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In The Naturist World Communication Is Tough! Notably with Vita Nuda Northeast (VNNE)! Post by Jordan Blum Communicating with Vita Nuda North East in the Naturist World IsN't Easy! Naturist World - Doing something great for others and the reasons behind these voluntary activities is a issue that's come up. It is a matter I think, at the minimum, warrants a discussion. People in general are egoistic creatures, which is why the debate continues as to whether or not there is such a thing as a "selfless good deed." Sadly I keep finding out that in the nudie world there seems to be an overwhelming number of people for whom their ego is the chief source behind their actions. So with that in mind let's get to discussing You all understand what we (FKK & Ranger World) went through to set up and market our Nude Years Eve party. Hours and hours of emailing, posting, press releases, contacting sponsors (for our nude charity initiative), reviewing every single request that we got to try and weed out the odd balls (pardon the pun) and not to mention the cash that went into setting everything together. Ask any one of the organizers (again - FKK & Ranger World individuals) only how much of our hearts and souls went into creating the naked party, how many e-mails and texts went back and forth at nearly every hour of the day. There isn't any question that we reached out to as many individuals and organizations as we physically could. We knew that no matter what we would likely wind up losing money, but for us that was much less important than bringing folks together and observing our way of life only to have it all come crashing down several hours before the event was assumed to begin. http://terimwiki.com/index.php?title=An-Autistic-Outlook-Of-Naturism-and-Nudism-n In The Naturist World When we found out, our number one concern was to educate as many people as we possibly could. Hotel reservations would have to be canceled, and folks who were coming from far away needed to understand to make other arrangements. The organizers, who fronted up all the cash, needed to prepare for whatever lay ahead and try to think of an alternate strategy. Calls were made to everyone we could think about to try and locate an alternative site. Eventually about 3 - 4 hours before the event was to begin, we got a call from one of the members of Vita Nuda Northeast who said that she found a venue for us. After speaking with the owner of the venue we were given his phone number and took it from there. A place being secured, we began scrambling. Fortunately we have a great group of people who volunteered - some came early to help set up, some offered their vehicles, some drove hours and brought all kinds of stuff that were wanted. There was a sense of unity that had it not been the case, the party would have never happened. To show our gratitude to the Vita Nuda people who helped locate a place, we posted a public thank you, discontinued the bash sooner or later to announce how appreciative we were for their help and even allowed them to hang up their Vita nuda flag - even though it was by no means their event. Essentially they helped find a venue by making some phone calls and passing on the information to us. (They even showed up late, the DJ that was allegedly a VNNE friend really charged us (after showing up late as well) and they even gave us the incorrect advice about the price - which came out to be much more costly than they had said). After the party, we posted a site thanking all the sponsors for their generosity and to all those who took an active role over the past few weeks. What happened next came as a little surprise - even to me! The blog was posted by Vita Nuda Northeast VNNE, in a facebook group, with a opinion that read: * aZ"but miraculously we managed to put a awesome party together in three hours in Long Island City!" * Not such a Miracle but instead the use of your available resources, Vita Nuda ** The first part is a quote from the site while the second part is the comment from Vita Nuda. This brings up an interesting question should we've recorded each and every person that helped us put the event together? Individuals helped set up, folks helped clean up, some helped with the venue, others helped with getting security and the list continues on (kind of like the credits at the ending of a film). The fact of the matter is that we singled out those people who genuinely invested a ton of money, time and energy into making this event possible in the first place. The claim that we used invaluable resources is a bit of a reach don't get me wrong, we were all happy that a place was found but at the end of the day, but wasn't a public on-line "thank you" enough? All too frequently in this world, individuals do things that might have a favorable impact. But if they do it for self-centered and self serving motives then in the long run it might have proven better not to do anything in any respect. The reason I say this is straightforward - it feels more like a set-up than a good deed. The repercussions of such actions echo for quite a while after everything has been said and done. Would I assume right that if someone helps somebody outside, only to throw it back in their faces, it ends up ripping people apart rather than bringing them together? Naturist Communication Issues We at Young Naturists & Young Nudists America help people together with organizations nearly every other day. Most of which will never make it to http://schnupper.vfl-wiki.de/index.php?title=I-was-blessed-to-attend-the-c because of this very reason. If I determined to help someone it is because that is what I feel is the right thing to do. If this person decides to return the favor then it's totally up to them. Doing something with ulterior self serving purposes has a tendency of breeding negativity as is the situation here. Only take a look at the two answers that the post got and judge for yourself. Another issue that keeps surfacing is the inability of people to be direct. Posting that opinion openly compelled my hand and generated this public answer. Whereas a private email would have most probably resulted in an update to the first post. Why post a spiteful and public response when all that was wanted was an email along the lines of: "Hey I read your post about the occasion and was a little disturbed to see you did not mention me. Was it an oversight in your part? I believe it is only fair, so would you mind updating it? Or at least giving me an explanation regarding why you did not mention me?" So in closing 1 - What are your ideas about doing something simply for the benefit of helping others? 2 - What can be done to get folks to understand the advantages of direct and open communication and the devastating repercussions of passive aggressive or negative public posts? Young Naturists & Nudists America Tags: organizations, young nudists and naturists Category: Cyber Bullying, Communication and Bullies, Fkk Organizations, Social Activism, Social Nudity Sites About the Author (Author Profile) Jordan Blum is a lifelong nudie and cofounder of Nudist Portal.