Domestic Violence in Intimate Relationships

1. Domestic Violence in Intimate Relationships

2. Jennifer L. Baker, Psy.D. Anne B. Summers, Ph.D. Debbi Steinmann, M.A. Training Instructor / MentorsMelissa A. Gibson, M.S. Kim Rozell, M.A.Graduate AssistantsBrent Anderson, M.S.Matthew Biller, M.A. Cate Brandon, M.A Dawn Clinard, M.A.Jessie Clinton, M.S. Tabitha Carlson, M.S.Anup Jonathan Tony Larson, B.A. Nicole Mannis, M.A.Robert Mindrup, M.S.S.W.Colleen Quinn, Ph.D. Amber Schafer, M.A. Amanda Schroeder, B.S. The Training for the Healthy Marriage and Family Formation curriculum was created through the cooperative efforts of:

3. Domestic Violence Definition: • Violence between current or former partners in intimate relationships. • A pattern of behaviors used by an individual to establish and maintain coercive control over an intimate partner.

4. CAUTION Both men and women can be abusers. However, in most cases domestic violence is perpetrated by men against women. Therefore, we will generally refer to the male as the abuser and the female as the victim.

5. Types of Abuse • Psychological • Emotional • Physical • Sexual • Economic/Financial

6. Impact of Domestic Violence on Children • Between 3.3 and 10 million children witness domestic violence annually. • Exposure to violence in the home is a significant factor in predicting a child’s violent behavior. • Fifty percent of men who assaulted their wives also abused their children.

7. Cultural Aspects of Domestic Violence • Domestic violence occurs across cultural borders. • Domestic violence may reflect cultural traditions and practices. • Many refugees and immigrants have come from repressive cultural practices.

8. Arguments that become physical Intimate Terrorism Types of Domestic Violence

9. Arguments that Become Physical Occur mainly as an outgrowth of anger and conflict, with both partners capable of violent acts. Also termed “common couple,” expressive, or “pit bull” violence. Types of Domestic Violence

10. Intimate Terrorism Manipulative, purposeful violence used as a tool of power and control. Usually perpetuated by one member of the couple against the other. Also termed “patriarchal,” instrumental, or “viper” violence. Types of Domestic Violence

11. I. Tension Building II. Crisis Phase III. Honeymoon Traditional Cycle of Violence - Intimate Terrorism

12. Tactics of Power and Control- Power and Control Wheel Intimate Terrorism *East Side Domestic Violence Program

13. Warning Signs • Bruises and other signs of impact on the skin, with the excuse of “accidents” • Depression, crying, or emotional withdrawal • Frequent and sudden absences, frequent lateness • Alcohol or drug use

14. Warning Signs • Fear of the partner and/or references to the partner’s anger • Isolation • Obvious dependence on the spouse • References like, “I have no money” • Symbolic violence

15. Why the Abused Partner Stays

16. Romantic Bond • Validate it if it is present. • Women are socialized to succeed in relationships at all costs. • Can be a strength, but increases vulnerability. • History of childhood abuse may predispose both partners to violence.

17. Strategies to Determine Presence of Domestic Violence • Avoid global questions. • Avoid using words like “abuse” and “battering”. • Frame questions in terms of conflict resolution. • Inquire about more minor instances of abuse first. • Be familiar with various assessment instruments.

18. Intimate Terrorism Separate couples. Recommend gender specific treatment groups. Possibly couples’ therapy to learn to how avoid escalation so conflict can be addressed directly. Anger management, or cognitive/ behavioral strategies, etc. Arguments that Become Physical Response to Violence

19. Suitability for Couples’ Work • Ability to take full responsibility for one’s use of violence. • Ability to tolerate hearing partner’s description of being victimized. • Willingness to work toward stopping abusive behavior. • Ability to feel safe after speaking openly about his/her partner’s behavior.

20. Strategies to Handle Domestic Violence • Have educational materials about domestic violence on hand in order to share with clients. • Provide opportunity for domestic violence to be safely disclosed. • Be prepared to share information with clients about safe havens or shelters. • Be prepared to help clients develop a safety plan if necessary.

21. Websites Power and Control Wheel: East Side Domestic Violence Program http://www.edvp.org/AboutDV/wheel.htm Power and Control and Equality Wheel: Texas Violence Council http://www.tcfv.org/ The Danger Assessment: http://www.dangerassessment.org/WebApplication1/pages/da/ Domestic Abuse Intervention Project: http://www.duluth-model.org Family Violence Center of Springfield: http://fvc@sbcglobal.net Family Violence Prevention Fund: http://www.endabuse.org/

22. Websites Forest Institute of Professional Psychology’s Marriage and Family Department: http://www.forest.edu/clinic/index.html National Coalition Against Domestic Violence: http://www.ncadv.org/ National Domestic Violence Hotline: http://www.ndvh.org National Immigration Project Website: http://www.nationalimmigrationproject.org/ domestic-violence/domvioindex.htm Violence Against Women Online Resources: http://www.ndvh.org

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