50 Things for a Successful date which will Aww your partner

2. How to ask someone for date Real talk Asking someone out is super nerve-wracking. No matter how confident you are, putting yourself out there is a big risk—because getting turned down stings. In fact, a slew of recent research has shown that social pain—the emotional response you have from being rejected or ostracized by others—actually shares some of the same neural and neurochemical substrates as physical pain. In other words, similar things are happening in your brain when you stub your toe and the person you like turns you down. This is largely why rejection is painful—so painful that you may end up avoiding asking people out altogether or act so nonchalant and non-committal that the person you're asking out doesn't even know if it's a date or not. This is no way to be. You need to be direct, bold, and confident when asking someone out. And you need to know—and fully believe—that rejection isn’t the end of the world. If you get rejected, it’s actually agoodthing. You don’t want to waste your time with someone who doesn’t want to be with you, and you also want to respect the boundaries of others If the idea of asking a person out sounds confusing or horrifying, not to worry. We have all the information you need right here: Everything you need to know about asking someone out in a way that will leave you feeling OK, no matter the answer. Whether over an app, text, or in-person—we have the tips you need to score that date (or at least try). Here is how to ask someone out (without, you know, being weird about it). Don’t overthink it We can be our own worst enemy when it comes to making the first move. One of the Biggest relationship problem men face is a fear of rejection. Don’t let it hold you back. “No one wants to look foolish or be rejected for being ourselves," says Dr. Kristie Overstreet, a clinical sexologist and psychotherapist. "Also, there is a struggle with feeling good enough. This fear and worry keep us from taking healthy risks such as putting ourselves out there. This type of thinking happens to protect our ego and from getting hurt." If you get too into your head about it, you’ll psych yourself out. When you build everything up in your head, spend days on end texting, and don’t make concrete plans, you read into things. We all do it. “Don't overthink it or make it harder than it has to be. Keep it simple. Ask if [they] want to have dinner or drinks,” Overstreet says. Just go for it. If they say yes, awesome. If they don’t, you didn’t waste more of your time than necessary.

3. Keep it simple and straightforward Overstreet says not to beat around the bush when it comes to asking someone out. If you do, you'll confuse the person and could possibly find yourself in the depths of a misunderstanding. “Don't be vague with a question such as ‘Want to hang?’ Be specific when asking [them] out," she says. "For example, ‘Do you have time for dinner Tuesday night?’ It shows that you are interested in them as a person versus just someone to ‘hang’ with.” A date is a date. Be bold about and unapologetic about it. Caginess is for amateurs. When it comes to dates, don’t make elaborate plans. It seems like there is so much pressure to “stand out” or be interesting. If you have the personality, you don’t need to take them to the zoo and then ice skating and then skydiving and then deep sea fishing to be memorable. This content is imported from {embed-name}. You may be able to find the same content in another format, or you may be able to find more information, at their web site. Be yourself. Yes, we know how corny this sounds, but a lot of guys—especially those who fear rejection—attempt to be someone they’re not. They act like some suave, clever womanizer they think the ladies want. (Spoiler alert: most don't.) Don’t be like those guys. “Authenticity is the best game you can bring,” says sex and relationship expert Shamyra Howard, LCSW. “Don't present the person you think you should be; it's best to be your genuine self. This isn't the time to fake it until you make it.” You want someone to like you for who you are. Besides, how long will you able to keep up the charade of being someone else? If you’re asking over text, pay attention the response. If you don’t get a definite “Yes,” they aren't necessarily not into it, Overstreet says. If this is the case, pay attention to the way in which they respond. “If they are busy and don't give you an alternate option, then they aren't interested. If they are busy but offer an alternate time/day to meet, then they are interested but can't make the day you suggested.” If they make an attempt to reschedule, don’t view it as a rejection. Give them a chance to make it happen. If they don’t, well, you have your answer. “If they don't reply, you can try one moretime on another day,” Overstreet suggests. “If they don't reply a second time, let them go and move on.” It’s pretty simple, really: If someone wants to go out with you, they’ll go out with you. If they don’t, they won’t. Put in the effort, wait forreciprocation, and if you don’t get it, cut your losses and get on with your life.

4. If you’re asking GIRL, start with small talk. Meeting someone and asking them out in real life (we know, what?) has its own set of rules. Don’t just walk up to a person you think is cute and ask them out. Start with small talk and gauge common interests. “See how they respond,” Overstreet says. “For example, if you approach someone and they don't reply, are short with you, or move further away, then move on. If not, discuss something that they may be interested in depending on the location you approach them at.” Read the situation based on your setting. If you’re in line for a coffee, ask them about their favourite drink or if they tried that new seasonal beverage. If they engage with Creepy about it you, keep going. Ask them their name, what they do for work, etc. Just Don’t be . Pay attention to body language and the vibe you’re getting—this takes some self- awareness. If her arms and legs are crossed, she’s literally closing herself off to you. Leave her alone. If she doesn’t turn to face you fully, it likely means she doesn’t want to engage with you, so don’t ask her out. Now if she’s shifted her position to directly face you, and she’s making eye contact and smiling, she’s interested. “If you still have a green light, ask them to meet for coffee this week,” Overstreet says. If you do get rejected, ask yourself: “So what?” Really, how is this going to affect the rest of your life? It’s not. “If rejection didn't exist, you may have ended up in a relationship with someone who wasn't a good match for you,” Overstreet says. If you and ask her out and she says no, accept it. For the love of God, don’t try to convince them to change their mind, adds Howard. Some classic romantic films like The Notebook teach men that persistence is a sign of affection and devotion, but it is absolutely not. It’s scary“It’s actually a huge turn off and a consent violation,” Howard says. Just move on. This content is created and maintained by a third party, and imported onto this page to help users provide their email addresses. You may be able to find more information about this and similar content at piano.io 50 things to do on a successful date.

5. You finally scored a date with someone you actually like! Before you head out into the night or the day, here are a few tips on how to have a successful date over a lacklustre one. 1.Be willing to laugh dates are best with a dosage of laughter. It's better to take a date to a funny movie rather than a scary one. Endorphins help connect people, so try to laugh. Even laugh at the corny jokes if you can. This will help you to connect. 2.Shower, smell good, spray perfume be clean, be sharp dressed. It will make you feel better and be more attractive. It doesn't hurt to continue these things well into a relationship. They're just good habits. 3.Have good manners open doors for your sweety, say thank you, don't argue, let someone pay for your check or grab the check yourself, be patient, be understanding. 4.Don't be on your cell phone don't ever pull out your cell phone on a date. Focus on them. When they go to the bathroom is the best time to pull out your phone, but being on it, texting, calling, playing games can come off rude and distracted. 5.Be punctual if you can't be on time, say something in advance. Arriving late with no notification is rude and frankly stupid. 6.Bring gifts particularly flowers, chocolate, jewellery, wine, teddy bears, something homemade, etc. 7.Engage your date in conversation make sure that your date is talking as much as you are, that it's close to 50- 50. You don't want them to out talk you too much, and you definitely don't want to out talk them. Make sure you are learning new things about them, and that they are also getting to know you.

6. 8.Compliment perhaps complimenting appearance is too bold, but do compliment on accomplishments whether with school or jobs, personality quirks, anything that you naturally feel and don't feel awkward revealing. 9.Touch you don't have to go crazy with this, but touch the arms, shoulders, a hug or two, hold hands. 10.Be agreeable and suggest what to do it's painfully obnoxious and unhelpful if you can't figure out what to do. Know ahead what you would like to do and be flexible. 11.Have a spare change of clothes in case you spill something, in case you need tennis shoes, think ahead about what wardrobe changes you may need or what kind of makeup fixes you'll need on the way. 12.Try going to places where you can hear each other music venues and clubs can be fun, but it'll cut down on the amount of conversation you can have, so be careful about these places. You'll end up having to rely more on body language which might not be your cup of tea. 13.Roll with the awkwardness more than likely if you spend a few hours with someone something embarrassing will happen or something offensive... roll with it. Be easy going rather than easily affronted. 14.Have cash on you in case anything happens, whether plastic doesn't work or you end up stuck on the road, have cash on you for any emergency. I suggest having at least 20$, but 50$ may be better. 15.Charge your cell phone

7. depending on what could happen, you'll want to make sure your phone is ready for the whole night in case of any emergencies or in making new plans. 16.Have gum or mints whether for yourself or your date, this can come in handy after dinner with onions or garlic. 17.Focus on the date don't be thinking about past relationships, don't think about other people you could be dating. Focus on what is before you and what led you there. If you don't like them as your number one, then don't date them that's unfair. You should give them undivided attention, your date isn't your counselor for your past. 18.Avoid criticism be careful about what you say. Don't say anything mean about someone's appearance, personality, job situation, etc. Keep these things to yourself or learn to overcome them. An excellent mate will help you to overcome it rather than focus on their esteem. But don't expect that, your criticisms could be taken personally. 19.Avoid too emotionally heavy of topics especially on a first date with someone new, don't bring out all the heavy emotional, family-related, hardest parts of life. It may be too soon, too revealing, just too much. Try to keep things reasonably light in conversation. 20.Don't be pushy respect people's boundaries. If they don't want to go physical -- then don't. If they don't want to go rock climbing -- don't. 21.Smile more smiles are positive, affirming, and are far more attractive than a dead stare or lots of frowning. Frowning is going to confuse your date. Project positive energy. 22.Wear flattering colours

8. for men wear blue, green, black, or faded red and orange. For women, pink, purple, or black. The least flattering colours are yellow, Gray, pink on men, and sometimes red which comes off aggressive. 23.Carry Advil you may end up going through many different scenes, listening to loud music, coming across questionable food... it would be wise to carry something for a headache in your purse, or even a packet of two Advil for a wallet. 24.Clean your car if you're picking someone up or you may end up using both cars, be prepared for someone being in your passenger seat. Clean up the car, make sure there's no fast food relics or smelly nonsense. 25.Lookout for cat and dog hair we all love our pets, but having traces of them isn't exactly attractive. Make sure to smell clean and use a lint roller to take off kitty cat hair. 26.Think of entertaining topics beforehand what has been interesting in your life in the past few months? Review this in your head beforehand so you are ready to talk about something interesting rather than end up lolling on conversation. What are things you've talked about with others that brighten their eyes or moods? 27.Be encouraging and empathetic if your date is nervous or having low self-esteem, try to encourage them. Being supportive early on will help you to be likable and seem cool. Letting their woes hang in the air isn't a good deal. 28.Try to avoid getting drunk we don't usually make the best decisions when we are drunk, so try to go for water or soda or something else. You may have a great time the night of your drunken date, but you may regret it or feel self-conscious about it the next day and this could set the tone for the relationship. 29.Have ideas of where to go next

9. you may end up really liking each other and need different venues due to places closing, hunger, etc. Have in your head a preset list of things you could do from cute cafes, movies you could see, and make sure to be prepared for such. Make sure that if you are going to a new location you would be dressed appropriately, such as for a sporting event or symphony. 30.Avoid having friends join you may tell your friends you are on a hot date, but don't tell them where you are going because they may be tempted to go where you are and join as a third wheel. They are not welcome. 31.Dance if you are music, go along with the beat. This gives opportunity to let yourself be free and perhaps have a partner. It makes you look more confident, even if you are a terrible dancer. 32.Be spontaneous and buy stuff if she's eyeing the flowers and things are going well, buy her flowers. If she seems to be attracted to a certain book or piece of jewelry, buy it for her. Even surprise her with it at the end of the date. 33.Carry condoms in a place that isn't your wallet make sure that if you want to get physical later and it is agreed upon that the birth control you use is up to date and not by your money, because money is gross. Condoms should be new, not three years old. 34.Know when to end the date if it's been on a good note you don't need to drag it till 4:00AM unless you have a reason. End on a good note. 35.Don't bring up past relationships

10. you are trying something fresh. There is no mood killer like bringing up your ex or comparing your date to someone else. Leave it in the past. 36.Don't talk about work too much your job is admittedly interesting and pays the bills, but if it's all you talk about you could become the bore of the town. Bring up interesting details from work, not the budgets and meetings unless who you are dating loves that stuff. 37.Avoid having sex on the first date it may be old fashioned, but you probably don't know enough about each other for this to be a smart idea. You need to know each other more, the history, whether they have STDs, how many partners they have, whether they are dating someone else, etc., etc. 38.Don't introduce them to family on the first date maybe for five minutes, but it is not okay to take them to dinner with your family. Too much pressure. 39.Pay for her food, open doors for her suck it up if you feel otherwise, this will make for a much better tone to set if you pay for her food. 40.Give at least two hours of time you need to talk at least this much. Don't just go for coffee and end it there. You should be spending a good amount of time with each other, not something short.

11. 41.Be romantic and expressive, not vulgar and perverted watch your language, consider what you are saying, consider how you express yourself. You'll win more with honey than whipping cream. 42.Don't crash at their house don't crash on their couch because you have nowhere to go. Go home to your place, unless you are out of town. 43.Compliment their pets if you are honored enough to meet Mr. Dog or Mr. Cat, you should give the animals a rub on the head and a compliment. They are a part of your date. They want the two of you to get along just as much as with their parents. Heck, you might be living with this fuzz ball later. 44.Do not go to places you did with other people on other dates this is going to remind you too much of the past and isn't fresh. This could also make people really angry. 45.Be cool, act normal if it is called "hanging out." in many instances hanging out IS a date, but in some it is not. You could ask what it is at the end of the date, I mean hanging out, if you felt it leaned more romantic. Don't worry if it's "hanging out" if you've got them one on one, then put up your best effort and a romantic connection could bloom.

12. 46.Avoid treating them too much like your own gender (straight couples only) don't treat her like a bro, and don't treat him like your sisters. 47.Play games board games, video games, any kind of games where you have to think, work against each other, or work with each other. It helps you to bond, it also distracts you and makes you be a tad more subconscious. This can help things to be more emotional. 48.Go to something newly opening hey, if you guys are new together, it sets the right vibe to go to something that is newly opening to check out, you catch my drift? 49.Go to age appropriate places don't go to the seniors buffet if you are in your twenties, don't go to teenage movies when you are in your twenties and be surrounded by teenagers. 50.Be mature don't make a big scene, don't start drama, don't get so embarrassed that you cause things to be even more embarrassing. MAY 5, 2021