COUNSELLING GUIDELINES FOR PARENTS. “ a stage in life when the slightest turn towards the wrong will spoil character” Baba. WORLD HEALTH ORGANISATION Adolescence . The age span of 10-19 years in the life of a human being…… Youth The age span of 15-24
WORLD HEALTH ORGANISATION
The age span of 10-19 years in the life of a human being……
The age span of 15-24
in the life of a human being…..
Adult?? Child? ? Who am I???
Resentment of Authority
Disturbing/non co operative behaviour
“Counselling is a process that leads to
healing, growth and change.’’
LISTENING AND RESPONDING
Mehrabian -communication theory
What’s wrong with you?
Why have you done this?
You are such a bad student.careless fellow!
You should be ashamed of yourself!
I am disappointed in you.
I did not expect this of YOU.
Oh! , that’s really bad! Poor thing! You can only be
a street vendor if you don’t study
1.Dont advice, preach, moralise, compare
2. Avoid ‘have to’, ‘should/should not’, ‘must /must not’ etc
Avoid ‘why’ question as far as possible
No LOVE or LAW
Too much anuraga
“Do all household work as acts of worship for Him: that is more fruitful than hours of meditation,hours gained by entrusting this precious work to paid helpers.”
Recent structural MRI studies have demonstrated that the brain undergoes considerable development during adolescence.
“Education is for life, not for a living” Baba
Aware of feelings/emotions
Coping with emotions
Understanding others emotions
“Love is the undercurrent of human life;Man will be able to manifest his innate divinity only when he develops love within” Baba
“Sow a seed of good thought
Reap aharvest of good action
Sow a seed of good action
Reap a harvest of good habit
Sow a seed of good habit
Reap a harvest of good character
Sow a seed of good character
Reap a harvest of good destiny”
The 5 techniques
The Spiritual Tool Box
used IN BAL VIKAS
1 Spouse Bond
Relationship Husband & Wife
Empowerment of Family Members
3 Family Time
Activities & Customs
Mode of communication within the family
5 Awareness & Connectivity
Spiritual Belief, Network of
Friends & Relatives
“HOME IS THE DWELLING PLACE OF RIGHT CONDUCT .
A HOME IS A HOME IF BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE
HONOURED AND RESPECTED WITHIN IT.SUCH A HOME
IS THE HAVEN OF PROSPERITY AND PEACE.”Baba
“PARENTS CAN IMPART ELEMENTS OF THEIR CULTURE AND VALUES WHEN THEY SHARE
PRIME FAMILY TIME WITH CHILDREN.” Baba
BAD TIMES ARE TESTING TIMES (coping skills)
“50% OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IS LISTENING.
IF YOU GIVE AN EAR TO OTHERS ,THEN OTHERS WILL GIVE AN EAR TO YOU.”
Cultural activities, functions, festivals etc sense of oneness, and belonging, connectivity-
SELF AWARENESS, SPIRITUAL ACTIVITIES,
PRAYER AND DEVOTION
Consoling words, and Compassionate acts”
(Routine and Boundaries)
“Discipline is needed in every aspect to maintain the right course of life.”
No rules land
You are stupid
You are foolish
You are so slow
The primary responsibility of a parent is to mould the character of the child.” Baba
“BE, DO ,AND THEN TELL”
“Parents must feel that they are servants appointed by the Lord to tend the little souls that are born in their households, as the gardener tends the trees in the garden of the Master.”