Way of the Peaceful Warrior By: Paul Renouf Author: Dan Millman
Overview of the Book • Main Characters • Dan Millman – junior in college, world champion gymnast • Socrates – gas station attendant, spiritual teacher • Where are you? …. HERE • What time is it? …. NOW. • What are you? …. THIS MOMENT.
Relation to Group Dynamics • Leadership and power • Tuckman’s 5 stages of group development • Conflict resolution • Feedback is a very important quality of a leader. • The Energy Bus – Driving your own bus.
Feedback • The good, the bad, and the ugly. • Feedback is important for teams to work more effectively together. • In Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Socrates gives a lot of feedback, but it was not always a positive . • “A warrior acts; only a fool reacts” • Sometimes the negative, or corrective feedback is better than no feedback.
Conflict Resolution • In Way of the Peaceful Warrior, the main conflict is Dan’s mind. Socrates explains “You must cut yourself free from your illusions.” • Resolving conflict has a few steps to it: • Step 1: Prepare for Resolution • Acknowledge the conflict, discuss the impact • Step 2: Understand the Situation • Clarify positions • Step 3: Reach Agreement
Leadership • “Develop the wisdom to use the right leverage at the right time”
Driving Your Own Bus • “ A warrior acts; only a fool reacts” • “You control you. Master you.” • “Others love to thrust limitations on us, they only become true if we accept them”
Tuckman’s Theory • Forming • Dan and Socrates meet, forming a team. • Storming • Dan gets angry with Socrates feedback, and leadership style which creates constant resistance and confusion. • Norming • Dan starts to realize that Socrates is very wise, and is helping Dan become a peaceful warrior. • Performing • Socrates and Dan have a great relationship and Dan is starting to retain the life lessons taught by Socrates and become a peaceful warrior. • Adjourning • The final realization of all that Dan had learning from Socrates.
How does this relate to my family? • Leadership – leverage • Tuckman’s 5 stages of group development • Conflict Resolution • Feedback • Controlling your own life
Quotes • “There are no ordinary moments” • “A Warrior acts; only a fool reacts.” • “If you don’t get what you want, you suffer. If you get what you want, you suffer.” • “Take out the trash. Clear your mind of everything you don’t need.” • “Knowledge is not the same as wisdom. Knowledge is knowing – wisdom is doing.” • A warrior is 'happy without reason'. Dan comes to the sad realization that his life has been about achieving happiness through victory, but even as a 'winner' he experiences the same common unhappiness of most people.