Parenting Workshop Adolescent Hood. Mary Ann Bishay [email protected] What is Adolescence?. Time of transition and change “Adults in training” Incredible changes that involve many areas of her life: neurological, hormonal, emotional, social, and spiritual.
God's word provides the best way to raise children.
1. “If my parents would just leave me alone, everything would be fine.”
2. “My parents are so out of touch”
3. My parents are control freaks
4. “All my parents care about is…”
his appearance and actions suggest
5. “They don’t even know me”
teachers)* Drinking* Violence and fighting (students with students or
with teachers)* Immodesty, lack of dress codes* Coed gym - immodest uniforms* Smoking* Peer pressure/bad crowds
Parental involvement is a key ingredient in fostering adolescents’ success
relationship to His children to a father‘s
relationship to his earthly children.
(Matthew7:9-11, Hebrew 12:5-11)
What is the greatest gift you can give your child? adolescents’ success
4. Accept them as they are. Don’t try to mold them into a clone of yourself. Let them know that you respect their individuality.
5. Be there, go to his football games, or her soccer games, their chorus recital, school plays, etc. It will make a difference to them.
6. Tell them that you love them, regardless of whether they say it back to you.
1. Use fewer words in shorter sentences. The more you talk, the less they listen
2. Don’t repeat yourself. Don’t repeat yourself. Don’t repeat yourself. Don’t repeat yourself!
3. Lower your voice. The louder you are the less they hear
4. Keep your hands down, especially when your kid is upset. Hands in faces are very provocative to teens. Never crowd them physically or verbally
8. Don’t cram too much into one conversation. Take
frequent breaks if you see frustration building on either side. Once it gets hot, you won’t get anything good done anyway. Don’t hesitate to say, “Let’s continue this tomorrow.”
9. Allow your kid to use the pressure-relief valve of walking out at times. Although it might appear as simple defiance, it might also be their way of avoiding snap-outs. Let them know that walking away is ok if you pick up the conversation again later.
10. Don’t go to ultimatums unless absolutely necessary. Kids see ultimatums as challenges to be risen to no matter what the cost. If you feel an ultimatum coming, it’s time for a time-out.
11. Don’t talk down to your adolescent.
discuss the issue