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Feelings Some Practical Guidelines for Understanding and Dealing with Emotional Arousal

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Feelings Some Practical Guidelines for Understanding and Dealing with Emotional Arousal

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    2. Why should I pay attention to this presentation? To a remarkablesometimes alarmingdegree, our feelings drive our lives. Many of us neither understand them nor manage them as well as we should. Most of us either take feelings too seriously or not seriously enough. This presentation will describe a practical foundation for a more effective approach to dealing with feelingsyours and others. Managing feelings more effectively will improve the quality of our lives.

    3. What are some effective guidelines for dealing with feelings? Take feelings very seriously. Dont take feelings too seriously. Take time to recognize underlying feelings. Remember that all feelings are legitimate. Express your feelings and invite others to do the same. Just ignore some feelings. Give feelings time. Recruit feelings to your cause. Exterminate dangerous feelings. Learn to predict how others will feel. Minimize rumination. Milk good feelings for all they are worth. Practice emotional detachment. Try to understand feelings. Give strong feelings wide berth. Cut aroused people some slack (but not too much). Look for contamination. Be prepared for widely varying sensitivities. Learn to let go. Know when to give up.

    4. Take feelings very seriously. Why should I? Feelings are a factor in every interaction. Feelings often prompt impulsive, regrettable actions. Feelings are emotional landmines. Feelings often lead to misunderstandings. Learningdesirable and undesirableis enhanced by emotional arousal. How can I? Always consider them up front. Monitor your own feelings, and be brutally honest. Ask others how they feel, and create an environment of openness. Acknowledge them. Avoid communication when either party is emotionally aroused or unprepared.

    5. Dont take feelings too seriously. Why should I? Feelings can hold you hostage. Feelings are ephemeral. They are often misleading. They can sometimes be attenuated or modified. They are huge de-motivators. How can I? Identify all of the available options. Pick the best option. Implement the best option in spite of how you (or others) feel. Explain why you are going ahead in spite of everyones feelings. Proper behavior produces good feelings.

    6. Accept all feelings as legitimate. Why should I? Because they are. Every feeling is a product of perception, sensitivity and environment. Anyone in the same exact circumstances would feel the same way. You wont make any progress until you do. Because thats what the Golden Rule says you should do. How can I? Recognize that a feeling is only a feeling. Dont confuse feelings with considered positions. Its not how we feel but what we do that matters. Say, I can see how you might feel that way, and mean it. Clarify instead of assuming that you know and understand others feelings.

    7. Practice emotional detachment. Why should I? Emotional arousal will distort your perceptions, garble your message and make you miserable. Aroused, you will behave impulsively instead of deliberately. Our greatest regrets usually originate from moments of passionate misdirection. Overreaction is epidemic in our culture Emotional confrontation can be life-threatening. How can I? Monitor your own emotional arousal constantly. Adopt the observer role in volatile situations. Pray before entering the lions den (and follow a script). Remind yourself that giving way to emotional storms amplifies strong feelings. When you become emotionally aroused, secure the hatches and dive.

    8. Cut aroused people some slack (but not too much). Why should I? No one is perfect; we all need grace and forgiveness. The excessive toleration of emotional outbursts is neither kind nor helpful. It encourages additional outbursts and a dangerous escalation of out-of-control thought and behavior. Misbehaviorlike a foul gasexpands until it is contained. How can I? Consider whether there is a pattern of emotional outbursts. Is the transgressor truly sorry and repentant, or just saying what others want to hear? Assess the persons net worth to your life or to the organization. Document misbehavior. Confront appropriately. Consider a group intervention.

    9. What have I learned? Feelings are both more and less important that we might think. After our basic needs are met, feelings become the prime drivers in our lives. Misunderstood or mismanaged, feelings regularly get us into trouble or cause us distress. Understanding and managing feelings effectively is an important key to interpersonal and organizational success. Effective strategies for dealing with feelings exist, and they can be learned and mastered with intent and practice.

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