Chapter 10: Intercultural Competence in Interpersonal Relationships. Benefits and Challenges of Intercultural Relationships Cultural Differences in Notions of Friendship Cultural Differences in Relational Development Relationships Across Differences Contexts of Intercultural Relationships.
5. Characteristics of friends are prioritized differently in different cultures, both internationally and domestically.
Cultural differences affect relationships at each stage of development:
1. Initial attraction
2. Exploratory interaction
3. Stability phase
3. Physical attraction is especially important in the United States.
4. Standards for physical attractiveness are culturally based.
5. According to the similarity principle, we tend to be attracted to people we perceive to be similar to ourselves.
6. Finding that people agree with our beliefs confirms that we are right and provides us with cognitive consistency.
7. The complementarity principle - we are also attracted to persons who are somewhat different from ourselves in ways that can contribute balance in a relationship.
Gao (1991) and others have found both similarities and differences across cultures, some of which seem to reflect individualism-collectivism.
1. Gay and straight relationships differ in terms of:
a. the role of same-sex friendships,
b. the role of cross-sex friendships, and
c. the relative importance of friendships.
2. Some issues (permanent relationships, relational dissolution) are unique to gay and lesbian partners.
3. Same-sex relationships are very much influenced by the cultural contexts in which they occur.
The likelihood of dating interculturally is influenced by
- family attitudes,
- geographic context,
- social status, and
- larger social discourses.