
Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits. Are you able to change important areas of your life? Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope? Do you prioritize your time and energy well? How often do you feel bullied by others?
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Are you able to change important areas of your life?
Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope?
Do you prioritize your time and energy well?
How often do you feel bullied by others?
Do you understand others ... and vice versa?
What are your unique talents? Are they important?
Does your life often feel “out of balance”?
What does “success” mean to you?
(family, friends, community, hobby, career, faith)
What is required to obtain that success?
Darrell Velegol
Penn State University
velegol@psu.edu
started 21 Oct 1999
last edited 21 Jan 2003
http://www.personal.psu.edu/faculty/d/x/dxv9/7Habits.ppt
Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the bridge keeping an eye on all activities.
Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “Light, bearing on the starboard bow.”
“Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain called out.
Lookout replied, “Steady, captain,” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course with that ship.
The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you to change course 20 degrees.”
Back came a signal, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.”
The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.”
“I’m a seaman second class,” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.”
By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees.”
Back came the flashing light, “I’m a lighthouse.”
We changed course.
Will you crash against the principles ... or change course?
Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
5
Synergize
6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
4
Independence
3
1st things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
Be Proactive
2
End in mind
Dependence
The 7 Habits ... an overview.habit = knowledge
+ skill
+ desire
(forward acting, opportunity-focused, clear)
I will read one book per month in my field.
I will exercise and attend Weight Watchers weekly.
I will cook dinners for my wife every Monday.
the gap = our choice
response
stimulus
circle of
no concern
circle
of
influence
Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
concern
reactive
(reverse acting, problem-bound, vague)
I am not as smart as others in this company.
People think I’m too heavy.
I wish our Monday evenings were better.
Habit 1: Be proactive.Not until you can say
I am what I am today
because of the choices I
made yesterday.
... can you say
I choose otherwise.
Less than one year of formal education.
Ran for state legislature ... lost.
Bought a store to make a living ... ended up with a huge debt.
Interested in a girl ... she died.
Interested in another girl ... she dumped him.
Served four successive terms in the state general assembly.
Became a lawyer.
Engaged to be married ... engagement broke ... eventually got married.
Had a son
... then another who died
... then another who died ...
then another.
Ran for Congress ... and lost ...
and again, and lost ...
and again, and lost ...
... then elected
...but was too unpopular to be re-elected.
Became one of the leading lawyers in his state.
Ran for Senate .. and lost.
Ran for President ... and won.
Presided successfully over a war.
Re-elected President.
Innovate or Die, Jack Matson
1 outside of your circle of influence
2 failure of planning
3 failure of action
more failures
but more
successes!
Write your “failure resume”.
Did you risk time, energy, money, or reputation?
Why did you fail (see reasons above)?
The law of the farm: You reap what you sow.
translated “sacrifice”
vision = what you want to see
mission = immediate next step(s)
Both tend to focus priorities.
A prestigious job? A girlfriend or boyfriend? Money?
VISION
A “shining city on a hill” …
human dignity and virtue. You have a purpose. You have value as a human.
hope and freedom. You can change the world.
MISSION
acquire
advance
appreciate
apprentice
build
communicate
construct
counsel
delight
educate
elect
engineer
enlighten
entertain
finance
foster
inspire
launch
master
motivate
nurture
organize
praise
speak
travel
venture
volunteer
write
Buzzwords for a vision or missionChemical engineering ... and other passions
chemical production
cosmetics
electronics
energy
environment
food
management
medicine
patent research-law
petroleum
pharmaceuticals
regulation
research
wastewater
animal rights
arts-movies-opera
cancer
child care and development
education
environment
faith
homeless and poor
law
national parks
Penn State University
politics and government
rape victims
travel
http://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm
urgent
not urgent
I: necessity
crises
deadlines“maintaining”
(25 - 25)
II: opportunity
PC activities
planning & prevention
commitment
(65-15)
important
IV
trivia
busy work
time wasters
(5-5)
III
interruptions
some meetings
some reports
(5-55)
not important
Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV?) ...
How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot?
How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour?
Aesop’s fable
“The Goose and the Golden Egg”
“A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess a goose that laid a golden egg every day. Lucky though they were, they soon began to think they were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill it in order to secure the whole store of precious metal at once.
But when they cut it open they found it was just like any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the daily addition to their wealth.”
Production (things you are “paid” for)
designing a chemical process
wiring a home
doing a dance
enjoying a healthy body
having great kids
Production Capability (no “pay”!)
studying chemical engineering
apprenticing as an electrician
practicing dance
exercising
preparing evening dinners, reading to kids
1 Identify big rocks (q2).
2 Schedule these FIRST!
3 Surround with other.
What is the lesson?
Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
5
Synergize
6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
4
Independence
3
1st things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
Be Proactive
2
End in mind
Dependence
The 7 Habits ... moving to interdependence(abundance mentality;
get P and PC)
lose-win
(you get hard
feelings)
consideration
lose-lose
(never pays)
win-lose
(other person gets hard
feeling)
courage
Habit 4: Think win-win. Are there times when paradigms others than “win-win” are appropriate?
How do you develop “courage”? “Consideration”? Emotional bank account?
What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your “boundaries”?
L = “be understood”
h = “understand”
Habit 5: First understand ... then be understood.4 tips for dealing with people
Do not criticize, condemn, or complain.
Express sincere appreciation.
Give them “emotional air” and learn their story.
Focus on their interests (know your best alternative coming in).
Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People
Fisher & Ury, Getting to Yes
“Animal school”
Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something
heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to administer, all animals took all the subjects.
In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best overall and winning valedictorian.
What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others?
What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary?
How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy? (Carnegie)
David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II
(similar to Myers-Briggs)
4 categories
I-E introvert (reserved) - extrovert (expressive)
S-N sensory (observant) - intuitive (conceptual)
T-F thinking - feeling
P-J perceiving (probing) - judging (critiquing)
ARTISANS (observant, probing)
ESTP promoter (Roosevelt, Madonna)
ISTP crafter (Bruce Lee, Earhart)
ESFP performer (Elvis, Reagan)
ISFP composer (Carson, Streisand)
GUARDIANS (observant, critiquing)
ESTJ supervisor (Colin Powell)
ISTJ inspector (Truman)
ESFJ provider (G Washington)
ISFJ protector (Mother Teresa)
IDEALISTS (intuitive, feeling)
ENFJ teacher (Gorbachev, Billy Graham)
INFJ counselor (Gandhi, E Roosevelt)
ENFP champion
INFP healer (Albert Schweitzer)
RATIONALS (intuitive, thinking)
ENTJ fieldmarshall (Gates, Greenspan)
INTJ mastermind (D Eisenhower, Rand)
ENTP inventor (Disney, Edison)
INTP architect (Einstein, Darwin)
Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
5
Synergize
6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
4
Independence
3
1st things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
Be Proactive
2
End in mind
Dependence
The 7 Habits ... one more stepfamily, friends, service
(notes, phone calls, emails, visits)
Spiritual
battle of good versus evil
(atheism, Christianity, Hinduism,
Islam, Judaism)
Mental
reading, journaling, discussing,
seminars, meetings
Physical
endurance, strength, flexibility,
sleep, eating
Habit 7: Sharpen the saw. When will YOU sharpen your saw?
What measures will you use in each category?
Establish your “big rocks” – the important changes, not just the urgent.
1 Decide that you CAN in fact change your life.
2 Get away one weekend with a pen and pad of paper.
Write down what you HOPE for in life, and what you feel called towards (e.g., family, work, opera).
If you don’t know … talk with friends or family.
If you don’t know … try things! Athletics, service, camping, animal rights, politics, research.
If you don’t know … read biographies and newspapers.
If you don’t know … look at http://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm.
If you don’t know … is finishing your ChE degree your current “end”?
Plan toward your vision.
3 Record how you spend a typical week … then decide how well it matches your vision.
Use a daily planner (e.g., a date book, a Palm) to plan by weeks, focusing on today.
If in a rut, find a small victory and win it.
Sharpen the saw.
mental: Learn a hobby (e.g., chess, golf, piano), or about people (Mars & Venus, Dale Carnegie)
physical: Exercise, eat right, sleep.
social: Find friends with whom you can share your deepest struggles, biggest triumphs,
most guarded weaknesses and fears.
spiritual: Good versus evil questions are the biggest you’ll face.
“Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits!”
Professor Darrell Velegol will hold a workshop based on Stephen Covey’s best-selling book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. This interactive workshop will help you think about some big questions in life …
Are you able to change important areas of your life: work, relationships, balance?
Are you just living day to day, or toward a vision? What does “success” mean to you?
Do you prioritize your time and energy well?
How often do you feel taken advantage of by others? Can you also be a “winner”?
Do you know how to work well in teams? How to listen to others? How to be heard?
What are your unique talents? Are they important?
Does your life often feel “out of balance”?
Please join us in exploring these and other questions. YOU will be one of the leaders of tomorrow – at work, in your community, in your home. Technical skills are critical, but not enough! Whatever your level – sophomore, junior, senior, grad student – join us and learn how to champion change around you.