Communication Problems. According to the article, what help ed to solve the problems with relationships between Martians and Venusians?. Work in groups to answer the following questions.
According to the article, what helped to solve the problems with relationships between Martians and Venusians?
Work in groups to answer the following questions.
Both Martians and Venusians were able to solve such relationship-linked problems because they could recognize that they were different. One of the secrets of their success was good communication. According to the article, they could communicate well because, interestingly, they spoke different languages.
Do you agree that men and women seldom mean the same things even when they use the same words? Are there any examples in the article that may support your point of view?
Yes, I agree. Male speakers are more direct, and female speakers are more indirect or tactful. For instance, when a woman says, “I feel like you never listen.” she does not expect the word “never” to be taken literally. Using the word “never” is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment. It is not to be taken as if it were factual information.
The author here skillfully applies analogue (类比)into the communication problem between men and women.
1) When they had problems,they would just go to a translator
2) When there was a conflict they didn’t start judging or
fighting but insteadpulled out their phrase dictionaries to
understand each other more fully.
Communication Between Men and Women (Para. 4—9)
For example, if a woman says, “I feel like you never listen”, “never” is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment.
1. One of the secrets of success in dealing with relationship is
the good communication between Martians and Venusians.
2. How did they communicate well though they spoke different
languages? (Para. 2)
3. People from Mars and people from Venus experienced a
trust and acceptance that we rarely experience today. (Para.3)
1. Men and women seldom mean the same things even when
they use the same words. ( Para. 4)
2. Ten common complaints that are easily misinterpreted.
此句中，assume 后跟了两个宾语从句，一句为it was just one of those expected misunderstandings, 另一句为that with a little assistance they would surely understand each other。
a) Why is she looking at me as if she knew me?
b) He behaves as if he owned the house.
They talked as if they had been friends for years.
a) It was as if he had lost his last friend.
a) She looks as if she had seen a ghost.
He walks as if he were drunk.
look,seem, smell, sound, taste之后尤其如此。
A man’s literal translation of “I don’t feel heard” leads him to take the woman’s complaint lightly. (Line 47)
take sth. lightly/seriously
UN urges financial institutions to take water scarcity more seriously.
At a time when half of the world is suffering from starvation, poor health and a deplorably low standard of living we simply cannot take lightly the population problem.
vt. find oneself faced by (danger, difficulties, etc.), meet
(an enemy or enemies); meet unexpectedly (a friend, etc.)
情景造句：Describe your process of pursuing success.
Encountering difficulties in the process of pursuing success is quite normal.
That Muslim ______________________________________ on his way to Mecca to make a pilgrimage.
was encountered with an old friend from China
An encounter with a branch of Al-Qaeda
___________________________________ resulted in a serious injury in the American soldier’s left arm.
n. help; aid 帮助；援助
Can I be of any assistance to you?
Chinese government is prepared to ___________________ to that quake-stricken African country. （提供经济援助）
give financial assistance
is of great assistance for
The identity of world champion _____________________
Liu Guoliang to become one of the youngest head coaches
of Chinese national table tennis team. （有着很大的帮助）
He is willing to assist those children from the single-parent families to go back to school.
He is willing to go to the aid of those ill-fated people.
He has already given us a lot of help.
n. 1) fight; struggle; quarrel 战争；斗争；争执
This is a serious dispute, and could lead to armed conflict.
There is a growing conflict of interest between her position as a politician and her business activities.
vi. be in opposition or disagreement
His statement was apparently in conflictwith other evidence.
Their account of the road accident conflictswith ours.
1) take something out of a bag, pocket, or cupboard 拿出
pulled out all
That disarming young man ______________
____________________ to show to the two
strangers in the same carriage. (Adapted from
Feng Xiaogang’s 2005 new year movie A
World Without Thieves)
his money from his bag
fixed or held 拔出，拉出
You’d better have that bad tooth pulled out tomorrow.
Pulling outthe lid of that bottle needs great strength.
vi. 1) come into view; appear
2) (of facts, ideas) appear; become known
The sun emerged from behind the clouds.
That fact that he was just the murderer emerged from theinterrogation.
No new ideas emerged during the discussion.
That man _______ to be your partner but I’m investigating if he really is.
请选择appear 或 emerge 的适当形式填空。
vt. 1) believe something is true without definite proof
假定, 假设, 臆想
American national basketball team is not as unconquerable as you assumed it to be.
Let us first assume his statement to be believable.
assumes a leading position
Her father ______________________ in that state-owned enterprise.（担任领导职务）
You should ________________________ of what you have done.（承担所有的责任）
assume all the responsibilities
语（补足语多为 to be, 其他情况多用不定式的完成时或进
1) I suppose (that) we’ll meet him at that hotel.
2) Few people supposed that young man (to be) innocent.
3) His brother was supposed to have already left for England.
suppose 的设想还有某些根据，而 guess (vt./vi.)则有随意
answer, riddle, thought等词，可作“猜着了”理解。
1)Can you guess my age? 你能猜出我的年龄吗？
2) Guess what I am doing. 猜猜我在做什么。
3) The little girl guessed the right answer immediately.
2) You cannot imagine how happy I was to know that my
daughter was still alive. 你无法想象当我得知女儿还活
e.g. She assumes that you always get up at the same time.
passenger train from London.
traveler, but she was in fact a thief.
请选择 assume, guess, imagine 或 suppose 的适当形式填空。
v. say something is better, worse or more important
than it really is 夸大，夸张
The significance of that commercial performance ___________________________.
has been obviously exaggerated
The deadly earthquake and tsunami breaking out in Southeast Asia in December 2004 was so serious that the final death toll _______________________ at first.
sounded a bit exaggerating
vt. take no notice of, refuse to pay attention to
People all over the world should not ignore severe water shortage problems.
I said hello to her, but she ignored me completely.
A good driver never ignores a red light.
v. 1) communicate information or a message
I will have to convey that bad news to him.
The leaders of the local government _____________
_______________ to the relatives of that sacrificial
Those trucks had secretly conveyed weapons to the local anti-US forces.
A bus conveyed the passengers from the city to the airport.
very close to, on the border of
on the verge
Her husband’s death almost pushed her ___________
of emotional collapse
Zhao Benshan’s humorous performance even made his serious-looking father _____________________.
on the verge of laughing
Famous singer Kris Phillips is _________________. (年近50了)
on the verge of fifty
go to sb. for assistance / help
Speech is a means of conveying information.
I don’t feel heard.
to take his words lightly
They are on the verge of arguing.