Existential Therapy Probing the nature of being human. as illustrated by Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Rollo May. Born April 21, 1909, in Ada, Ohio. (died in 1994) Childhood was not particularly pleasant His parents didn’t get along and eventually divorced His sister had a psychotic breakdown
Existential TherapyProbing the nature of being human
as illustrated by
Buffy the Vampire Slayer
“How did I get into the world? Why was I not asked about it, why was I not informed of the rules and regulations but just thrust into the ranks as if I had been bought by a peddling shanghaier of human beings? How did I get involved in this big enterprise called actuality? Why should I be involved? Isn't it a matter of choice? And if I am compelled to be involved, where is the manager—I have something to say about this. Is there no manager? To whom shall I make my complaint?” (Kierkegaard's literary character Young Man in Repetition, 1843)
"Now it is no longer a matter of deciding what to do, but of deciding how to decide."(May, Love and Will, 1969).
“The other night, getting captured and all, facing off with Faith . . . things just got kind of clear. I mean you’ve been fighting evil here for about three years, and I’ve been helping out some, and now we’re supposed to be deciding what we want to do with our lives, and I realized that’s what I want to do. Fight evil. Help people. I think it’s worth doing, and I don’t think you do it because you have to. It’s a good fight, Buffy, and I want in.” (Willow, in “Choices” 3-19)
Choices are opportunities, not problems
“As death, when we come to consider it closely, is the true goal of our existence, I have formed during the last few years such close relations with this best and truest friend of mankind, that his image is not only no longer terrifying to me, but is indeed very soothing and consoling! And I thank my God for graciously granting me the opportunity . . . of learning that death is the key which unlocks the door to our true happiness.”
– Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
“I mean, I can beat up the demons, until the cows come home. And then, I can beat up the cows. But I'm not sure I like what it's doing to me. Maybe being the perfect Slayer means being too hard to love at all. I already feel like I can hardly say the words.”
Buffy: Every single nightThe same arrangementI go out and fight the fightStill I always feelThis strange estrangementNothing here is realNothing here is rightI’ve been making shows of trading blowsJust hoping no one knowsThat I’ve been Going through the motionsWalking through the partNothing seems to penetrate my heartI was always brave And kind of righteousNow I find I’m waveringCrawl out of you grave You find this fight just Doesn’t mean a thingVampire: She ain’t got that swing
Buffy: Thanks for noticingDemon and vamps:
She does pretty well with fiends from hellBut lately we can tellThat she’s just Going through the motionsFaking it somehowDemon: She’s not even half the girl she-ow…Buffy:Will I stay this way foreverSleepwalk through my life’s endeavorHandsome young victim man: How can I repay-Buffy:-WhateverI don’t want to beGoing through the motionsLosing all me drive I can’t even see if this is really meAnd I just want to be
You're addicted to the misery. It's why you won't tell your pals about us. Might actually have to be happy if you did. They'd either understand and help you, God forbid ... or drive you out ... where you can finally be at peace, in the dark. With me. Either way, you'd be better off for it, but you're too twisted for that. (pauses) Let yourself live, already. And stop with the bloody hero trip for a sec. We'd all be the better for it. (Spike, “Normal Again, 6-17)
Things have really sucked lately, but that’s all going to change, and I want to be there when it does. I want to see you grow up, the woman you’re going to become. Because she is going to be beautiful and she is going to be powerful. I got it so wrong. I don’t want to protect you from the world. I want to show it to you (“Grave,” 6-22).
By Paul Majendie, Thu Jan 25, 10:37 AM ET LONDON (Reuters) –
Beware the Affluenza Virus. An epidemic of mindless consumerism is sweeping the world with the compulsive pursuit of money and possessions making people richer but sadder. That is the stark warning issued by best-selling British psychologist Oliver James after a "mind tour" of seven countries chronicling how depression envelopes the affluent.
"We have become addicted to having rather than being and confusing our needs with our wants," he told Reuters in an interview to mark publication on Thursday of "Affluenza.“ Globe-trotting from New York to Sydney, Singapore and Shanghai via Copenhagen, Moscow and Auckland, he concluded after interviewing 240 people that "selfish capitalism" has run riot.
Bigger houses, more cars, larger televisions, younger faces -- these goals are frenetically pursued by middle-class workaholics afflicted by "Affluenza.""Studies in lots of different nations show that if you place high value on those things, you are more likely to suffer depression, anxiety, addictions and personality disorders," he said.
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