HDI 2015 Conference and Expo Mary L. Cruse Director of IT First American Title Insurance Co.

1. Coaching is HDI 2015 Conference and Expo Mary L. Cruse Director of IT First American Title Insurance Co.

2. Agenda • Definitions • Characteristics of a Great Coach • Critical Competencies • The “Feedback Loop” • When it’s not so smooth  • Let’s practice • Tips for “the meeting” • Let’s practice one more time!

3. Coaching – defining terms • Coaching • Observation • Building skills/behaviors through both positive and corrective feedback • Creating a dialogue with the employee • Regular communication • Lots of listening!

4. Coaching – defining terms • Counseling • Focus on corrective action for negative performance • Used AFTER coaching has failed to give results • Thoroughly documented • Involves formal warnings or reprimands

5. Coaching – defining terms • Mentoring • Based on relationships (formal or informal) • Used to promote career enhancement or long term personal/professional development • Not necessarily related to coaching/counseling • Requires commitment from both parties We’re going to focus on Coaching…..

6. Best Coach EVER! • What were the characteristics of the best coach you ever had?

7. Being a successful coach requires… • Solid foundation of knowledge in their field • Ability to bring out the best in others • Positive attitude and ability to manage one’s own emotions • Excellent listening skills • Excellent communication skills • Commitment to the team • Patience • Investment from the heart

8. Critical Competencies • No losers in the coaching game • Benefits to the staff • Benefits to the coaches • Benefits to the organization • Benefits to the customers • It’s a learning game • Who learns in this process? L

9. Critical Competencies 3. It’s a listening game • Pay attention to what you hear • Pay attention to what you DON’T hear • Commitment is essential • Have you given up on this person? • Half-hearted coach is more dangerous than no coach at all

10. Critical Competencies 5. Focus on long-term development • Short term gains • Short term losses • Keep your “eyes on the prize” – the long term goal 6. Be uncompromising in commitment to quality • “Give in” for one person, and you lose credibility • Be inconsistent and the coaching is unclear • Consistency creates raving fans with customers and team members alike.

11. Critical Competencies • Improvement is always possible • How do they take it to the next level? • Coaching makes it possible. • If you feel you have coached all you can, then is it time to hand someone off to a more skilled coach?

12. Critical Competencies • Constant communication ensures consistent performance. • Make those meetings happen! • Keep listening & Keep talking • Regular interaction makes for consistent performance and performance improvement! • Hold yourself responsible and accountable • Are you doing your best to reach, teach and learn? • Are you doing your personal best? • YOU set the example for those you coach

13. Critical Competencies 10. Be caringly candid • Be honest –and- be sensitive about your “player” • Build them up through coaching. • This will build your respectability and your credibility • Remember to include your whole team • Coaching is about EVERYONE – not just those who are weaker players. • Regular coaching with all players is important.

14. Feedback Loop Pre-meeting Meeting with the employee

15. Feedback Loop • What are you observing? • Skill? • Characteristic? • Behavior? • Attitude? • How would you describe it? • Good? • Bad? • Indifferent or just ineffective? • What specific impact is it having? • Customer Service • Productivity • Team Work

16. Feedback Loop • What is the feedback you’re giving? • Good behavior • Acknowledged • Rewarded • Bad behavior • What was wrong with it? • How to make it better? • Indifferent/Ineffective • How much negative? • Is it worth bringing this up?

17. Feedback Loop • Let’s discuss the observed behavior • Open the discussion in a safe place • Focus on the facts • They give feedback first • Be curious and ask questions • Show empathy • Gather data • Be inquisitive • Be understanding and relatable • What did they miss? • What did you miss? • Bring it all together

18. Feedback Loop • Address the Behavior • Be specific • Identify the impact • Identify future expectations • What’s the plan? • What are the steps? • Who is doing what? • By when?

19. Feedback Loop • Listening skills are CRITICAL for a GREAT COACH! • What was discussed? • What ideas did they share? • What did you learn? Be sure to acknowledge! • What WASN’T discussed? • What did YOU have to mention?

20. Feedback Loop • Reach an agreed conclusion • Note what you agree on • Ask them to state it back • Document next steps

21. Sometimes it’s not smooth! • “Whatever” • I’ll say “yes” just to get out of here! • The Victim • I just can’t do that because… • “You just don’t like me!” • You always pick on me. Everyone else does this and I’m the only one who gets called on it! • Defense mode • “You’re not the boss of me!” • “You do this too!”

22. Coaching – it’s a GOOD Thing! • Role Play – you’ve been doing it all along! • Focus on the behavior not the person • Listen and respond with compassion and empathy • Involve the customer – your team member!

23. Let’s Practice • Role Play example • Pair in teams for Role Play • Role Play review

24. Tips for the Meeting • Be Prepared! • Eye Contact • How can we do this remotely? • Show Genuine Interest • Avoid Distractions • Who’s doing most of the talking?

25. Tips for the Meeting • Ideas or Words? • Interrupting? • Arguing vs. Discussing? • Take Notes • Sharing Notes

26. One more Role Play?

28. Everybody needs a little coaching! Remember to complete your conference survey form! Mary L. Cruse Director, IT Customer Services mcruse@firstam.com 714-250-8198 Mary (Curtin) Cruse Linked In