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protecting your family s soul and safety online

Protecting Your Family’s Soul and Safety Online

Ernest Staats

Technology Director

MS Information Assurance, CISSP, MCSE, CNA, CWNA, CCNA, Security+, I-Net+, Network+, Server+, A+

Resources available @


Golden Rules

Cyber Predators

Factors That Increase Risk Online

Cyber Bullying

Identity Theft

Securing Your Online Connections

Social Networking

What Is Posted About Your Family Online

Common Chat Terms to Know

Bypass Internet Filters


golden rules for parents
Golden Rules for Parents

Keep Internet in public space as much as possible

Spend “cybertime” with your child

Teach Internet rules & consequences—parent your values online

Limit time—keep kids busy beyond screens

Talk to your child about what they are doing

Stay involved

golden rules to teach
Golden Rules to Teach

Rules from “real” life apply: courtesy, kindness, modesty, dignity, respect for the law and for others, etc.

Don’t talk to strangers

Keep your private information private

Never agree to meet an online friend without your parents

There are no guarantees that what you say or post on the Internet is private

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Golden Rules to Teach

Information (including photos, videos, etc.) posted on the Internet can last forever

Tell your parents if you encounter something uncomfortable

Don’t reply to unknown screen names on IM

Never open e-mail from strangers or click on any attachments

Find the “good” online – good friends, good Web sites, good games – and enjoy

cyber predators
Cyber Predators



Make contact- that is their goal

MySpace the worry. Easily tracked

cyber predators statistics
Cyber Predators Statistics

“…A child goes missing every 40 seconds in the U.S, over 2,100 per day” (OJJDP)

In 2005 662,196 children were reported lost, runaway, or kidnapped (ncmec)

2/3 of all missing children reports were for youths aged 15-17 (ncmec)

2/5 missing children ages 15-17 are abducted due to Internet activity (ICAC)

Do the math--over 2 million teens age 15-17 are abducted due to Internet activity

befriending techniques
Befriending Techniques

Chat room, IM, networking sites, blogs

Portrays same age, same likes, same dislikes

Portrays age-typical awkwardness

Begins to share some secrets


Telephone (which can be faked)

Webcamming (which can be faked)

Verbal chat on Internet (which can be faked)

Are patient when developing a relationship

six steps to luring
Six Steps to Luring

Based loosely on the “Missing Game” available online at

Just like you – befriending offer attention and affection

Develops trust –sympathizes, while reinforcing feelings of alienation

Establishes secrecy -- obtain incriminating evidence

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Six Steps to Luring

Erodes barriers -- the “honeymoon phase”

Direct intimidation -- guilt and threats used as coercion to meet them or give more information

Face-to-face meeting --the truth emerges

eluding internet predators
Eluding Internet Predators

Keep usernames and profiles generic and anonymous

Discuss your child’s online screen name(s), profile(s), and activities. Many provide too much personal information. Ensure all screen names and profiles are non-specific, non-suggestive, and purposely vague.

Avoid posting personal photos

Pictures can be altered to embarrass or humiliate. They also provide personal information that can help an Internet predator pretend to know you, your children, and/or their friends.

Always keep private information private

With just three pieces of personal information, specialized Internet search engines can be used to locate someone anywhere. Internet conversations should never include any personal information.

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Eluding Internet Predators

Keep the computer in an open area

A responsible adult should always accompany minors while they access the Internet to provide support and direction should they be confronted with an aggressive solicitation or inappropriate materials.

Respect children’s privacy

Respect your child’s privacy, but make certain they personally know everyone on their e-mail “buddy” list. Work to generate parent-child trust that supports open and honest Internet use. Ripping out the computer once they tell you they came across porn will destroy the lines of communication.

Be part of your child’s online experience

It can be a fun journey to explore the wonders of the Internet as a family. As computer-savvy as kids and teens are today, they will certainly teach you a thing or two!

revealing too much
Revealing Too Much
  • Personal information that can lead a predator to your doorstep

Name Age Birthday Phone Number

Schedule School Location

Photos and videos should never be posted online if they


    • Backgrounds that reveal identifying information
    • Sexually provocative poses
    • Too much skin
indicators of high risk
Indicators of High Risk

More technical knowledge than parents

Teens who feel they are not listened to

Do not feel like they are getting enough attention

Do not communicate about who or what they are doing online

Deleting computer’s Internet history

Minimize screen or switch to another screen quickly when someone comes in the room

Unexplained phone calls

Unexplained absences

Unexpected gifts

risky behavior
Risky Behavior

Posting photos online

Meeting people online that you do not know in the real world

Online accounts with suggestive names

Talking about parties online

Having blogs and other public online discussions (HR and college acceptance boards are now using these to screen people)

Expressing heated/strong opinions

understand risk factors
Understand Risk Factors

30% of teenage girls polled by the Girl Scout Research Institute said they had been sexually harassed in a chat room

Only 7 %, however, told their mothers or fathers about the harassment, as they were worried that their parents would ban them from going online (Girl Scout Research Institute 2002)

47% of children have received e-mails with links to pornographic websites (Symantec market research report, June 2005)

understand risk factors cont
Understand Risk Factors, cont.

69% of teens regularly receive personal messages online from people they don't know and most of them don't tell a trusted adult about it (Teen Research Unlimited. "Cox Communications Teen Internet safety Survey Wave II," March 2007

28% of teens said they use code words on a daily basis to hide their online conversations from their parents – example: “PIR” means “parent in room”, P9, P911, or 911(Teen Research Unlimited, “Topline Findings from Omnibuss Research,” October 2005.). WW Kids

79% of sexual solicitation incidents happened to youth while they were using their home computer Wolak, J., Mitchell, K., & Finkelhor, D. (2006). Online victimization of youth

Only 5% of youth who received a sexual solicitation and 2% of youth who encountered unwanted sexual material online indicated that they have told Wolak, J., Mitchell, K., & Finkelhor, D. (2006). Online victimization of youth

things to think about
Things to Think About

What personal information is your child placing on blogs and personal WebPages?

cyber bullying
Cyber Bullying

Often has a stronger impact on teenagers as they have turned to the Internet because they need social affirmation

Can be done by anyone speaking harshly to someone else online

Often follows online chatting while angry

cyber bullying the numbers
Cyber Bullying the Numbers

Nearly one in four teens in a relationship (24%) communicated with their partner via cellphone or texting HOURLY between midnight and 5:00am (Teen Research Unlimited, "Tech Abuse in Teen Relationships," January 2007).

One in five teens in a relationship (22%) have been asked to engage in sex by cellphone or the Internet when they do not want to (Teen Research Unlimited, "Tech Abuse in Teen Relationships," January 2007).

43% of youth report that they have experienced some form of cyberbullying in the last year. The incidence of cyberbullying is most prevalent among 15- and 16-year-olds, particularly among girls (Harris Interactive, "Teens and Cyberbullying." Research conducted for the National Crime Prevention Council, February 2007).

identity theft
Identity Theft

Any request for information that comes in e-mail is to be suspect. Call your bank or credit card company first, and do not click on the link. Do not use the phone number sent in the e-mail.

Any phone request for more info is also suspect. So question them first and hang up. Then call the institution to make sure they were calling (be careful of any information given out).

Check the website before you do business with them. Make sure the SSL connection is good.

identity theft protection
Identity Theft Protection

Monitor you and your child’s credit report regularly

Obtain your credit report at least once a year by phoning either Equifax, Experian, or Trans Union, and look carefully for any unusual or fraudulent activity. Their contact information is on the Internet. Check for FREE at

Child ID theft is a large and growing market. CNN September 14, 2006

Beware of all requests for your personal information online

Criminals copy logos perfectly to trick you. Legitimate companies never send unsolicited requests for personal information. Never give out personal information unless you initiate the correspondence.

Shred documents before putting them in the trash

Bank statements, credit card offers, utility bills, and documents with Social Security or account numbers can be retrieved from your trash by ID thieves, so make a habit of tearing them up before tossing them.

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Identity Theft Protection

Install a locking mailbox or use the post office

Criminals often obtain the information they need by intercepting mail in unlocked street mailboxes. Only send and receive bills, checks, or other personal correspondence from a secure location.

Limit the amount of personal information you carry in your purse or wallet

Protect your information online by using a firewall, virus protection, and secure Internet browser

Place a fraud alert on your credit

If you have lost your wallet, purse, Social Security card, or passport, or suspect you are a potential victim of ID theft, contact each of the three credit bureaus (Equifax, Experian, and Trans Union) for assistance.

securing your online connections
Securing Your Online Connections

1. Protect your personal information -- Don’t reply to or click on links in any email asking for your personal information

2. Know who you’re dealing with -- When shopping online, look for a seller’s physical address and a working telephone number. Before downloading free software, read the fine print —some downloads come with spyware

3. Use anti-virus software and a firewall, and check for updates daily

4. Be sure to set up your operating system, applications and Web browser software properly, and update them regularly (configure windows/Linux/MAC’s to run automatic updates)

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Securing Your Online Connections

5. Protect your passwords. Keep your passwords in a secure place, and don’t share them on the Internet, over e-mail, or on the phone (use long passwords) (put one on your administrator account)

6. Back up and consider encryptingimportant files. If you have important files stored on your computer, copy them onto a removable disc and store it in a safe place.

7. Remember, being online is the same as being in the worst high crime neighborhood,so be street smart when online.

8. Secure your wireless connections; see more info at

9. Turn off unnecessary services

10. Turn off file and print sharing if you do not need them

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Securing your Online connections

Install and keep up-to-date anti-virus, anti-spyware, and firewall

Microsoft Malicious Software Removal Tool

CCleaner (Free)

Anti-Spyware – A-Squared (free)

AVG Free

Use Commercial Web Filtering Software

Free -

Net Nanny (2007 best)

Check internet cache

@winspy (free)

Spector Pro to track everything done on a PC

check files on computer
Check Files on Computer

Look at the online handout on how to check computer history files to find what has been surfed. Also check the settings and documents in My documents to see what is on their account.

Undelete files with Restoration or PC Inspector File recovery to find out what your child has deleted. Look for files in the recycle bin and ones that have been deleted.

file sharing
  • Download and share media with P2P

Music Movies Videos Photos

  • It’s illegal to share copyrighted materials without permission
  • It’s easy to unknowingly download or distribute viruses and illegal material
social networking sites
Social Networking Sites
  • Enhance communication skills
    • Improve writing skills
    • Spark creativity
    • Help teens develop a personal identity and express themselves
    • Keep in touch with friends and family
networking sites
Networking Sites

MySpace has twice the number of views Google gets a day, for a total of almost 13 million a day. To put that in perspective, that’s 4,475 views a second.5

MySpace gets 150,000 new users a day, the vast majority of whom (90%) are people claiming to be between 14-24 years old.5

96% of students ages 9 to 17 who have access to the Internet have used social networking technologies 71% use it on a weekly basis (Grunwald Associates, "Creating & Connecting - Research and Guidelines on Online Social and Educational Networking," July 2007)

safer social networking
Safer Social Networking
  • Make our own profile and add your children as friends
  • Learn the site’s safety features
  • Have children use privacy settings
  • Examine their list of friends and browse their friends’ pages
real life consequences
Real-Life Consequences
  • Profiles and blogs are not only viewed by your friends, but also by
    • Parents and relatives
    • Teachers and principals
    • Colleges and universities
    • Employers
    • ONLINE PREDATORES-- when a predator starts grooming a child, he looks for vulnerability, and with a diary or blog right there, he's already gotten past the first stage.”13

If is on the Internet. IT IS NOT PRIVATE

myspace tracking
MySpace Tracking

BeNetSafe™ 12 Features Include:

Automated technology tracks your children's activities online.

Red flags activities that may be dangerous. Compatible with popular teen sites such as MySpace and Xanga.

Nothing to download. Simply sign in online!

24/7 monitoring to chaperone your children when you can't. Works with any computer or operating system.

myspacewatch com 12 12 is a service that allows you to monitor login activity, track profile changes, and keep a running history of up to 5 profiles. Are you a parent who banned your child from myspace only to see that they keep logging on, or are keeping multiple accounts?

Free Account Sign-Up Now

Monitor 1 profile

Profile is crawled twice daily

View up to 25 of a profile's friends

Pro Account Sign-Up Now

Monitor up to 5 profiles

Profile is crawled every 6 hours

View up to 100 of a profile's friends

safespacers com 12 12

They offer anonymous monitoring of your child’s MySpace profile

The kids will have no idea someone is watching and reporting on their profile

Receive periodic reports rating critical areas of potential dangers

In the report, the parent will be informed of the concerns found on the profile (i.e. sex, drugs, smoking, drinking, inappropriate pictures, too much information, possible pedophile contact, etc.)

Immediate e-mail alerts to parents if a pedophile is in contact with your child

Know what your child is doing on MySpace without being a snoop

We use a method of positive peer pressure to push your kids to be safer! We contact them with our own personal MySpace profiles. That way, it’s coming from a peer and not an adult or company.

data mining with google
Data Mining with Google

Google search string “SSN” “birthday” “Hate my parents” 31,100 hits "phone number“

Place name in quotation marks (use variations)

“First (Jon) Last”

Legal First (Jonathan) Last”

“First MI Last”

Use and to look for

your child's name in newsgroups (address, phone number and other personal information)

Go to my website for a Google search tutorial

common chat terms
Common Chat Terms

POS --Parents are looking over my shoulder

POTS -- Parents over the shoulder (my parents are watching; I can't really talk)

P911-- My parents are in the room. P= Parents, and 911= emergency; in other words, either drop the subject or watch the language

WTGP-- Want to go private? (move to a private chat room)

a/s/l or asl - - Age/Sex/Location -- (used to ask a chatter their personal information)

GGOH --Gotta get outta here

OLL --Online love

GTR --Got to run

TNT--'Til next time

LMIRL-- Let's meet in real life

bypassing filters
Bypassing Filters

Go to AltaVista’s BabbleFish site

Key in the URL of a porn site and ask BabbleFish to translate it into English (even though the site is already in English).

Changing their browser’s proxy

Using an anonymizer: Use Google to find CGI proxies which are harder to control than common php proxies;, and too many others

Use software to find and destroy filtering software on local PC’s

Turn off filtering software on local PC

Conducting picture searches at Google, AltaVista, or other search engines including UK version of the search engine


To get around your blocking software:1. First, try a circumvention site like

2. If that doesn't work, you can join our e-mail list where we mail out new circumventor sites every 3 or 4 days.

3. If you have a computer with an uncensored Internet connection, you can follow these easy steps to set up your own circumventor site.

4. If you're trying to get around blocking software that's installed on the local computer and not on the network, use these instructions to boot from the Ubuntu Live CD.

Bypassing Filters PeaceFire

extreme measures

Open the lines of communication


USB Trackers-

Phone Trackers-

Extreme Measures
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Extreme Measures


Spector Pro is used for monitoring and recording every detail of PC and Internet activity – in your home or in your office

Selected as the Editors’ Choice by the experts at PC Magazine, Spector Pro records every detail of what they do on the computer – their chats, instant messages, e-mails, the web sites they visit, what they search for, what they do on MySpace, the pictures they post and look at, the keystrokes they type, the programs they run

It’s advanced surveillance screen snapshot features, you get to see not only WHAT they do, but the EXACT order in which they do it, step by step


All resources and more at my website (bottom of page)

Chat Abbreviation -PDF-Download

Cleaning Your Windows Computer -PDF-Download

Free Software for Home Users -PDF-Download

How to Check Your Computers History -PDF-Download 

I-Educator -PDF-Download

Internet Safety for Kids -PDF-Download

Internet terms -PDF-Download

Internet Safety Plan -PDF-Download

Internet Safety Tips for Parents -PDF-Download

Secure Mac step by Step -PDF-Download

Tracking People around town -PDF-Download

Internet Safety for Kids link list is very graphic has excellent resources for parents

good resources
Good Resources

Quality and current “nonprofit news service for “kid-tech news.” Based on the premise that informal, engaged parenting is essential to kids’ constructive use of technology and the Net.”

Provides information on how media “can shape your child’s development and what you can do to create a media-literate household.”

Provides a “guide to making the Internet and Technology fun, safe, and productive.”

Advice and information about Internet safety for parents and teachers, plus opportunities to discuss problems and share solutions.

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Good Resources

GetNetWise is a public service created by Internet industry corporations and public interest groups with the goal of having “Internet users be only one click away from the resources they need to make informed decisions about their and their family's use of the Internet.”

Created by the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children and Boys & Girls Clubs of America, “the NetSmartz Workshop is an interactive, educational safety resource to teach kids and teens how to stay safer on the Internet.” is an Internet domain where “affiliated sites are regularly screened and monitored” so that “parents and children can trust the sites to provide educational and appropriate online fun.”

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Good Resources

Provides family-friendly reviews of media (TV, film, music, Web sites, games, and books) and parent tips on “healthy media diets” for families.

Run by the author of Net-mom's Internet Kids & Family Yellow Pages, a family-friendly directory to 3,500 of the best children's resources the Internet has to offer, this site highlights good sites for kids and provides safety tips for parents

software recommendation sites
Software Recommendation Sites

The Safe Side – Stranger Safety Video

Darkness to Light – 7 Steps to Protecting Our Children

Cyberbully Resources

Google Alerts

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

Son, Call Me Big Brother

Warning: Adults Only

Family Watchdog – National Sex Offender Search

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Software Recommendation Sites

Search for your local FBI field office

A Parent's Guide to Internet Safety

Kidz Privacy

CyberTip Line, National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

Safe Surfing with your Family, Safe Surfing Checklist

Safeguards, Computer safety tips for your home and child

Tips for Parents to Protect Children from Internet Predators, Guidelines for Parents

Kids Rules for Online Safety

Rules in Cyberspace


Chat Slang



Tapscott, The N’ Generation, 1998: 1-2.

World Youth Report 2005

The Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation Study, 3/05

Kaiser Family Foundation

Numsum Myspace Stats

Media Central “The Buzz”

The National Youth Agency

The Search Agency

10. Internet Addiction by Wendi Kannenberg

11. Internet Safety for Kids

12. US News and World Report – Special Report- September 18,2006

13. 'Predator's Playground‘?

14. Decoding MySpace