“My Teacher Hates M e!” An exploration of behavior and perception. By Hope Blosser. Workshop Goals.
By Hope Blosser
“This is timely for me. Last week I had a student call out that I hate her. Leading up to this outburst the student had called out multiple times and in the previous class I had specifically not called on her because while she had her hand raised, she was calling out and other students were respectfully raising their hands. In the next class I had to send the child out of the room because She was being so disrespectful.”
“When I called her parents to inform them of this situation I told the father that I was also concerned because the daughter had called out, "Why do you hate me?" His first response was to question what my answer was to his daughter's question. That he questioned my "hatred" of his daughter made me feel like he also thought that I hated his daughter and I felt like he was accusing me of hatred toward students. ”
“I have felt that it is crucial to make sure students feel liked by me early on. This is essentially a defense strategy because the better relationship I have early on with the students, the less hurdles I usually have with students and parents throughout the year. That said, I think it is very confusing for an adolescent girl to receive constructive criticism from a teacher and not take it personally. I wonder what role their development plays in this.”
“This year I had a very disturbing experience when I had to speak to a student about paraphrasing. She had cut and paste sections of a homework assignment and I told her that I expected her to make revisions on the assignment, but that I had to call home and inform her parents. I did not think that this was a big deal - simply a redo on homework. But a week or two later the parents asked for a meeting where I was screamed at for 30 minutes about how I dared to insult their daughter's academic integrity. My feeling is that this resulted because the student went home from school and framed the situation as "My teacher is out to get me" to avoid accountability for her actions. “
Here are some of the results…
This type of thinking has negative implications for faculty, including: