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THE RAY EVANS SEMINAR “Living as Peacemakers”

THE RAY EVANS SEMINAR “Living as Peacemakers”. Schedule. 9:00 – 9:45 am “The Theology of Conflict Resolution” 9:45 – 10:00 am Break 10:00 – 10:45 am “Conflict Resolution in the Home” 10:45 – 11:00 am Break 11:00 – 11:45 am “Conflict Resolution in the Workplace”

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THE RAY EVANS SEMINAR “Living as Peacemakers”

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  1. THE RAY EVANS SEMINAR “Living as Peacemakers”

  2. Schedule 9:00 – 9:45 am “The Theology of Conflict Resolution” 9:45 – 10:00 am Break 10:00 – 10:45 am “Conflict Resolution in the Home” 10:45 – 11:00 am Break 11:00 – 11:45 am “Conflict Resolution in the Workplace” 11:45 – 12:30 pm Lunch provided 12:30 – 1:15 pm “Conflict Resolution in the Church” 1:15 – 1:45 pm Q&A Session 1:45 – 1:50 pm Break 1:50 – 2:30 pm “Living as Peacemakers in Today’s World”

  3. 9:00–9:45 AM KEYNOTE #1 The Theology of Conflict Resolution

  4. Matthew 5 1Now when he saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, 2and he began to teach them saying: 3"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

  5. Matthew 5 6Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. 7Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. 8Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. 9Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.

  6. Matthew 5 10Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 11"Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

  7. Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the sons of God.

  8. The Theology of Conflict Resolution • God is Omnipotent. • God, who created the universe, cannot be confined to it. God can work in ways beyond our understanding. • Biblical peacemakers look beyond appearances believing that God can work through any situation.

  9. The Theology of Conflict Resolution • God is Love. • The Biblical peacemaker approaches conflict with a Biblical worldview about how to treat others (even when we disagree).

  10. The Theology of Conflict Resolution • God is Truth • The Biblical portrait of God as Truth, as the personification of this ideal, has implications which are important for peacemaking. • Believing God is truth makes a Biblical peacemaker less susceptible to relativism.

  11. 9:45-10:00 am Break #1

  12. 10:00–10:45 AM SESSION #1 Conflict Resolution in the home

  13. THE 5 PRIMARY CONFLICT STYLES

  14. ACCOMMODATING/YIELDING

  15. ACCOMMODATING/YIELDING • Accommodating is unassertive and cooperative – the opposite of competing. When accommodating, an individual neglects his or her own concerns to satisfy the concerns of the other person; there is an element of self-sacrifice in this mode. • Accommodating might take the form of selfless generosity or charity, obeying another person’s order when one would prefer not to, or yielding to another’s point of view.

  16. AVOIDING

  17. AVOIDING • Avoiding is unassertive and uncooperative – the individual does not immediately pursue his own concerns or those of the other person. He or she does not address the conflict. • Avoiding might take the form of diplomatically sidestepping an issue, postponing an issue until a better time, or simply withdrawing from a threatening situation.

  18. COMPETING/CONTROLLING

  19. COMPETING/CONTROLLING • Competing/Controlling is assertive and uncooperative – an individual pursues his or her own concerns at the other person’s expense. • This is a power-oriented mode, in which one uses whatever power seems appropriate to win one’s own position – one’s ability to argue, one’s rank, economic sanctions. • Competing might mean “standing up for your rights,” defending a position which you believe is correct, or simply trying to win.

  20. COMPROMISING

  21. COMPROMISING • Compromising is intermediate in both assertiveness and cooperativeness. The object is to find some expedient, mutually acceptable solution which partially satisfies both parties. It falls on a middle ground between competing and accommodating. • Compromising gives up more than competing but less than accommodating. Likewise, it addresses an issue more directly than avoiding, but doesn’t explore it in as much depth as collaborating. • Compromising might mean splitting the difference, exchanging concessions, or seeking a quick middle-ground position.

  22. PROBLEM-SOLVING/COLLABORATING

  23. PROBLEM SOLVING/COLLABORATING • Collaborating is both assertive and cooperative – the opposite of avoiding. Collaborating involves an attempt to work with the other person to find some solution which fully satisfies the concerns of both persons. It means digging into an issue to identify the underlying concerns of the two individuals and to find an alternative which meets both sets of concerns.

  24. PROBLEM SOLVING/COLLABORATING • Collaborating between two persons might take the form of exploring a disagreement to learn from each other’s insights, concluding to resolve some condition which would otherwise have them competing for resources, or confronting and trying to find a creative solution to an interpersonal problem.

  25. 10:45-11:00 am Break #2

  26. 11:00–11:45 AM SESSION #2 Conflict Resolution in the workplace

  27. DUAL CONCERN MODEL High Yielding Problem Solving Compromising CONCERN ABOUT OTHER’S OUTCOMES Low Avoiding Contending Low High CONCERN ABOUT PARTY’S OUTCOMES

  28. DUAL CONCERN MODEL High Yielding Problem Solving Compromising CONCERN ABOUT OTHER’S OUTCOMES Low Avoiding Contending Low High CONCERN ABOUT PARTY’S OUTCOMES

  29. DUAL CONCERN MODEL High Yielding Problem Solving Compromising CONCERN ABOUT OTHER’S OUTCOMES Low Avoiding Contending Low High CONCERN ABOUT PARTY’S OUTCOMES

  30. DUAL CONCERN MODEL High Yielding Problem Solving Compromising CONCERN ABOUT OTHER’S OUTCOMES Low Avoiding Contending Low High CONCERN ABOUT PARTY’S OUTCOMES

  31. DUAL CONCERN MODEL High Yielding Problem Solving Compromising CONCERN ABOUT OTHER’S OUTCOMES Low Avoiding Contending Low High CONCERN ABOUT PARTY’S OUTCOMES

  32. DUAL CONCERN MODEL High Yielding Problem Solving Compromising CONCERN ABOUT OTHER’S OUTCOMES Low Avoiding Contending Low High CONCERN ABOUT PARTY’S OUTCOMES

  33. 11:45-12:30 pm Lunch

  34. 12:30–1:15 PM SESSION #3 Conflict Resolution in the Church

  35. Issues Personalities Emotions Interests, Needs & Desires Self- Perceptions & Self-Esteem Hidden Expectations Unresolved Issues From the Past (Cloke and Goldsmith, 2000)

  36. T- FUNNELING Begin with broad questions and move to more specific.

  37. ACTIVE LISTENING • Pay attention (avoid distractions) • Show that you are listening (body language, verbal cues) • Provide Feedback (reflect and clarify) • Defer Judgment (don’t interrupt) • Respond Appropriately

  38. 1:15-1:45 pm Question & Answer Session

  39. 1:45-1:50 pm Break #3

  40. 1:50-2:30 pm Keynote #2 LIVING AS PEACEMAKERS IN TODAY’S WORLD

  41. I Corinthians 13 1If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

  42. I Corinthians 13 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

  43. I Corinthians 13 8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

  44. I Corinthians 13 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

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