Couples Building Rock Solid Marriages. “The Whole, Complete, Mature Person” The Body Part Series December 19, 2010. We have looked at having. Ears to hear Eyes to see Nose to know Face as identity Brain and mind Hands and arms and feet to do Tongue to speak Heart to respond
“The Whole, Complete, Mature Person”
The Body Part Series
December 19, 2010
At your tables-----
If I were to ask, “How’s your whole person?”, what would I be talking about?
What makes a person “Whole”?
Who is the most “whole, complete” person you have ever known and why?
In what areas of your marriage are you whole as a couple, and in what areas are you not?
2. Exhibits a sense of personal well-being, security, and peace thru the indwelling of the H.S., and the work of Christ in everyday life.
3. Combines faith and life, integrating work, family, social relationships, thought life and habits.
4. Seeks spiritual growth through study, reflection, prayer, discussion with others.
5. Seeks to be part of a community of believers who give witness to their faith and support and nourish one another.
6. Holds relationship-affirming values of faithfulness, including commitment to the “One Anothers”, rather than nursing the disease of “immature pigitis”A Whole Faith
1. Respects and Seeks after God
Prov 31:30; compared to a wife who does not: 5:6
2. Is Wise 14:1; 31:26; compared to an unwise wife 9:13;11:22
3. Honors her husband 12:4;31:11-12
compared to one who does not 12:4;19:13
4. Is gracious 11:6
compared to one who is ungracious 21:9;21:19
5. Faithful to her husband 31:10-13;31:3
6. Takes care of her home and her family, conducts business and works hard and diligently. See all of Prov 31
7. Loves her own husband Titus 2:4
8. Is apartnerGen 2:18
Eph 4:32; Col 3:13
2. A Servant and loves his wife sacrificially Ephesians 5:25
3. Hard-working 12:11;27:23-27
4. Truthful 12:17,19;29:24
5. Exercises Self Control 12:15;16:32
6. Gentle Tongue 12:18;15:14;
7. Generous 14:21;28:27
8. Willing to be corrected and listens 12:15;15:12,31-32;28:13;29:1
9. Man of integrity 19:1;20:7
10. Faithful and reliable 17:17;29:3
11. Forgiving 19:11
12. Willing to Admit he is wrong 28:13
13. Humble 15:25,33;16:18-19; 18:12
14. Not contentious, peacemaker 17:1;18:1,19
15. Has control of his temper 14:29;16:32;17:27;29:11
16. Avoids Excesses 20:1;23:20-21,29-35
17. Concerned for others, especially the poor and repressed 29:7
18. Fears God and is obedient 13:13;14:26;16:20;28:25;32:30
19. Not jealous 27:4
20. Has a positive outlook on life 15:15;17:22;18:14Husbands, think about these characteristics of “wholeness” mostly from Proverbs
1. You are a horizontal couple, integrating the vertical silos of your lives into the marriage, i.e., work, home, finances, parents, children…with unity and joint agreements…
2. You increasingly understand God’s plan and purpose for your marriage, take dead aim at it with energy, and KEEP THE MAIN THING THE MAIN THING as you write your life and legacy, page by page. Colossians 3: 8-10; 12-14; Jeremiah 29:11-12
3. You are more and more stable in your faith, walk and ways. Eph 4:12-16
4. You are better day after day at being still and quiet, worshipping, praying and having an attitude of gentleness, honor and forgiveness towards each other. Psalm 4:4-5; 46:10; 1 Peter 3:7; Col 3:16
5. You increasingly understand and appreciate the difference between legalism, liberty and responsibility. 1 Cor 8; Romans 14
6. You look for God’s hand in your marriage--past and future, and seek His face more and more. You accept His provision of your spouse, and re-commit to each other everyday. Nehemiah 1; 2 Chronicles 7:14; Proverbs 3:5-8
7. You more and more as a couple realize you don’t have the whole story, don’t know everything, don’t have, or have to have, a ready solution to every problem, and rely on each other, and the Lord for help through prayer, and work as a team. 1 Cor 13:9-13
8. You are as a couple becoming more and more interested in wisdom from above rather than hanging onto every piece of wisdom from the world. You are more and more interested in serving others outside yourselves. James 3:13-17
9. You are increasingly concerned with what you are full of---self (pigitis), substances, or the Spirit of God. Eph 5:15-21; Eph 4: 17-31; Gal 5:25
10. The two of you have a more and more accurate view of yourself and each other as a sinner saved by grace through faith, as well as recognizing the need for continual confession and repentance. You have a better and better understanding of what the Lord desires of you, how much God loves you through Christ. Psalm 51; 1 John 1:9
oversubscribed, no margin present,
How can we get started toward whole life
Share your lists…..couple, husband, wife marks of wholeness
Pick a few wholeness areas that seem the most important to you as a person and as a couple and get to work.
Read the article Brian will post this week along with the lesson.
Have a fabulous Christmas and New Year 2011