LGBT Intimate Partner Violence.
“Domestic violence is framed as something about male/female relationships, derived from sexism, not from a larger framework of oppressions. I hear all the time, maybe queer relationship violence is there, but it can’t be as bad or [as] frequent as in abusive straight relationships. Even if it is named, it is minimized.” -Anonymous Survivor
“Our heterosexual friend complains to us about her boyfriend's abusive behavior. She says he won't let her talk to anyone but him, he yells at her and calls her names, he makes her feel crazy all the time, he isolates her, he threatens her, and he terrorizes her with words. We tell her to ditch him. Our lesbian friend tells us about her girlfriend's abusive behavior, describing it in exactly the same terms, and we tell her it's a difference in relationship style. We listen to our father berate our mother, and we tell her she shouldn't put up with it. We listen to a lesbian berate another lesbian, and we think, Well, she didn't hit her. We hear about a friend having been raped by a man, and we want him in jail at least and preferably dead; we hear about a woman raping another woman, and we figure it was just a fantasy gone awry.”—Tess Wiseheart