Celibacy. Typescomplete celibacypartial celibacyReasons or benefitsreligious, moral beliefswaiting for the appropriate personsex is not a priorityhealth considerationsrecovery from addictionlearning about other aspects of self. Terms. autoeroticism - self stimulation, including sexual fantasies, erotic dreams,
1. Sexual Expression, Power, & Aggression Rhonda Martin, MS, RN
The University of Tulsa
2. Celibacy Types
Reasons or benefits
religious, moral beliefs
waiting for the appropriate person
sex is not a priority
recovery from addiction
learning about other aspects of self
3. Terms autoeroticism - self stimulation, including sexual fantasies, erotic dreams, & masturbation.
pleasuring - erotic non-genital touching.
cunnilingus - oral stimulation of female genitals
fellatio - oral stimulation of male genitals
4. Sexual Attraction Varies
across ethnic groups
Does attractiveness give sexual power?
Where are looks most important
5. Erotic dreams & fantasy Dreams
expression & exploration of desires
most males, 2/3rds of females
95% of males & females fantasize
6. Erotic dreams & fantasy Functions of fantasy
source of pleasure & arousal
overcome sexual anxiety through rehearsal
acceptable expression of socially unacceptable behavior
gender similarities & differences
frequency is similar
content varies widely within & between sexes
7. Erotic dreams & fantasy Helpful or hindering
most research considers fantasies to be helpful
erosion of trust,
8. “Last time I tried to make love to my wife nothing was happening, so I said to her, “What’s the matter, you can’t think of anybody either?”
9. The Sexual Fantasy Frontier in Cyberspace 12% of males, 10% of females in college have experienced “on-line sex”
Taking on-line sex “off-line” can be risky
10. Masturbation Perspectives
censured as non-procreational
erroneous views about its effect on health
Freud considered it immature
contemporary views are conflicted
research suggests not harmful
Vatican continues to condem
11. Masturbation Purposes
relieve sexual tension
valuable means of self-exploration
assists in physical relaxation
“The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.” Truman Capote
12. Masturbation Self-pleasuring techniques
follow your moral values
set aside adequate time & relax
text describes several methods
“The only reason I feel guilty about masturbation is that I do it so poorly.” David Steinberg
13. Sexual expression: the importance of context & meaning sexual behaviors take place as interactions between people.
feeling, desires, and attitudes strongly influence choices about sexual activity.
Mutual consent & sensitivity to sexual needs is an important aspect of a sexual relationship
14. Sexual expression: the importance of context & meaning Maltz levels of sexual expression
1 = role fulfillment
2 = making love
3 = authentic sexual intimacy
1 = impersonal interaction
2 = abusive interactions
3 = violent interactions
15. Kissing & touching Touching
cornerstone of human sexuality
whole body is responsive
specific erogenous zones
closed mouth = tender, affectionate
open mouth = sexually intense (erotic kissing, “rite of passage”
16. Kissing & touching Manual stimulation of genitals
great variation in preferences
17. Kissing & touching: hands-on experiment Large circle, same direction, everyone massage x 1 min.
Pair up & alternate with SILENT massage x 1 min.
Pair up & alternate massage x 1 min. allowing verbal feedback - what feels good, what doesn’t feel good
18. Kissing & touching: hands-on experiment SILENTLY return to your seats & reflect on your reactions.
Which massage was the best & why?
Were you surprised by any of the feedback you got about the massages you were giving?
Did you notice any feedback during the silent massages?
19. Oral-genital stimulation Types: cunnilingus & fellatio
increased since Kinsey’s early survey;
especially in young adults
less by some ethnic groups(African Am.)
? education - ? chance of oral sex
20. Anal stimulation Prevalence is lower than other forms of sexual activity
Health risk (HIV, other infections)
21. Gay & Lesbian sexual expression Lesbian sexual behaviors
sex is unsatisfactory without penile penetration
dildos are used frequently
similar to noncoital heterosexual behaviors
tribadism = rubbing genitals together
less frequent sex over time
22. Gay & Lesbian sexual expression Gay male sexual behaviors
anal intercourse is most common
similar to noncoital heterosexual behaviors
fellatio, mutual masturbation are most common
23. Coitus & coital positions Purposes
24. Coitus & coital positions Position variations
greater or lesser control for one partner,
greater or lesser sensory stimulation
man or woman above
face-to-face, side-lying, rear entry
25. Coitus & coital positions Frequency
1998 national average = 1 x/week
higher frequency associated with
some college education
60+ hour work week
television (especially PBS)
preference for jazz music
extreme liberal or conservative
smoking & drinking
26. Tantric intercourse Ancient eastern path to spiritual enlightenment
sexual expression considered a form of spiritual meditation
involves control & delay of orgasm with focus on harmonizing with partner
27. What types of sexual expression are alluded to in
music - country, rock, pop, rap, heavy metal, new wave
28. Flirting Vs Harassment How do you distinguish between flirting and harassment?
Are there gender differences?
Does it make a difference if one is superior to the other? A peer? Dating?
Has concern about sexual harassment changed peoples behavior?
29. Sexual Harassment Definition: unwanted sexual attention in the workplace or academic setting
TU Student Handbook
Are these behaviors sexually harassing?
Gender stereotyped jokes or depictions
teasing sexual remarks
unwanted suggestive looks, letters, phone calls, leaning, cornering, touching, pressure for dates or sexual activity
30. Sexual Harassment In the workplace -prohibited by Title VII of the 1964 Civil Rights Act
two kinds: verbal & physical
quid pro quo
hostile or offensive environment
incidence - 15% of M; 42% of F
effects on the victim
31. Severity Levels Mild:
sexual or sexist remarks; unwelcome intrusion; leering or whistling; crude language; sexual pictures or objects on display
graphic comments about one’s sexuality; sexual proposition unrelated to employment; nonsexual physical contact or sexual verbal abuse
32. Severity Levels Severe:
requiring sexual services as an employment condition; unwanted sexual contact/conduct or sexual assault
33. Dealing with Sexual Harassment If assaulted, file criminal charges
if not assaulted, confront harasser & clearly state that the behavior is harassment, you will not tolerate it, & you will file a complaint
discuss with supervisor, coworkers
file official complaint
34. Sexual Harassment In the academic settings
coercion focuses on grades, letters of recommendation, work or research
university may be held responsible for peer-harassment
incidence - 33-50% of medical students
30-50% of graduate females
20-30% of undergraduate females
9-20% of undergraduate males
35. Sexual Harassment Dealing with academic harassment
report it, even if you change classes, advisors, or drop out
follow procedures for sexual harassment in workplace
36. Prejudice Cultural influence
37. Prejudice Heterosexual bias
38. Prejudice Religious influence
39. Discuss various scenes from movies related to power, harassment, prejudice, etc.
40. Aggression Coercion
sexual intercourse during actual or threatened force that overcomes earnest resistance of victim
41. Rape Statistics 19-30% of various samples of Fe have reported attempted or completed rape
Underreported for many reasons
not perceived as rape
concern for the rapist
attempt to block it out
mistrust of police, legal system
fear of reprisal from rapist
concern about unwanted publicity
42. Rape Myths You can’t thread a moving needle.”
“All women want to be raped.”
Female asked for it.
Females only raped by strangers.
Female could really avoid rape IF wanted to.
Females “cry rape” for revenge.
“It could never happen to me.”
Rapists are crazy/psychopaths.
Most rapists are black males.
43. Types of rapes & rapists Type: Anger
venting rage & contempt or revenge
lack of sexual satisfaction
impulsive & irregular
excessive physical violence & degradation
44. Types of rapes & rapists Type: Power
desire to exert control
secondary sexual gratification
premeditated, repetitive, & ?s in frequency
use of force to gain control
45. Types of rapes & rapists Type: Sadistic
attempt to regain control & discharge frustrations
aggression is erotic
use of bondage, torture, abuse
46. Types of rapes & rapists Type: Sexual Gratification
use of varying levels of force; the need for excessive force to ? resistance often stops the attempt
47. Acquaintance Rape & Sexual Coercion Men & women, women more likely
role of perceptions & communication
date rape drug:
Rohypnol, Liquid X, etc.
48. Wartime Rape U.N. 1996 declaration: Crime of War
motivated by attempts to
dominate, humiliate, control
destroy family & societal bonds ? disabling of enemy
terrorize population ? escape & ethnic cleansing
49. Reducing the risk of stranger rape Do not advertise you are alone.
Do not open door to strangers.
Cell phone when out alone. Keep car doors locked.
Be aware of surroundings.
Keys in hand.
White cloth to antenna.
Sound a loud noise alarm.
50. React in threatening stranger situations Run away if you can
Resist if unable to run
No rules apply
Talk to stall
Alert to escape opportunity
51. Reducing the risk of acquaintance rape Be cautious
Watch for dominating behavior
Cover some of the expenses
Avoid alcohol and drugs
Avoid “teasing” behavior
Direct verbal protests
52. What to do if you have been raped Decide whether to report
ANY information remember is helpful
Call police asap – do not bathe or change
May help to contact rape crises center
Tx. program if symptoms do not improve
You are not to blame
53. Abuse Prevention New idea
what constitutes abuse
difficult to discuss
sex education controversial
54. Abuse Prevention CAP (child abuse prevention)
teach “good” and “bad” touching
right to say no
how to avoid coercion
early education of boys & girls
build confidence, not fear
tell until listened to
include (+) aspects of mutually shared sexual contact
55. Resources Call RAPE - 918-744-7273 (24 hrs)
Rape Abuse & Incest National Network
Sexual Assault Information Page www.cs.utk.edu/~bartley/saInfoPage.html
CyberTipLine @ 1-800-843-5678
56. Group Work Divide into 8 groups
Answer the questions
Discuss with the class