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Homosexuality and the church

Homosexuality and the Church

A Biblical Paradigm for Ministering to Those Impacted by Homosexuality


First things first
First Things First

Probably the most important question to ask first is this one:

Is homosexuality an “issue” the church needs to address?


3 options for believers
3 Options for Believers

  • Viable Alternative Lifestyle

  • Demon Possession

  • Conduct Disorder


“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.”


5 questions
5 Questions the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

  • What is homosexuality?

  • What do our society and my personal experience say about homosexuality?


5 questions1
5 Questions the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

  • What do the Scriptures teach about homosexuality?

  • What do we believe to be true about homosexuality?


5 questions2
5 Questions the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

  • What do we do about those within our fellowship who have been impacted by SSA and gender-confusion?


I what is homosexuality

Words Matter the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

I. What is Homosexuality?


A simple definition
A Simple Definition the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

  • Homosexuality is:

    • Same-Sex Attraction —SSA (SGA/SSP/SGP).

      • “An enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to members of the same gender.”


Breaking it down
Breaking it Down the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

  • Homosexuality is:

    • Multi-causal

    • Developmental

    • 3-Tiered


Multi causal
Multi-Causal the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.

  • Social/Environmental

  • Psychological

  • Emotional

  • Behavioral


“The [homosexual] individual suffers from a lack of identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

Elizabeth R. Moberly, MD; 1983

Homosexuality: A New Christian Ethic


Multi causal1
Multi-Causal identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • Overly Sensitive

    • Compliant: “Always a good boy”

    • Cries easily

    • Creative more than athletic

    • Partial to more “feminine” activities

    • Aversion to roughness/sports


Multi causal2
Multi-Causal identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • Same-Gender Detachment

    • SG parent absent or uninterested

    • SG parent hostile/rejects

    • Insecure or overly strong attachment to other parent

    • Rejected/feels unsafe in SG world


Multi causal3
Multi-Causal identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • Poor Peer Attachment

    • SG peers taunt, tease, name-call

    • SG peers don’t “choose”

    • More secure with opposite gender

    • Rejected/feels unsafe in world of peers


Multi causal4
Multi-Causal identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • Abuse

    • Sexual

    • Physical

    • Verbal

    • Emotional

    • Spiritual


Multi causal5
Multi-Causal identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • Puberty

    • Pre-puberty stress over one’s sexuality

    • Doubt and sexuality stressors inhibit brain development

    • Poor or late physical development

    • SG fascination


3 tiers
3 Tiers identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • Homosexuality is 3-tiered; it has three different “levels” or dimensions.

    • Condition/orientation

    • Behavior

    • Identity


3 tiers tier 1
3 Tiers — Tier 1 identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • CONDITION/ORIENTATION

    • Involuntary; “discovered”

    • Appears early and is deeply ingrained


3 tiers tier 2
3 Tiers — Tier 2 identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • BEHAVIOR

    • Sexual involvement with a member of the same gender

    • Can be actual or vicarious


3 tiers tier 3
3 Tiers — Tier 3 identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • IDENTITY

    • Primary identifying life characteristic

    • Acceptance of homosexuality as *normal and morally correct


Words matter
Words Matter identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

*Normal

  • Inborn or genetic

  • God-ordained

  • Morally acceptable/promotable


A word about gender
A Word About Gender identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • Gender is a biological reality

  • Gender is a core identifier

  • Our culture has exacerbated the issue


A word about g i d
A Word About G.I.D. identification with the same-sex parent and that, upon entering puberty, the unsatisfied childhood needs are eroticized, which results in the individual seeking to fulfill these legitimate needs with people of the same gender.”

  • Gender Identity Disorder affect hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions

  • GID is more complex and complicated than SSA

  • There is no quick fix


Christians ought to seriously consider how our careless use of any of these labels or categories confuses the language of faith.  It would be more fitting for the Church to speak of someone as experiencing same-sex attraction than to refer to him or her as homosexual, gay, or lesbian.


The Church has always viewed Christian identity in terms of our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.


Ii what do society and personal experience say about homosexuality

Our Context our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

II. What do society and personal experience say about homosexuality?


Worldview matters
Worldview Matters our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Our Anthropology

    • What is man?

    • Who is man?

    • What is the purpose of man?


Worldview matters1
Worldview Matters our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Our Theology

    • Does God exist?

    • Whose version of God is correct?

    • What does God require?


Worldview matters2
Worldview Matters our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Our Morality

    • Who or what determines right and wrong, good and bad?

    • Is there a transcendent “ought”, or are we left to self-determine?

    • Do we accept the mores of others?


Fact or fiction
Fact or Fiction? our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • On average, 10% of the population is homosexual, with a much higher number being male than female.

    • FICTION: The last part is true, but the first part, based upon US Census numbers, is less than 1% of the population self-identifies as homosexual.


Fact or fiction1
Fact or Fiction? our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Homosexuality is genetic. Researchers have found the equivalent of a “gay gene”.

    • FICTION: No scientifically accepted, replicable studies exist that clearly demonstrate that homosexuality is genetic.


Fact or fiction2
Fact or Fiction? our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Jesus never addressed homosexuality and the Bible never teaches anything against healthy, loving same-sex unions.

    • FICTION: There is a great deal that the Bible says about homosexual conduct.


Fact or fiction3
Fact or Fiction? our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Homosexuality is a personal matter and it really isn’t anyone else’s business.

    • FICTION: The impact of sexual activity on those involved has always been a matter of responsible concern to society.


Our context
Our Context our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

The general context that we are living in today accepts and affirms homosexuality as normal, good, and right. This view is repeatedly endorsed in the media, entertainment, music, and literature—even that of our children.


Every story relates
Every Story Relates our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Like divorce, homosexuality touches every person in our society.

    • “My [loved one] is gay; how can I say that they are condemned by God?”


Stage of truth
Stage of Truth our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

Back—Background Cast

Center—Supporting Cast

Front—Starring Role


Sources of truth
Sources of Truth our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Tradition

  • Reason

  • Experience

  • Emotions

  • General Revelation

  • Special Revelation (Scripture)

Stage of Truth

Back

Front


Biblical stage of truth
Biblical Stage of Truth our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

Back

Experience

Emotions

General Revelation

Tradition

Reason

Scripture

Front


3 options for believers1
3 Options for Believers our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • What the Culture Says

  • What my Experience Says

  • What the Scriptures Say


Iii what do the scriptures teach about homosexuality

The Truth our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

III. What do the Scriptures teach about homosexuality?


A few passages
A Few Passages our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

Old Testament

New Testament

  • Romans 1:22-29

    • Very clearly speaks about men being sexually intimate with men and women being sexually intimate with women.

  • 1 Corinthians 6:9-10

    • Those engaged in sexual immorality (homosexual conduct specifically named) is part of a list of those who will not inherit the kingdom of God.

  • Leviticus 18:22

    • “You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.”

  • Leviticus 20:13

    • “If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them.”


The scriptures
The Scriptures our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Creation/Created Intent

    • Genesis 1:27-28; 2:18, 23-24


The scriptures1
The Scriptures our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • The Destruction of Sodom

    • Genesis 19:4-9


The scriptures2
The Scriptures our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • The Levitical Law

    • Leviticus 18:22; 20:13


The scriptures3
The Scriptures our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Paul on "Natural" and "Unnatural’

    • Romans 1:26-27


The scriptures4
The Scriptures our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Paul and 'Arsenokoite'

    • 1 Corinthians 6:9-10; 1 Timothy 1:9-10


1 corinthians 6 9
1 Corinthians 6:9 our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals …


1 corinthians 6 10
1 Corinthians 6:10 our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

… nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God.


1 corinthians 6 11
1 Corinthians 6:11 our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.


False dichotomies
False Dichotomies our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Many in the Church believe that there is a hotter place in Hell for homosexuals than for most other sinners and that no one can be Christian and gay.

  • Many in the Church believe that the opposite of homosexuality is heterosexuality.


Resolution
Resolution our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

“He who believes in the Son has eternal life; but he who does not obey the Son will not see life, but the wrath of God abides on him.”

John 3:36


The wrath of god
The Wrath of God our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

“For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodlinessand unrighteousnessof men who suppress the truth in unrighteousness.”

Romans 1:18


The opposite of homosexuality is NOT heterosexuality … our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

it is

HOLINESS


2 questions
2 Questions our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Can you be gay and be a Christian?

  • Do gays go to hell?


2 better questions
2 Better Questions our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Can you be guilty of any of the list in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and be a Christian?

  • If you are any one or all of those things, will you go to hell?


Iv what do we believe to be true about homosexuality

Our Paradigm our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

IV. What do we believe to be true about homosexuality?


You decide
You Decide our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • As a part of the Body of Christ, each fellowship must determine where it will come down on these matters.


You decide1
You Decide our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Will we accept the Scriptural teaching about homosexuality and respond honestly and compassionately?

  • Will we respond as the culture demands?


Ideas have consequences
Ideas Have Consequences our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • When we take any stand, we set up “dominoes of consequence”.

  • Paying close attention to the last falling domino is critical.


Our Response our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

V. What do we do about those within our fellowship who have been impacted by SSA and gender-confusion?


Our response
Our Response our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Must be Biblical

    • Holds fast to the clear teaching of Scripture

  • Must be Christ-like

    • Combines grace and truth


Our response1
Our Response our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Must be authentic

    • Combines humility and compassion


Action steps

Action Steps our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

A Church Prepared for Ministry


Pray plan act
Pray, Plan, Act our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Pray for opportunities;

  • Plan for the wounded to come;

  • Act with bold love and no compromise.


3 groups
3 Groups our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Militant

  • Moderate

  • Struggling


Militant
Militant our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Aggressive agenda

  • Intolerant of opposition

  • Raging

  • Theatrical


Moderate
Moderate our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Socially responsible

  • Morally upright

  • Private

  • Defensive


Struggler
Struggler our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Deep shame and guilt

  • Confused about “really right” and “really wrong”

  • Often rejected and defensive


Ministry philosophy
Ministry Philosophy our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Needs to be defined and clearly articulated:

    • Statement of Faith

    • Theological Distinctives

    • Ministry Foci


Ministry culture
Ministry Culture our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Needs to be defined and clearly articulated:

    • Who are we?

    • What is our mission?

    • How will we live this out with same-sex attracted and the gender confused?


Education who
EDUCATION:--Who our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Leadership

  • Congregation

  • Specific Ministry Personnel


Education what
EDUCATION—What our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Standard and Pro-Gay Theology

  • Studies/science

  • Causalities (Ministering to the underlying brokenness is the key.)

  • Current laws, pending legislation


Myths
Myths our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Homosexuality is the worst sin of all;

  • Homosexuality is a choice;

  • Homosexuality is about sex;

  • Homosexuals are pedophiles;

  • Heterosexuality is the opposite of homosexuality.


Action steps1

Action Steps our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

Getting Dirt Under Our Fingernails


Evangelize disciple
Evangelize & Disciple our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Develop a relationship:

    • Invite to your home;

    • Invite to activities;

    • Invest regular personal time;

    • Pray with often—no matter the issue.


Evangelize disciple1
Evangelize & Disciple our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Be vulnerable:

    • Share your own challenges;

    • Admit to doubts and ignorance;

    • Laugh easily;

    • Cry effortlessly;

    • Repent often.


Evangelize disciple2
Evangelize & Disciple our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Be focused:

    • Gospel-centric, not issue-centric;

    • Christian vs. non-Christian;

    • Center on Christ-likeness;

    • Be fearless.


Be a safe place
Be A Safe Place our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • There are Christians in your midst who

    • Struggle with unwanted SSA

    • Have a friend or family member who self-identifies as gayor has SSA


Be unashamed
Be Unashamed our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Speak openly and without ridicule about homosexuality

    • Helps them not feel isolated

    • Helps them feel loved in spite of their struggles


Be available
Be Available our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Listen openly and courageously

    • Let them tell about all of their struggles

    • No pat answers, no Christian-ese


Be a toucher
Be a our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.Toucher

  • Non-sexualized touch shouts “Acceptance!”

    • Hand on shoulder, hand shake, even a hug

    • Ask permission first - help establish and maintain safe boundaries


Be accessible
Be Accessible our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • When they open up, they need to know they haven’t been rejected

    • Call them, send a card or note

    • Invite and accept their phone calls

    • Be seen with them


Be bold
Be Bold our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • They may not even be attracted to you

    • SSA does not mean “Attracted to Everyone of the Same Sex”

    • Homosexuality is not about sex, it’s about relationship


Be ready
Be Ready our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Healing is a process, not an event

    • They may even act out more before the real healing comes

    • As long as the struggle continues, there is hope


Be encouraging
Be Encouraging our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Allow them to be involved

    • Attend Bible studies, small groups, prayer teams, church activities

    • Allow them to serve as they are gifted to serve


Pray plan act1
Pray, Plan, Act our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.

  • Bold Love

  • Authentic Relationships

  • Courageous Listening

  • Be Consistent

  • Be Patient


Q & A our relationship to God. Once the Church succumbs to the idea that our basic identity is sexual rather than theological in nature, then the Church has already lost its way and is weakened in the discussion.


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