Spouse Drinks And Doesn’t Come Home

1. Spouse Drinks And Doesn’t Come Home One of the problems people often bring up in support groups is that of ​spouses who stay out late or don’t come home. People are often lost and don’t know what to do about this situation. They don’t know how to handle their spouses, so they reach out to people who have seen this type of behavior in the past and might have some insights. People like me. Now, I’m not a psychotherapist or a relationship counselor, just a former drunkard. But I’ve participated in more support therapy sessions than I can count, so I’ve heard it all. ​There are two events people usually want to discuss, so we’re going to approach them separately. Spouse Drinks With Friends And Stays Out Late Now, this is the most common problem. You get home and you know your spouse should be home in an hour or two as well. You decide you want to surprise them, so you prepare an awesome meal for you two. You make a fast trip to the supermarket and buy ingredients, wine, everything you need. You start cooking, when all of the sudden you get a text informing you that your wife or husband will be late because they’re going out with friends​. You’re furious. You put in so much effort in your meal and now it’s not worth it. I understand. ​I was actually the one sending the text in this scenario​. Here’s the deal. Being in a relationship shouldn’t be the end of your individual time. You should still be able to have a drink with friends once in a while. I would even recommend it. But you shouldn’t be a dick about it​, either. If you’re going to text your significant other that you’re going out with friends, you could invite them too. They might need a night out as much as you do. Still, I understand the need to have some friends of your own. People who are not friends with your spouse. I get it. And spending time with them is important. You reminisce about years gone by, have a few drinks, and relax. It’s all harmless fun. ​Not letting your spouse know about your get together in time is not cool​, but still. The experience might do you good. However, ​this behavior becomes problematic if you’re doing it often​. Your spouse worries about you, especially since you’re drunk every time you get home. If your spouse does this on a regular basis​, I suggest you have an honest conversation about his or her behavior​. Make a list of what’s bothering you and see how you two can work things out.

2. Spouse Drinks And Doesn’t Come Home Now, this is where things get serious. I​f your spouse fails to come home on a regular basis, you really have a problem​. I don’t know you or how your relationship is going, but that’s usually a bad sign. Here’s why. First of all, spending the night at friends is a sign of disrespect. I mean, if this happens once, it’s OK. Your wife or husband might have gotten drunk and spent the night at a friend’s house to recover. However, if he or she does it often, that’s a problem. In my opinion, that shows ​your spouse would rather spend their night with someone else than with you​. You don’t want that in a relationship. And one of the problems people have with their spouses spending the night somewhere else is infidelity. ​If your spouse spends several nights per month at a friend’s house, he or she might be enjoying the so call friend’s hospitality more than you would like​. That’s not unheard of. As a matter of fact, most of those who complained about their spouses drinking and spending the night out on a regular basis later found out their spouses were cheating after all. Alcohol Is Not The Problem Here. Cheating Is Your spouse might or might not have a drinking problem. He or she might enjoy drinking with friends, and there’s no problem with that. ​But when your husband and wife prefers spending the night with someone else than you, that becomes a problem​. Even if they spend the night at friends without being romantically involved, that’s still not OK. What I find amusing is that these people - those who spend their nights God knows where ​- these people will be the first to say that the booze made them do it​. They drank so much they couldn’t get home. So they spent the night at a friend. As I said, if this happens once, it’s probably not a problem. But if it happens often, it probably is. I was a drunkard and I had drunkard friends. We would often stay out late drinking by ourselves, without our wives or husbands. But at the end of the night, all of us would get home. ​Because in that advanced state of intoxication, all we could think of would be our beds and the people in them​. If your husband or wife fails to come home, they do it because they want to. ​Alcohol does not make you do anything you didn’t want to do in the first place​. Sure, alcohol might loosen

3. you up and lower your inhibitions, but at the end of the night, you’re still in control. You’re the one making the calls, not the booze in your bloodstream. How To Act If Your Spouse Drinks And Doesn’t Come Home If your spouse drinks and doesn’t come home, you should try discussing his or her behavior. However, ​I would recommend going to couple’s therapy sessions​. Having someone to mediate your discussion might help, and the couples therapist might give you helpful suggestions or pointers on how to handle the situation. Read the rest of the articles in this series if you want to find out ​what happens in the mind of an alcoholic​. In our next article, we’re going to talk about spouses who drink and gamble. Stay sober! Read more on ​official site here​: https://www.freddygetsalife.com/when-your-spouse-doesnt-come-home-after-drinking/