1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens: The Ultimate Teenage Success Guide By Sean Covey
Presentation by Megan Wilson
Portales High School
2. “Powerful but not parental - an important message delivering much more than good advice, it offers true direction to teens living in a challenging, complex world. Covey offers sound, time-tested direction without sounding preachy or parental….packaging unquestionable wisdom into a friendly, approachable book that will inspire trust and encourage teens to follow their hearts, rather than simply follow the group.”
-Patrick S. O’Brien
3. Get in the Habit “We first make our habits, then our habits make us.”
-English Poet Habit 1: Be Proactive
Habit 2: Begin with an End in Mind
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Habit 6: Synergize
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
4. Familiar Struggles “ There’s too much to do and not enough time. I’ve got school, homework, job, friends, parties, and family on top of everything else. I’m totally stress out.”
“My family is a disaster. If I could only get my parents off my back I might be able to live my life. It seems they’re constantly nagging, and I can’t ever seem to satisfy them.”
“I feel as if my life is out of control.”
5. The 7 Habits can help you: Get control of your life
Improve your relationships with your friends
Make smarter decisions
Get along with your parents
Define your values and what matters most to you Get more done in less time
Increase your self-confidence
Find balance between school, work, friends, and everything else
6. Paradigms and Principals “Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you see the world.”
-George Bernard Shaw
7. Student Paradigms “No one in my family has ever gone to college. I’d be crazy to think I could make it”
“It’s no use. My stepdad and I will never get along. We’re just too different.”
“My teacher is out to get me.”
“You can’t get ahead in life unless you know the right people.”
“It’s impossible to get a job around here because nobody wants to hire a teen.”
8. Positive Self-Paradigms Bring Out The Best…. King Louis
The Cookie Thief
9. Paradigms of Life Friend-centered
10. The Real Thing Principal-Centered
11. Baby Steps Think of a limiting paradigm you might have of yourself, such as “I’m not outgoing.” Now, do something today that totally contradicts that paradigm.
The Golden rules!
The next time you’re in a tough situation and don’t know what to do, ask yourself, “What principal should I apply (i.e., honesty, love, loyalty, hard word, patience)?” Now, follow the principal and don’t look back.
12. The Private Victory I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change
-“Man In The Mirror”
By Siedah Garrett and
13. The Personal Bank Account Keep Promises to Yourself
Do Small Acts of Kindness
Be Gentle with Yourself
Tap into Your Talents
14. Baby Steps Sometime today, do a king anonymous deed, like writing a thank-you note, taking out the trash, or making someone’s bed.
The next time your parents ask you about what you’re doing, share the complete story. Don’t leave out information meant to mislead or deceive.
For one day, try not to exaggerate or embellish
15. Habit : Be Proactive “I am the Force”
-Proactive vs. Reactive
The Victimitis Virus
Turn Setbacks into Triumphs
Becoming a Change Agent
Just Push Pause
16. Baby Steps The next time someone flips you off, give them the peace sign back.
Do something today that you have wanted to do but never dared. Leave your comfort zone and go for it.
Listen carefully to your words today. Count how many times you use reactive language, such as “You make me….” “I have to…” “Why can’t they…..” “I can’t….”
17. Habit : Begin with the End in Mind “ Control your own destiny or someone else will”
-Writing your Mission Statement
- Count the cost
- Put it in pen
- Just do it
- Use Momentous Moments
- Rope Up
18. Baby Steps Look in the mirror and ask, “Would I want to marry someone like me?” If not, work to develop the qualities you’re lacking.
Think about your goals. Have you put them in pen and written them down? If not, take time to do it. Remember, a goal not written is only a wish.
Identify a negative label others may have given you. Think up a few things you can do to change that label.
19. Habit : Put First Things First “Will Power and Won’t Power”
20. “To realize the value of One Year,
Ask a student who failed his or her AP exams.
To realize the value of One Month,
Ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of One Week,
Ask an editor of a weekly magazine.
To realize the value of One Day,
Ask a daily wage laborer who has six kids to feed.
To realize the value of One Hour,
Ask the lower who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of One Minute,
Ask a person who missed their train.
To realize the value of One Second,
Ask the person who survived an accident.
To realize the value of One Millisecond,
Ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics.”
21. Baby Steps -Identify your biggest time-wasters. Do you really need to spend two hours on the phone, surf the Web all night, or watch that sitcom rerun?
Think of something you’ve procrastinated for a long time but that’s very important to you. Block out time this week to get it done.
How much impact does peer pressure have on you? Identify the person or people who have the most influence on you. Ask yourself, “Am I doing what I want to do or what they want me to do?”
22. Habit : Think Win-Win “Life is an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet”
The Totem Pole
The Downward Spiral
The All-You-Can-Eat Buffet
23. Baby Steps - If you play sports, show sportsmanship. Compliment someone from the opposing team after the match or game.
Pinpoint the area of your life where you most struggle with comparisons. Perhaps it’s with clothes, physical features, friends, or talents.
If someone owes you money, don’t be afraid to mention it in a friendly way.
24. Habit : Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood “ You Have Two Ears and One Mouth…”
Poor Listening Styles:
- Spacing out
- Pretend Listening
- Selective Listening
- Word Listening
- Self-centered listening
- Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears
- Stand in their shoes
- Practice Mirroring
25. PLEASE LISTEN
When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving me advice,
You have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me
And you begin to tell me why
I shouldn’t feel that way,
You are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me
And you feel you have to do something
To solve my problem,
You have failed me,
Strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I ask is that you listen.
Don’t talk or do- just hear me.
26. Baby Steps See how long you can keep eye contact with someone while they are talking to you
Sometime this week, ask your mom or dad, “How’s it going?” Open up your heart and practice genuine listening. You’ll be surprised by what you learn.
The next time you find yourself wanting to bury your feelings deep inside you, don’t do it. Instead, express them in a responsible way.
27. Habit : Synergize “The ‘High’ Way”
Define the Problem or Opportunity
28. Baby Steps When you meet a classmate or neighbor with a disability or impairment, don’t feel sorry for them or avoid them because you don’t know what to say. Instead, go out of your way to get acquainted.
Share a personal story with an adult you trust. See if the exchanging or viewpoints leads to new insights and ideas about your problem.
Next time you are having a disagreement with a parent, try out the Getting to Synergy Action Plan
29. Habit : Sharpen the Saw “It’s Me Time”
- Balance is Better
Take Time for a Time-Out
You are What you eat
Use it or Lose it
It’s all about how you feel, not how you look
30. Baby Steps Give up a bad habit for a week. Go without soda, fried foods, donuts, chocolate, or whatever else may be hurting your body.
Watch the sunset tonight or get up early and watch the sunrise.
Go on a one-on-one outing with a family member like your mom or your brother.
31. How I teach these concepts in my classroom
The cost of the book:
$16.00 which includes the book and a workbook