FAMILY, MARRIAGE AND SINGLENESS IN THE 21 ST CENTURY. UNDERSTANDING THE REALITIES! Dennis Franck, Director Single Adult/Young Adult Ministries Assemblies of God, USA. MYTHS--WHAT DO YOU THINK?. EVERYONE SHOULD GET MARRIED… SOMETHING’S WRONG WITH YOU IF NOT MARRIED SINGLE ADULTS…
UNDERSTANDING THE REALITIES!
Dennis Franck, Director
Single Adult/Young Adult Ministries
Assemblies of God, USA
CHRISTIANS MUST REJECT MYTHS AND STEREOTYPES ABOUT SINGLE ADULTS!
Never married 61.5 M 26.9%
Divorced 23.7 M 10.4%
Widowed 14.3 M6.3%
99.5 M 43.6%
Separated 5.5 M 2.4%
Source: U.S. Census Bureau, Current Population Survey, 2010
Social & Economic Supplement
2004 27.8 26.5
1990 26.1 23.9
1980 24.7 22.0
1970 23.2 20.8
1960 22.8 20.3
USA Today-July 18, 2005, 6 D-taken from the 2005 census bureau demographics
1900 5% of all households
1960 13% of all households
1970 17% of all households
2008 28% of all households
America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2008
-Reported in 10/15/06 Yahoo News, Maxim Kniazkov
U.S. CENSUS BUREAU - 2005 American Community Survey
single parent family
--Goter, Susan, Strategic Adult Ministry Journal, Issue 146, 12, 13 --Horn, Wade F., President of the National Fatherhood Initiative, Gaithersburg, Md
--SAM Journal, Issue 144, p 7 and Issue 146, p 13
--American Blended Family Association
--Time Magazine, September 25, 2000 - “Family” Barna Research Online
5.5 million of the opposite sex.www.census.gov/acs/www/Products/users_guide/index.htm
--The National Marriage Project-Rutgers University - 2006
–Step Family Association of America
IN MANY CHURCHES, ONLY25-35%OF ADULTS ARE SINGLE/SINGLE-AGAIN!
WHY DO OUR CHURCHES HAVE A SMALLER PERCENTAGE THAN SOCIETY HAS?
CONSIDER THESE COMMENTS…
“Out of the divorces, widowhood, the singles bars, clubs, apartment and condominiums, comes a torrent of need, and it is flowing right past the door of our churches...there is boundless talent and creativity in this flood of young adults/single adults. The church can help and it can also be helped. It can give and it can receive. OPPORTUNITY IS THERE! WHAT WILL WE DO?”
-Edward & Gwen Weising, Authors of Singleness-An Opportunity for Growth and Fulfillment
ALL AGES…18 - 98 YRS.
If you are helping/workingin the Young Adult OR Single Adult Ministry, stay standing.
BUT WE MUST PROVIDE RELEVANT ENTRY POINTS FOR THEM!
Relating to my former spouse
Managing sexuality as a single adult
Financial issues as a single
Building healthy relationships with same/opposite sex
Relating to spouse during separation
Forgiving my former spouse
Contentment as a single adult
Learning to trust again
Loneliness and singleness
Singleness in a family-oriented church
Finding my career
Pre - marital education
Re – marital education
Relating to married adults as a single adult
Adjusting to widowhood
Healthy step-parentingUNIQUE INTERESTS/NEEDS OF SINGLE ADULTSWHERE IN THE CHURCH ARE THESE ADDRESSED?
SINGLE ADULT VS. MARRIED ADULT CLASSES
# OF VISITORS OUTSIDE THE CHURCH?
# OF VISITORS INSIDE THE CHURCH?
USUALLY 40-60% OF SUNDAY AM VISITORS
BY GIVING TITHES AND OFFERINGS!
“Every group in the church has unique needs and gifts...children, youth, men, women, marrieds etc. Because we have put emphasis on these groups for so long, we have inadvertently forgotten the singles and have led them to believe we don't expect them to be involved in ministry. The apostle Paul said that for ministry it is better to be single! (I Cor.7: 25-35) The purpose of ministry to singles is to help them see they ARE the church and to help them come to a place of ministry.”
-David Reddout, Pastor, First Assembly of God--Leesville, LA-Adult Ministries Consultant, Assemblies of God Sunday School Department--1981-1985
WHEN NOMINATING OR CHOOSING LEADERSHIP IN THE CHURCH FOR…
PEOPLE ARE WHOLE AND COMPLETE WHETHER
MARRIED OR SINGLE!
COL. 2:10“YOU ARE COMPLETE IN HIM!”
BY BRINGING PEOPLE
publicly against slavery in the south
THEY WERE ALL SINGLE ADULTS!
IN THE BEGINNING…
IN THE END…
OUR FAITH IS BASED UPON: