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Interdependence. The characteristic common to all close relationships-an interpersonal association in which two people influence each other's lives and engage in many joint activities.Family relationships. Attachment Style. During interactions between infant and its primary caregiver: the child develops congnitions centering on two crucial
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1. CHAPTER 8 Close Relationships:
Family,
Friends,
Lovers,
and Spouses
3. Attachment Style During interactions between infant and its primary caregiver: the child develops congnitions centering on two crucial “working models”
Self-esteem
Interpersonal Trust
4. Interpersonal Trust A dimension involving one’s belief that other people are trustworthy, dependable, and reliable or that they are untrustworthy, undependable, and unreliable
5. Bowlby’s Three Types of Attachment Style Secure
Insecure-Avoidant
Insecure Ambivalent
6. Importance of Other Interactions Between Parents and Offspring Puberty
As life expectancy increases
7. Relationships Between and Among Siblings Mixed feelings
Affectionate relationship likely when…
Why are sibling relationships important?
Middle age types of sibling relationships
caretaker
buddy
casual
loyal
8. Relationships Beyond Family Close friendship
Childhood friends
Attachment styles and childhood friendships
The development of close friendships in adolescence and adulthood
9. Effects of Attachment Style on Adult Relationships College age adults
10. Two Basic Dimensions Underlying Adult Interactions Self-Evaluation (positive and negative
Person’s evaluation of others
Person with:
positive self image
negative self image
positive image of other people
negative image of other people
11. Four Attachment Styles Secure Attachment
Fearful-Avoidant
Preoccupied
Dismissing
12. Secure Attachment Style Positive about self and other people
seek interpersonal closeness and feel comfortable in relationships
express trust in their partners
The only people able to form long lasting, committed, and satisfying relationships.
13. Fearful-Avoidant Low self esteem
low interpersonal trust
Described as an insecure and maladaptive style of attachment
Avoids interpersonal closeness
Less intimacy and enjoyment in interacting with opposite sex
14. Preoccupied Low self-esteem
High interpersonal trust
Strongly desires a close relationship, but feels unworthy of the partner
vulnerable to being rejected.
Based on inconsistent self-other images
15. Dismissing High self-esteem
low interpersonal trust
conflict: individual feels they “deserve” a close relationship, but mistrusts potential partners
Is likely to reflect another person to avoid being the one who is rejected
16. Loneliness The unhappy emotional and cognitive state that results from desiring close relationships but being unable to attain them.
Discrepancy between what a person wants, and the reality of their interpersonal life.
Prefer to be lonely
Lack of reciprocity
17. Consequences of Loneliness Lonely people
are maladjusted
have few dates
have only casual friends
suffer from depression, anxiety, unhappiness, self-blame, and shyness
18. How Does Loneliness Develop? Culture
Attachment Style
Childhood
Personal Negativity: a general tendency to be unhappy and dissatisfied with oneself
Social Phobia: a debilitating anxiety disorder in which an individual perceives interpersonal situations as frightening and thus avoids them in order to guard against embarrassment and humiliation
19. What can you do to fix loneliness? Cognitive Therapy
Social Skills Training
20. Romantic Relationships Focus on heterosexual
Physical intimacy
21. Similarities Between Close Friendships and Romantic Relationships Attachment Styles
Physical Proximity
22. Differences Between Close Friendships and Romantic Relationships The first move
Want acceptance Vs accuracy in the beginning
Use of deception
View of relationship
Sexual motivation
Baby talk
23. What is Love? Love: a combination of emotions, cognitions, and behaviors that can be involved in intimate relationships
An emotion
can lead to increase in self-efficacy and self-esteem
Simple friendship, progressed to romance and sexual interest
24. Passionate Love Vs Close Friendship No one says they have fallen in friendship
Passionate love: An intense and often unrealistic emotional response to another person.
PL occurs suddenly
Seen to the person experiencing it as “true love” where others would say “infatuation”
25. Liking, Loving, and Being In Love Can you differentiate between these three?
Decline of three relationships
liking: decrease dues to negative behavior of other person
love: destroyed when other person abuses the trust that existed
out of love: when they became disillusioned with the other person
26. Unrequited Love One-way flow of love
You love someone who does not love you
60% of people said they have had this experience within the past 2 years
Men Vs women
Guilt on one end, loss of self esteem on the other
Insecure-ambivalent attachment: more likely to experience this kind of love
27. Falling In Love Passionate love
Sexual attraction: Necessary but not enough
Stranger example
Three circumstances to fall in love
28. Three Circumstances to Fall In Love Exposure throughout life to romantic images
An appropriate love object
Two-factor theory of emotion
29. Other Forms of Love Companionate Love
Hendrick and Hendrick (1986)
Sternberg’s Triangular Model of Love (1986)
30. Companionate Love Love that is based on friendship, mutual attraction, common interests, mutual respect and concern for each other’s happiness and welfare
Likely to last long and survive inspection
Based on very close friendship
How we feel about those with who our lives are entwined
31. Hendrick & Hendrick (1986) Four additional “love styles”
Gender differences
Men embrace both passionate love and game-playing love more than women
Women embrace companionate love (storage), logical love, and possessive love
32. Sternberg’s Triangular Model of Love There are three basic components of love relationships
intimacy: extent of bonding
passion:sexual motives and excitement
decision/commitment:decision to love an commit
These three basic components are present in varying degrees for different couples
When all components are there…it will last
If components are strong and equally balanced, the result is consummate love
33. Sociosexuality A dispositional characteristic that ranges from an unrestricted orientation (willingness to engage in casual sexual interactions) to a restricted orientation (willingness to engage in sex only with emotional closeness and commitment).
Restricted
Unrestricted
Gender Differences
Attachment style differences
34. Changes in Sexual Attitudes and Behavior Sexual Revolution
Oral Sex
Universal?
Sociosexuality
Gender Differences
35. Gender Differences in Changes in Sexual Attitudes and Behavior Sexual Revolution
Premarital Sex
Intimacy Initiation
Token resistance
Want and have (#)
How long do you have to know someone?
Once involved
36. Premarital Sex and Marriage What is the effect?
Sexual history and marital success
37. Is the Sexual Revolution Over? Permissive sexuality as a solution
Was sex always a personal decision?
Two consequences of sex
38. Similarity and Marriage Similarity over the course of a marriage.
Two problems with similarity that are overlooked.
39. Marital Sex, Love, and Parenthood Sexual interaction
Passionate love, companionate love, and marital satisfaction
Parenthood and marital satisfaction
40. Marriage Versus Single Married pole
Differences … not so great anymore?
Why?
41. Problems of Marriages: Why They Fail Stats
Compromise vs. Independence, conflict
No one is perfect
Unrealistic fantasies
Disenchantment
Costs vs. Benefits
Difference in conflict managment
42. Problems of Marriages: Why They Fail War of the Roses
Sporting event
Boredom
Major problem later in life
Affect
43. When a Relationship Fails How do people feel?
How do different genders cope?
How do people respond to dissatisfaction?
Active
Exit
Voice
Passive
Loyalty
Neglect
44. What Does a Successful Marriage Involve? Emphasis on Friendship
Commitment
Similarity
Efforts to create positive affect
Older couples vs. Younger couples
45. Discussion Points Is the sexual revolution over?
Should marriages be arranged?
Sexual jealously versus emotional jealousy?