Why Men Push Away Their Perfect Girl

1. Why Men Push Away Their Perfect Girl https://massmerge.com/blogs/662/300/why-men-push-away-their-perfect-girl Why Men Pull Away From Their Ideal Woman When Holly met Colin three years ago , she thought they were perfect together . They shared the same light-hearted sense of humor and loved the exact same movies and TV programs . They both wanted to begin a family in the next couple of years . Even their favorite childhood story was the same - The Velveteen Rabbit - a funny coincidence that Colin always pointed out when people asked about how they met . So when Colin suddenly left Holly one stormy October day, she felt totally blindsided. "I just don't understand what changed how he felt ," she sobbed "He had even told me that he'd made a checklist when he was a teenager of the important things he desired in a partner , and that I met his criteria and more . Not only that, just last month he was talking about singing classes so he could serenade me at our wedding." Unfortunately , this story is all too common . According to dating and relationship expert Clayton Max, it's not unusual for a guy to retreat from a partner who seems perfect for him . "What most women do not understand ," Max said "is it does not matter how 'perfect' a woman is for a man 'on paper '. She can check every box on his list, but he'll still have moments of panic when it comes to taking the relationship deeper " It's because despite taking pride in how logical and reasonable they are , Max states , "Males don't select a woman based on the person who is the most sensible choice for them. Instead , they pick the person that makes them FEEL certain things." What 'things' do men need to feel? According to Max, guys are instinctively more frightened of commitment than womenare , yet their brains are pre-wired with a mechanism that overrides this worry with the right woman . This mechanism is called The Infatuation Impulse , and when it's working , it actually closes down the part of his brain that feels uncertain . All of a sudden his thoughts of doubt are released , he feels absolutely sure about the relationship , and he's ready to move mountains to be with her. When choosing between a partner who makes logical sense for him or one who 's activated his primal infatuation reaction , guys will always choose the one who 's triggered his infatuation reaction one hundred percent of the time . So what are Max's suggestions for a woman who wants a man to commit more deeply to her? 1. Take things the way the are A major error women make, is wishing guys were different than they are. But a guy can no more change these feelings of panic he has about long-term commitment than a woman can control her instincts toward commitment . In reality , when he has a feeling of being misunderstood for not being sure , it adds to the anxiety and shame he secretly feels , making him more likely to leave sooner rather than later . When you accept that this is simply the way men aredesigned , and resist the urge to pressure him, it creates you space to focus on what DOES make him certain - activating his infatuation impulse . 2. Don't attempt to "convince " him

2. Many women make the mistake of attempting to be a guy's 'perfect girl' , by showering him with all the 'sweetheart ' traits , such as being a great listener, being loyal, attentive, generous, and seductive . They'll list out all the reasons they're a good match , or they'll try to determine what qualities he desires in a partner , so they can display them when he's around. In either case , they're trying to appeal to his 'logical brain ', which in this case is not running the show . Women tend to do this over and over , despite the fact that this approach almost never succeeds , leaving them let down , and upset when the guy winds up picking someone who has virtually none of the qualities he states he desires . 3. Concentrate on activating his infatuation reaction The only way of getting a man to commit with his entire heart, so he's absolutely confident that she is the one for him, is to activate his infatuation instinct . A man 's infatuation impulse is turned on by a few very specific characteristics in a woman . Traits like intrigue , boundaries, and uncertainty , which stir a feeling of exhilaration and an urge to follow her . Although most women will attempt to show a man how committed they are to him hoping that this is going to make him feel safe enough to give her his heart, this generally contributes EVEN MORE to the pressure weighing him down , since at this stage , he's even more afraid of losing his freedom than losing her. For more information on exactly how to activate a man's infatuation instinct , including exact scripts that do exactly that, watch this free video presentation. In it, you'll learn about the 'emotional tripwire', which places a guy in infatuation mode, without him realizing why. Watch it now while it's still available