Body Language In Social Settings

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4. Most people have on certain our space or portable ‘our bubble’ around their bodies that TIAZI4 claim as their personm space.

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6. American anthropologist cdward Hall was one of the pioneers in ’/ the stvdig of man's spatiai needs i and in the eariig Moos, he coined 1 the word 'proxennics', from «~ e i 'proxinnit«4' or nearness.

7. He found that people's territorial responses are primitive, deepln rooted and to an extent, predictable (it gov know what to look tori.

8. ZIINE DISTANCES Intimate <15-4scm> Personal ((1.45 — i.22m) §@@fig][| li.28=-will [PlllAiflfi@ A>33lfiIIiA

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10. THE INTIMATE ZllNE is between 6 and 18 inches (15 - 45 cm). of all the zone distances, this is by far the most important, as it is this zone that a person guards as if it were his own property.

11. llnly those who are emotionally close to us are permitted to enter. These include lovers, parents, spouse, children close friends, relatives and pets.

12. There is a suh-zone that extends up to ll inches (l5cm) from the body that can he entered only during intimate physical contact. This is the close Intimate Zone.

13. THE PERSONAL ZllNE is between 18 inches and 48 inches (0.46 - 1.22 m). This is the distance that we stand from others at cocktail parties, office parties, social functions and friendly gatherings.

14. THE SOCIAL ZONE is between 4 and I2 feet (1.22 - 3.00 m). We stand at this distance from strangers, the plumber or carpenter doing repairs around our home, the postman, the local shopkeeper, the new employee at work and people whom we don't know very well.

15. THE PUBLIC ZONE is overl2 feet (> 3.0m). Whenever we address a large group of people, this is the comfortable distance at which we choose to stand.

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17. of course, all these zones are invisible to us and to others, but that doesnt malae them anl/3 less real

18. Few of us are comfortable in a crowded subwalg train or elevator, where we are forced into an intimate distance with people we don't know.

19. in those cases, we usuallg look straight ahead and avoid making ege OOTITOOT.

20. Also, as strangers edge into our personal space, we will often lean or move awag from them in an attempt to create an acceptable distance.

21. Above all else, space ‘ can varg depending ~. ~“ on the amount of trust in a relationshlp — the smaller the distance, the higher the level of trust.

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23. As the relationships develop and trust is formed, both parties mag subconsciouslg decrease the distance to the

24. when people are not aware of these zones and the meanings attached to them, unintentional violations mag occur, resulting in discomfort and distrust ‘~. _I. R.T’~/

25. I / . I ' l , l ' -" -v 1, . I ‘ I Y I’ N (O l l‘ y/ f ,1, At times. a competitor mag purposefullg stand too close to make the other partlg feel self-conscious or uncomfortable.

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27. You then trg to restore the proper distance bg withdrawing and retreating

28. You mag look awag or pull back to create space,

29. tuck in gour chin toward gour chest in an instinctive move of protection,

30. You then trg to restore the proper distance bg wlthdrawlng and retreating. YOU tViOlg LOOK OWO. lg OY PUN bOOi< TO OYOOTO SPOOO. Tl. /OK ili I/ JOW Oi’lli TOWOI’d lgOUY Oi’OST ifi Olli lliSTiliOTiVO VYIOVO OT PYOTOOTIOIL step behind a barrier (desk, chair, or table),

31. You then trg to restore the proper distance bg withdrawing and retreating. YOU ll/ iOlg LOOK OWOJg OY PUN DOOK TO OYOOTO SPOOO. 5% tuck in gour chin toward gour chest - in an instinctive move of protection, .46? . L.- step behind a barrier (desk, chair, or table), A L or even rub gour neck so that gour elbow protrudes sharplg toward the invader.

32. This shows that proximitg is a powerful nonverbal force and that most people need to increase their sensitivitg in using it. / ,2;

33. if gou want people to feel comfortable around gov, the golden rule is - KEEP YOUR DISTANCE

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35. . Qt: . sguare tables are ideal for short, direct conversations. ‘VI

36. Round tables give evergone seated an egual amount of power and prominence.

37. Rectangular tables enable people to have their own edges, egual space, and evergone at the table can take a stance on a particular subject, although those at the shorter sides (the head) of the table are in a dominant position.

38. If‘; I’ where gou sit in relation to other people is an effective wag of obtaining co-operation from them.

39. therefore, before gou seat gourself or direct people where gou want them to sit, think about the outcome gou want to have as a result of the people ' interacting.

40. RELAXEO SETTINO sitting with the corner of a rectangular table between gou and another person encourages relaxed, friendlg conversation.

41. SITI-Ifig WITI/ l . table ben ' encourages lt diffuses tension and promotes a positive attitude.

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43. /~ TVIIOTOOWIOY OI’ TI’O dOSI4 SOTVOS OSTO SUbTIO bO. YYIOY, Ifi OOSO IT'S l‘iOOdOd. . .

44. subtte barrier in case it's needed. ’ d ‘this position also denotes an even division of space with both people on an ea/ al fooling

45. AHAHA (t , COOPERATINC when gou work on a task with another person, or if gou find that gou and someone else think along the same lines, goure more than likelg to find gourselves sitting side bg side.

46. .. .v"" -‘T. 7 I . /'3, ‘this position enab a ‘- IOS lgOUTO IOOIQ OOSIIIg OT UIOUY POTTHOY. , — 44, I

47. You can also reflect the other persons behaviour from this close position.

48. W‘YOfi IgOU IfiTYOdUOO O TI’ITd POYSOTI TO TI(O OOOPOYOITTIQ POSIITOTII TI’O POSITION III WI/ iOI( IgOU PIOOO IgOUTSOI‘I’ Ifi TOIOITOTI TO TI’O OTIAOT TWO dOTOTIYiIfiOS PIOW OVOYlgOfiO OT TI’iO TObIO IS POTOOIVOO.

49. bg sitting next to the first person in the cooperating position, or at his side with the corner of the table between gov, gou're showing the new person that gou and the first person are aligned

50. From this position gou can speak and ask questions of the third person on the first person's behalf.