Communication Problems. According to the article, what help ed to solve the problems with relationships between Martians and Venusians?. Work in groups to answer the following questions.
According to the article, what helped to solve the problems with relationships between Martians and Venusians?
Work in groups to answer the following questions.
Both Martians and Venusians were able to solve such relationship-linked problems because they could recognize that they were different. One of the secrets of their success was good communication. According to the article, they could communicate well because, interestingly, they spoke different languages.
Do you agree that men and women seldom mean the same things even when they use the same words? Are there any examples in the article that may support your point of view?
Yes, I agree. Male speakers are more direct, and female speakers are more indirect or tactful. For instance, when a woman says, I feel like you never listen. she does not expect the word never to be taken literally. Using the word never is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment. It is not to be taken as if it were factual information.
Communication Between Martians and Venusians (Para. 13)
The author here skillfully applies analogue ()into the communication problem between men and women.
1) When they had problems,they would just go to a translator
2) When there was a conflict they didnt start judging or
fighting but insteadpulled out their phrase dictionaries to
understand each other more fully.
Communication Between Men and Women (Para. 49)
For example, if a woman says, I feel like you never listen, never is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment.
1. One of the secrets of success in dealing with relationship is
the good communication between Martians and Venusians.
2. How did they communicate well though they spoke different
languages? (Para. 2)
3. People from Mars and people from Venus experienced a
trust and acceptance that we rarely experience today. (Para.3)
1. Men and women seldom mean the same things even when
they use the same words. ( Para. 4)
2. Ten common complaints that are easily misinterpreted.
assume it was just one of those expected misunderstandings, that with a little assistance they would surely understand each other
a) Why is she looking at me as if she knew me?
b) He behaves as if he owned the house.
They talked as if they had been friends for years.
a) It was as if he had lost his last friend.
a) She looks as if she had seen a ghost.
He walks as if he is drunk.
He walks as if he were drunk.
look,seem, smell, sound, taste
take sth. lightly/seriously
UN urges financial institutions to take water scarcity more seriously.
At a time when half of the world is suffering from starvation, poor health and a deplorably low standard of living we simply cannot take lightly the population problem.
1.encounter( Line 1, Para. 1)
vt. find oneself faced by (danger, difficulties, etc.), meet
(an enemy or enemies); meet unexpectedly (a friend, etc.)
Describe your process of pursuing success.
Encountering difficulties in the process of pursuing success is quite normal.
That Muslim ______________________________________ on his way to Mecca to make a pilgrimage.
was encountered with an old friend from China
n. sudden or unexpected (esp. hostile) meeting (with)
An encounter with a branch of Al-Qaeda
___________________________________ resulted in a serious injury in the American soldiers left arm.
2.assistance(Line 6, Para. 2)
n. help; aid
Can I be of any assistance to you?
Chinese government is prepared to ___________________ to that quake-stricken African country.
give financial assistance
is of great assistance for
The identity of world champion _____________________
Liu Guoliang to become one of the youngest head coaches
of Chinese national table tennis team.
He is willing to assist those children from the single-parent families to go back to school.
He is willing to go to the aid of those ill-fated people.
He has already given us a lot of help.
3.conflict(Line 8, Para. 2)
n. 1) fight; struggle; quarrel
This is a serious dispute, and could lead to armed conflict.
There is a growing conflict of interest between her position as a politician and her business activities.
2) (of opinion, desires, etc.) opposition; difference
vi. be in opposition or disagreement
His statement was apparently in conflictwith other evidence.
Their account of the road accident conflictswith ours.
4.pull out(Line 8, Para.2)
1) take something out of a bag, pocket, or cupboard
pulled out all
That disarming young man ______________
____________________ to show to the two
strangers in the same carriage. (Adapted from
Feng Xiaogangs 2005 new year movie A
World Without Thieves)
his money from his bag
2) use force to take something from where it is
fixed or held
Youd better have that bad tooth pulled out tomorrow.
Pulling outthe lid of that bottle needs great strength.
5.emerge(Line 14, Para. 3)
vi. 1) come into view; appear
2) (of facts, ideas) appear; become known
The sun emerged from behind the clouds.
That fact that he was just the murderer emerged from theinterrogation.
No new ideas emerged during the discussion.
6.assume(Line 14, Para. 3)
vt. 1) believe something is true without definite proof
American national basketball team is not as unconquerable as you assumed it to be.
Let us first assume his statement to be believable.
2) take up; undertake
assumes a leading position
Her father ______________________ in that state-owned enterprise.
You should ________________________ of what you have done.
assume all the responsibilities
1) I suppose (that) well meet him at that hotel.
2) Few people supposed that young man (to be) innocent.
3) His brother was supposed to have already left for England.
answer, riddle, thought
1)Can you guess my age?
2) Guess what I am doing.
3) The little girl guessed the right answer immediately.
1)Can you imagine her becoming a famous hostess of CCTV?
2) You cannot imagine how happy I was to know that my
daughter was still alive.
e.g. She assumes that you always get up at the same time.
passenger train from London.
traveler, but she was in fact a thief.
assume, guess, imagine suppose
7. exaggerate(Line 23, Para. 5)
v. say something is better, worse or more important
than it really is
The significance of that commercial performance ___________________________.
has been obviously exaggerated
The deadly earthquake and tsunami breaking out in Southeast Asia in December 2004 was so serious that the final death toll _______________________ at first.
sounded a bit exaggerating
8.ignore(Line 32, Para. 5)
vt. take no notice of, refuse to pay attention to
People all over the world should not ignore severe water shortage problems.
I said hello to her, but she ignored me completely.
A good driver never ignores a red light.
9.convey(Line 42, Para. 6)
v. 1) communicate information or a message
I will have to convey that bad news to him.
The leaders of the local government _____________
_______________ to the relatives of that sacrificial
2) transport or carry
Those trucks had secretly conveyed weapons to the local anti-US forces.
A bus conveyed the passengers from the city to the airport.
10.on the verge of(Line 53, Para. 9)
very close to, on the border of
on the verge
Her husbands death almost pushed her ___________
of emotional collapse
Zhao Benshans humorous performance even made his serious-looking father _____________________.
on the verge of laughing
Famous singer Kris Phillips is _________________. (50)
on the verge of fifty
go to sb. for assistance / help
Speech is a means of conveying information.
I dont feel heard.
to take his words lightly
They are on the verge of arguing.