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How to Communicate With Your Child

How to Communicate With Your Child. Counseling Department Paramount High School, West Campus November, 2008. Listening and Talking to Your Child. Listen carefully Ask for clarification Speak with respect Give choice when available Be careful when you are angry

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How to Communicate With Your Child

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  1. How to Communicate With Your Child Counseling Department Paramount High School, West Campus November, 2008

  2. Listening and Talking to Your Child • Listen carefully • Ask for clarification • Speak with respect • Give choice when available • Be careful when you are angry • Be aware of your tone of voice and body language- stay calm! • Shows that you are listening

  3. Clarifies misunderstandings Helps child to identify feelings and appropriately deal with them Helps you and child resolve problems “Are you disappointed because I couldn’t go to your game?” “Do you feel frustrated that you are having a difficult time in algebra?” “Do you feel jealous that your friends have more money than we do?” Reflective Listening

  4. Importance of “I messages” • Simply tell how you feel about your child’s behavior • State how and why their behavior affects you and what you need done • Be careful not to label or blame your child for how you feel • Teach your child to take responsibility for their own feelings

  5. Focusing on your child’s efforts Having faith in your child Appreciating your child as a person Recognizing their talents and qualities “wow, I’m really impressed with how hard you’re studying for your test” “You did your best, and that’s what matters” “You’re such a good wrestler, I love going to your matches” Encourage your child by...

  6. Parenting Styles • Authoritarian • Democratic • Permissive

  7. Parent is inflexible, strict, repressive, dominant Child is dependent, fearful, isolated, and often is sad and depressed Home environment is tense, rigid, and military Discipline tools used are yelling, bribery, threats, and many orders Quality of parent/child relationship is resentful, distant, and tearful Authoritarian

  8. Parent is the leader/guide Parent is seen as understanding, motivating, and respectful Child is disciplined, consistent, and responsible Home environment is relaxed, orderly, and consistent Discipline tools are incentives, negotiation, conflict resolution, consequences, healthy limits, and discussions Quality of relationship is open and sharing Democratic

  9. Parent is seen as servant of child, fearful, inconsistent, indecisive, weak, and passive Child is demanding, inconsiderate, uncontrollable and arrogant Home environment is chaotic, uncontrollable, and disorderly Discipline tools used are begging, wishing, waiting, and then giving-up Quality of relationship is manipulative and resentful Permissive

  10. When implementing consequences... • Follow-through! • Be firm yet kind • Don’t give-in or fight • Use respectful words • Stay calm

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