develop healthy social relationships and communication skills Learn responsibility and respect Choose a marriage partner more wisely Responsibilities Being on time Deciding on the cost Deciding on the activity Being home on time Showing responsibility to parents Showing and demanding mutual respect Dating: Purposes and Responsibilities

44. Putting Yourself in the Right Situation • Where are you? • Who are you with? • What are you doing? • What are the temptations? • Have clear boundaries been set? • Do you understand/respect each other? • Are you comfortable?

45. Steps of Intimacy Activity Discuss each Step of Intimacy and the potential physical consequences (communicable diseases, STIs, HIV/AIDS) and emotional consequences (rejection, guilt, shame, loss of self-esteem, etc.) of each step. Make a personal list from #1 to #10. Universal Steps of Intimacy: • French Kiss • Eye to Body • Voice to Voice • Touching Below Waist • Heavy Petting • Hand to Waist • Eye to Eye • Hand to Shoulder • Face to Face and/or Goodnight Kiss • Hand to Head • Necking • Hand to Hand • Hand to Body • Petting

46. The further you are willing to go with partner #1, the further you will go with partner #2.

47. Writing Assignment • 3 paragraphs • What is your perfect date from beginning to end? • Write in he/she language, not personal names. Will be read out loud! • Did a male or female write this? How can you differentiate?

48. Sexual Harassment Consists of any physical or verbal action or gestures of a sexual nature directed at another person or persons which result in the recipients feeling threatened, violated, powerless, abused, or intimidated

49. Examples of Sexual Harassment • Unwanted/uninvited touching • Verbal insults about the body • Comments, gestures or actions of a sexual nature • Invitation for any form of sexual behavior • Sexual suggestions • Sexual threats or intimidation • Telling crude/vulgar/inappropriate jokes • References to a prior event of a sexual nature • Demand for a sexual relationship

50. Flirting Wanted and welcome Legal Both parties enjoy it Mutual/both involved Non-offensive Non-intimidating Sexual Harassment Unwanted and unwelcome Illegal One party has power over the other Coercive/ one sided Offensive Intimidating Flirting vs. Sexual HarassmentDo not cross the line!