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Essential Conversations in Mid-Life and Beyond Amy D’Aprix, MSW, PhD, CPCA October 11, 2017

Essential Conversations in Mid-Life and Beyond Amy D’Aprix, MSW, PhD, CPCA October 11, 2017. Goals for Mid-Life and Beyond. Maintain choice, control, and freedom for your entire life Stay healthy – mentally and physically Sustain meaning in your life Maximize Quality of life

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Essential Conversations in Mid-Life and Beyond Amy D’Aprix, MSW, PhD, CPCA October 11, 2017

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  1. Essential Conversations in Mid-Life and Beyond Amy D’Aprix, MSW, PhD, CPCA October 11, 2017

  2. Goals for Mid-Life and Beyond • Maintain choice, control, and freedom for your entire life • Stay healthy – mentally and physically • Sustain meaning in your life • Maximize Quality of life • Have enough resources

  3. To Reach Goals There are things you need to: • Think about • Plan for (explore) • Talk about with people you love

  4. Essential Conversations • Start with contemplation • Defined: Talking to the most important people about the most important things in our lives

  5. Top 5 Essential Conversations • Vision for the future: how to spend your time and with whom • Health or mobility changes and how they could impact: • Driving • Where you live • If you ever need care, what is important to you and what constitutes quality of life for you • Who you want as your “thought partners” as you age • Estate planning conversations – beyond the money

  6. Contemplation “If there were a shift in my health or mobility or the health or mobility of someone I love, what might I do differently?”

  7. Essential Conversations • Whom do you need to talk with? • Thought Partners • Spouse • Kids • Siblings • Friends • Professionals • Those who will be impacted • People who will be involved in helping or care • Those who will be disrupters

  8. Process for Essential Conversations • Clearly identify the topic of the conversation • Start with processing, not problem-solving • Then generate solutions (or share information) • Make decisions • Take action if needed and plan follow-up discussion

  9. Where Do You Go From Here? To maintain choice, control, and freedom…. Think about what you want Explore and plan Have essential conversations with the people you love and who love you

  10. Thank you!

  11. Why Hard to Really Listen? We think we are right We may be in a hurry We have lots of other issues going on The decision has serious consequences- and we may be scared We are angry about past We need to slow down the pace and breathe

  12. LERA LISTEN EMPATHIZE REFRAME ACT

  13. Interest vs Position Our position is the thing we want Our interest is thereasonor reasons we want this Creativity happens at the interest level!

  14. Story Wehear We need tolisten for Positions Interests

  15. The Key to Success Remembering that the greatest human need is to feel heard and understood…not agreed with, but understood. Often hardest to do with the people we love…

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