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Elder's Leadership Certification Level - 1: Communication Skills

Learn effective communication skills through Jesus' Four Encounters: the woman at the well, the rich young ruler, Zacchaeus, and Nicodemus at night. Understand principles of information usage, interpersonal gap, body language, and more.

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Elder's Leadership Certification Level - 1: Communication Skills

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  1. ELDER’S LEADERSHIP CERTIFICATION LEVEL - 1

  2. Communication Skills

  3. Jesus’ Four Encounters • The woman at the well (John 4:4-26) • The rich young ruler (Luke 18:18-25) • Zacchaeus (Luke 19:1-9) • Nicodemus at night (John 3:1-15)

  4. Principles to Understand and Use Information “Lag Time” • The gap between the speed of talking and the speed of listening.

  5. Principles to Understand and Use Information “Lag time” is to be used to: • listen to the words being used. • observe the body language. • make note of the repetition of thoughts and words.

  6. Principles to Understand and Use Information Questions to keep in mind while listening are: • Why is this person saying this to me now? • Why did they choose to say this at this time? • Why do they keep repeating certain words and thoughts?

  7. Principles to Understand and Use Information Questions to keep in mind while listening are: • When did they lower their voice to a whisper? • What were the first words they used? • Why are they keeping their arms folded so tightly across their chest? Are they agitated?

  8. Principles to Understand and Use Information Congruence • Congruence is when words, tone of voice, and body language all convey the same message.

  9. Principles to Understand and Use Information Three Components to Congruence • Words are only 7% of the total communication package. • Tone carries 38%. • Body language is 55% of the overall picture.

  10. Principles to Understand and Use Information Three Components of Congruence

  11. Principles to Understand and Use Information The Interpersonal Gap The interpersonal gap is the difference between the backgrounds, education, religious beliefs, and history of each party and how clearly each understands the other.

  12. Principles to Understand and Use Information Body language Certain gestures give an idea as to how a person is feeling. This is especially true when several gestures point to a specific characteristic.

  13. Become Aware of the Cry for Help

  14. Anxiety is brought about in Four Ways: • Something bad really happens. • A moral issue. • A neurotic problem. • An existential issue.

  15. Anxiety is Caused by Conflicts: • Within the family. • Between families. • With work overload. • With a boss or pastor.

  16. The Outcome of Anxiety Provoking Events: • The individual issues subconscious cries for help. • When the cries are not "heard" the individual gets angry and their behavior changes. • They say or do things they’ll later regret.

  17. The Outcome of Anxiety Provoking Events: • They begin to be irregular in their activities. • Their behavior changes. • They seal off their pain that will once again give a sense of belonging.

  18. Principles to Understand and Use Information Ask the Right Question at the Right Time • Listen for information that is volunteered in the conversation. • Use questions that show interest.

  19. Principles to Understand and Use Information Ask the Right Question at the Right Time • Start with generalities, then move to more specific questions. • Ask only those things which apply to the conversation.

  20. Principles to Understand and Use Information Do not use prying questions • That probe into personal affairs. • That change the subject. • That appear judgmental and that appear as if we know the right answer.

  21. Principles to Understand and Use Information Do not be afraid of Silence

  22. Principles to Understand and Use Information CHECK FEELINGS HAPPY SAD ANGRY AFRAID

  23. Principles to Understand and Use Information Direct Expression of Feeling • Use "I" statements and not the blaming "you" statements.

  24. Principles to Understand and Use Information Language Dominance • Audio – words related to sounds. • Visual – words related to sight. • Feeling – words related to touch.

  25. Principles to Understand and Use Information Language Dominance

  26. Listening to Stories Five types of stories: • I know someone who... • Anniversary story • Rehearsal story • Reinvestment story • The counter story

  27. Listening to Stories Four levels of stories: • Long ago and far away • Feelings long ago • Feelings now • Self-disclosure

  28. Commandment Listening

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