Let’s Talk. ANGER MANAGEMENT. ANGER MANAGEMENT. Anger management does not involve getting rid of all anger, but using anger to enhance your life. We can look at the purposes of anger in both a positive and negative light. . ANGER MANAGEMENT.
Anger management does not involve getting rid of all anger, but using anger to enhance your life. We can look at the purposes of anger in both a positive and negative light.
The positive aspects of anger are you have increased energy, are able to communicate your feelings, able to problem solve and can take charge of the situation.
The negative aspects of anger are you can have disruption of your thinking, unnecessarily defend yourself, become aggressive and become known as an angry person.
Anger management is a way to increase the positive aspects of anger and decrease the negative aspects of anger.
Know the difference between ANGERand AGGRESSION.
Sometimes anger really is …
You are in charge of your own feelings:
You own your feelings.
It is okay to feel angry.
Anger is part of being human.
Learn how to express your anger in helpful ways.
Do you show anger in aggressive ways?
Kick people or things
Get in someone’s face
Shove, grab or hit
Call people names
Give someone a dirty look
Give people the silent treatment
Get others to “gang up”
Choose to feel good about yourself by expressing your feelings.
Express your feelings in ways that are fair to others and yourself.
Use fair words…such as “I feel…”
The more you learn to take care of your anger the more powerful you become.
You need to control what you do with your anger.
You control how you let your anger out.
Practice cooling off.
Watch your thoughts.
Identify possible consequences of your anger to others and yourself.
What can that mean for you?
Physical harm to someone or self
Destruction of property
Loss of friends
Loss of social privileges
Getting a bad reputation
Going to juvenile hall
Identify self-destructive behavior.
Blaming everyone else
Taking everything personally
Looking for fights
Stop blaming others and yourself.
What do you think
before your angry
Do you think …
You did that on purpose…
You wanted to hurt me…
You deserve this…
You never even asked me…
You’re being unreasonable…
You think you’re so good…
I’ll show you…
You started it…
It’s not fair…
Identify how you physically feel when you are angry
Stomach gets tight/upset
Heart beats faster
Feel yourself getting flushed
Pressure on your temples
You don’t have to hold on to your anger.
Ways to Calm Down: