Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

1. PATH to LOVE Dating Agency Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

2. what is mentoring? “Mentoring is to support and encourage people to manage their own learning in order that they may maximise their potential, develop their skills, improve their performance and become the person they want to be” (Eric Parsloe) • It’s all about trust • High degree of trust and mutual regard • Mentee is helped to realise his or her potential • The mentor learns and develops through the process Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

3. mentor v manager • Managers are concerned with the objectives of both team and organisation • Mentors help your mentee to learn within the context of a supportive relationship Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

4. find your perfect partner • What skills or characteristics would you look for in a mentor? • When finding mentors for placement students – what do you advise your employers? • Opportunities for developing staff • Previous placement students and graduates • Don’t just think manager! Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

5. toxic mentor (Clutterbuck) • You know better than the mentee what's in his or her interest •  Be determined to share your wisdom with them - •  Decide what you and the mentee will talk about and when; change dates and themes frequently to stop complacency •  Do most of the talking •  Highlight how trivial their concerns are compared to the weighty issues you have to deal with •  Remind the mentee how fortunate s/he is to have your undivided attention •  Never show nor admit any personal weaknesses •  Never ask them what they should expect of you • Never, never admit that this could be a learning experience for you, too Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

6. find your perfect partner • What would you expect the mentee to contribute to the relationship? Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

7. toxic mentee (Clutterbuck) • Bring a long shopping list of things you want the mentor to do for you • Expect the mentor to be available for you, whenever you want them • Regard the mentor as your prime source of gossip to pass on • Expect the mentor always to have the answer • Expect the mentor to decide when to meet and what to talk about • Boast about the relationship to your colleagues at every opportunity • Never challenge what the mentor says - s/he is paid to know best • Blame the mentor whenever advice doesn't work out • Enjoy the opportunity to have a good moan or whinge Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

8. why use a mentee / mentor matching service? • Where might you find your perfect partner? • Managed structure – bringing people together • Face to face but maybe something else to help build rapport • Build rapport - very important – need to be ready to share some of yourself Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

9. preparing for your first date • Have a clear idea of what they are looking for • -evaluate own skills, aspirations, likes and dislikes • Know what to say about themselves • -Strengths and weaknesses • SMART Goals Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

10. THE first date • Communicate – etiquette • Positive attitude • Active listening • Questions, questions Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

11. dating skills NON-DIRECTIVE Listening to understand Reflecting Paraphrasing Summarising Asking Questions to raise awareness Making Suggestions Giving Feedback Offering Guidance Giving Advice Instructing Telling DIRECTIVE (Myles Downey) Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

12. THE first date • Communicate – etiquette • Positive attitude • Active listening • Questions, questions Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

13. Keeping the ‘fire’ burning! • Invest time in learning about the mentor’s organization and their professional roles  • Honour commitments made to the mentor and respect the basic privacy and confidentiality inherent in the communication that occurs within the relationship.  • Express your appreciation for you mentor’s time, information, counsel, and sharing of opportunities with you Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

14. Keeping the ‘fire’ burning!  • Actively request information and counsel from the mentor on a periodic basis  • Accept that the relationship maybe temporary  • Invite your mentor to a campus event or activity  • Dress professionally and appropriately for all meetings with your mentor Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

15. why we looove mentoring Mentee Gains • Career advancement – • sponsorship, exposure, visibility, coaching, protection and challenge, more promotions, higher salaries, more job satisfaction, reduced turnover Psychosocial support – friendship, confirmation, acceptance, confidence building and counseling (Allen et al., 2004; Clutterbuck, 2004; Klasen & Clutterbuck, 2002; Kram, 1985; Wang et al., 2008).… Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

16. why we looove mentoring Mentor Gains • Career revitalisation, • Ability to reflect, • Intellectual challenge, • Increased interpersonal skills, • Social recognition from peers and managers, and • Personal satisfaction • (Clutterbuck, 2004; Young & Perrewe, 2000) Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

17. why we looove mentoring Can you afford not to get involved in mentoring? • Mentoring for your students • Mentoring for your graduates/alumni • Mentoring for yourself and your colleagues – colleges, universities, companies, Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

18. PATH to LOVE Dating Agency Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others