A Restorative Approach to Intimate Partner Violence. Anne Hayden PhD. Introduction: The dilemma.
Anne Hayden PhD
My impression is that, mostly, women call the cops because they want the violence to stop right now. I don’t think consideration of what criminal justice system processes might be invoked as a result of dialling 111 figures much in their decision-making. In fact I think there is a serious lack of knowledge about what the system will do ... particularly … for women calling [or contemplating calling] the cops the first time. … There are two main impediments to calling the cops. One is shame. The other is fear that things will be made worse, specifically that they will be subject to payback. It is difficult to see how the availability of RJ will make a blind bit of difference to either.
Physical, sexual and/or psychological violence - dominance and subordination, intentional force, with or without the potential to cause death.
Physical violence - pain, injury, impairment or disease; sexual violence - forced, coerced or exploitative sexual behaviour or threats.
Psychological and emotional violence -causing anguish, fear, intimidation, harassment, damage to property, threats of physical or sexual violence, or deprivation of decision-making powers.
To me it is a mutual problem. It is not just one hitting on the other. Extreme cases ... maybe [of] one hitting on the other. But often it is not. It is a conflict which reflects the power struggle between the male and female. The man’s reaction, usually, is to get a bit physical. The female's tactic is usually a lot more subtle. But it's the actual issue. And simply to deal with one part of that conflict and to demonise one half of that conflict, is not dealing with the issue, with the fundamentals.
[Restorative justice] would be really helpful for people who were staying together to make sure it doesn't happen again, but also for those who are not. This is especially for the children; adults make choices but children can't. Anything that makes kids safer and saner has to be good.
Analysis of power in intimate relationships as: