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BROKEN PARTS Bruised but brave

BROKEN PARTS Bruised but brave. FIRE-BROWN GADSDEN, Founding Facilitator of “ASCA-Atlanta” A Public speaker a healing *adult survivors of child abuse* advocate A Change maker. “THIS IS ME. FOUR MINUTES of “All About Us” ---- MANTRA & ANTHEM of Inclusion Bruised But Brave

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BROKEN PARTS Bruised but brave

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  1. BROKEN PARTS Bruised but brave FIRE-BROWN GADSDEN, Founding Facilitator of “ASCA-Atlanta” A Public speaker a healing *adult survivors of child abuse* advocate A Change maker

  2. “THIS IS ME • FOUR MINUTES of “All About Us” ---- MANTRA & ANTHEM of Inclusion • Bruised But Brave • Look Out Here We Come • We Make No Apologies • Won’t Let the Shame Sink-In • There’s A Place For Us • Deserve Your Love • There’s Nothing We’re NOT Worthy Of • Send a Flood to Drown Them Out • THIS IS US.

  3. WE ARE HERE TODAY . . . From The Statement of Philosophy *

  4. “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ AnaïsNin“When you make a world tolerable for yourself, you make a world tolerable for others.” ~ AnaïsNin“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” ~ AnaïsNin Quotes By --- ANAIS NIN INSPIRED TO HEAL --- AT ANY RISK, ANY COST, AND ON MY TERMS.

  5. MY PURPOSE HERE TODAYTO BE INTENTIONAL

  6. My story

  7. The healing journey Remembering Phase (7 Steps) Mourning Phase (7 Steps) Healing Phase (7 Steps)

  8. REMEMBERING

  9. STAGE ONE: REMEMBERING • I am in a breakthrough crisis, having gained some sense of my abuse. • I have determined that I was physically, sexually, or emotionally abused as a child. • I have made a commitment to recovery from my childhood abuse. • I shall re-experience each set of memories as they surface in my mind. • I accept that I was powerless over my abusers’ actions which holds THEM responsible. • I can respect my shame and anger as a consequence of my abuse, but shall try not to turn it against myself or others. • I can sense my inner child whose efforts to survive now can be appreciated.

  10. MOURNING

  11. STAGE TWO: MOURNING • I have made an inventory of the problem areas of my adult life. • I have identified the parts of myself connected to self-sabotage. • I can control my anger and find healthy outlets for my aggression. • I can identify faulty beliefs and distorted perceptions in myself and others. • I am facing my shame and developing self-compassion. • I accept that I have the right to be who I want to be and live the way I want to live. • I am able to grieve my childhood and mourn the loss of those who failed me.

  12. HEALING

  13. Stage three: healing • I am entitled to take the initiative to share in life’s riches. • I am strengthening the healthy parts of myself, adding to my self-esteem. • I can make necessary changes in my behavior and relationships at home and work. • I have resolved the abuse with my offenders to the extent that is acceptable to me. • I hold my own meaning about the abuse that releases me from the legacy of the past. • I see myself as a Thriver in all aspects of life – love, work, parenting, and play. • I am resolved in the Reunion of my New-Self and Eternal-Soul.

  14. Messages worth spreading ….****** SHARE & PASS IT ON ***** A Chain Message Required Forwarding

  15. MESSAGE TO ADULT SURVIVORS OF CHILD ABUSE Trust your self: Take the steps to heal: Tell Your Story – Ownership Self-Empowerment Self-Acceptance Seek Support – Your Soft Place to Fall Hope, Love, Respect & Validation Get Help Therapy Support Group Ministry Journal – Mindfulness Be Kind Self-Compassion • Your Memories are Real & Valid • You Are Not at Fault; Guilty or Shameful • You Were a CHILD; a Loss of Innocence, Power and a Right to Determine Your Own Life. • Telling ((((( Letting Yourself Off-the-Hook ))))) • A Child NOT Believed • A Language NOT Taught • A Secret WARNED to Keep • by A Trusted Love One

  16. MESSAGE TO ALLIES & SUPPORT • Friends, Family & Society at-Large • Believe the Survivor • Offer Love & Support: Kindness • Be Resourceful & In-Action • Recognize Signs / Awareness • Practice “Universal Pre-Cautions” for Prevention • Children don’t keep secrets with adults • No nicknames for body parts • Sleepovers – background/knowledge • Medical, Legal & Judicial Community • Ask the Right Questions – On “intake form” • Be Prudent - Err on the Side of Victims • Mandatory Reporters & Whistle Blowers • Be an ALLY – whether impacted directly or not • Prosecute. Convict. Sentence: Time & Counseling • Enact Legislations towards Rehabilitation of the Convicted • An “Impact Curriculum” with Adult Survivors of Child Abuse involvement.

  17. AS A RESULT OF …… conclusion Evolution of the Child Abuse Prevention & Awareness

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