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to. “What’s Wrong with a Little Arguing?”. by Robbin Howard. Plenty !. Wise parents know that doing the right t hing won’t guarantee a happy kid. Essential Skills for Love and Logic Parenting. Low Stress Strategies for Highly Successful Parents!. What’s. Love. and. Logic.

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  1. to “What’s Wrong with a Little Arguing?” by Robbin Howard Plenty!

  2. Wise parents know that doing the right thing won’t guarantee a happy kid.

  3. Essential Skills for Love and Logic Parenting Low Stress Strategies for Highly Successful Parents!

  4. What’s Love and Logic

  5. So, How Does Love and Logic help Parents and Children? By providing the tools for establishing a rewarding relationship built upon love and trust.

  6. The Rules of Love and Logic 1. Adults set firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture, threats or repeated warnings. (Which translates to…Adults take great care of themselves • Adults set limits using enforceable statements. • Adults regard mistakes as learning opportunities. • Adults resist the temptation to “nag.”

  7. The Rules of Love and Logic 2. When Children Misbehave and Cause Problems, Adults Hand these Problems Back in Loving Ways. • Adults provide strong doses of empathybefore describing consequences. • Adults use very few words and consistently loving actions. • Adults delay consequences, when necessary, so that they can respond with wisdom and compassion. • Children are given the gift of owning and solving their problems.

  8. Most Importantly, Love and Logic TeachesYou How to HAVE MORE FUN PARENTING!

  9. So… “What’s Wrong with a Little Arguing?”

  10. Love and Logic teaches that kids who learn to get their way through arguing and manipulating actually damage their own personality development.

  11. There is nothing wrong with a child that a little arguing won’t make worse. • There is nothing more exciting to a difficult child than an adult angered and frustrated by back-talk. • The angrier we get, the more likely the problem will continue and intensify.

  12. I only argue at 5:00 A.M. and 11:30 P.M. on Tuesday’s and Thursday’s. Pick One!

  13. NEUTRALIZING CHILDREN’S ARGUING Because trying to reason with an angry, arguing child is like fighting fire with gasoline. Or, when children say something that’s not very bright, why should we match it up!

  14. Wise Parents know…

  15. STEP ONE: GO BRAIN DEAD! Do not think about what the child is saying. WHY?If you think too much you might be tempted to reason with the child. And if you reason, it’s very likely that the childwill use your own words and trap you.

  16. SoftlyRepeat a Single Love and Logic One-Liner. The Power of Empathy: STEP TWO: Some Benefits of Delivering Consequences with Empathy: • The child’s brain stays in “thinking mode” instead of “fighting mode.” • The adult’s blood pressure stays lower. • The child must “own”his or her pain rather than blaming it on the adult. • The adult sees more cooperation… and less revenge. • The child can learn and achieve instead of resist and resent. The Most Important Love and Logic Skill

  17. Let’s look atthe following Love and Logic one-liners. Choose ONEthat fits your personality and memorize it. You may want to create your own. Remember: These are not designed to “get back at” anyone or “put them in their place.” I love/like (respect) you too much to argue. Thanks for sharing. Probably so. I know. Nice try. That’s an option. Bummer. How sad. I bet it feels that way. I’ll listen when you voice is calm. What do you think I think about that? What do you think you’re going to do about that?

  18. Keep Your Empathy Simple and Repetitive Most adults find it difficult to deliver empathy when a child has misbehaved. Rather than getting complicated, simplypick just one empathic response you can use each time you do discipline. When kids hear these same statements repeated, they learn two things: • My parentcares about me. • My parent is not going to back down. • Therefore, there is no use arguing!

  19. Providing empathy alone can emotionally cripple a child.What else needs to be in place?

  20. Empathy without holding kids accountable erodes responsibilityand self concept.Empathy followed by logical consequences builds responsibility.

  21. This Program Teaches You How To: • Identify the four steps to responsibility. • Learn how to neutralize arguing. • Recognize who has control. • Offer appropriate choices in order to share the control. • Identify if a given problem belongs to the child or to the parent. • Set limits for children using “thinking words,” or enforceable statements.

  22. This Program Also Teaches You How To: • Recognize empathic responses. • Design appropriate consequences for inappropriate behavior. • Design a strategy for resolving a problem situation, or problem behavior, using Love and Logic principles.

  23. For More Information Please Visit: www.loveandlogic.com Jim Fay and Dr.Charles Fay Dr. Foster Cline

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