Private Victory. Before you’ll ever win in the public arenas of life, you must first win private battles within yourself. All change begins with you. Private victory helps you become independent. Public Victory.
What do you wish you had spent more time doing?
Dad, can I play computer game tonight? I have finished all my work.
YES, BUT CAN YOU GO TO BED BY 10:30?
Okay, I promise.
BOY, IT IS 10:45 NOW. HOW COME YOU ARE STILL PLAYING?
I have to complete the game!
If your RBA with your parents is low, try building it by keeping your commitments, because when your parents trust you, everything goes so much better.
One kind word can warm three winter months! Japanese Saying
A hello, A kind note, A smile, A compliment, A hug – can make a big difference.
Don’t wait until people are dead to give them flowers!
One of the biggest RBA deposits you can make is to be loyal to other people.
Loyal people keep secrets
Loyal people avoid gossip
Loyal people stand for relationship
People need to feel safe and secure in relationships
Listening to someone can be one of the simple but great deposits into another’s RBA; … because people don’t listen usually.
You have knowledge of this, dear brothers. But let every man be quick in hearing, slow in words, slow to get angry. James 1:19
A yell, A bang to the door, Overreact, Make stupid mistake – will make a RBA overdrawn
But by saying ‘I was wrong’, ‘I apologize’, ‘I am sorry’ – can restore the overdrawn bank account
A lack of courage
I know that I have hurt youand wish I could take it back.I wish I could turn back the hoursand do it all over again.But we know that can’t happenthat it just isn’t possible.But I can say that I’m sorryand ask for your forgiveness.
To develop trust we need to avoid sending vague messages or implying something that is not true or not likely to happen
Think of a relationship that is damaged; propose the way to rebuild it.