Development & Maturity: Separation/Individuation
Bonded born - fully whole in womb partially separate person separate
Bonded born - in womb partially mature
interdependent never fully separate
Homework for next Tuesday -
What differences are there between these 2 myths?
Why do you think Kosawa asserted that the Ajase myth was a better expression of collective psychological dynamics than the Oedipus complex?
Singaporean Woman Student: Parenting Styles
I have noticed on many occasions the Japanese parents are quite similar to the Chinese parents in that they keep an extremely close watch on their children and do not let them run around too far away from them. I often hear them telling their children what to do and picking them up in their arms after a few minutes of leaving them on their own. Many Asian parents tend to be very protective of their children and do not encourage active experimentation by their children. Most of them prefer to tell their children what to do and what not to do instead of letting them explore and make their own mistakes.
Singaporean Woman: Parenting Styles (cont.)
This is characteristic of the tendency for Asian families to have large power distance value orientations where children are looked after and not expected to experiment for themselves. I have observed in the past that many American and European parents, however, let their toddlers crawl around and even far away from them. Active experimentation is encouraged and they are allowed to make mistakes and learn for themselves. Western parents have more of the equality and small power distance values orientation and they are not overly protective and do not usually tell their children what to do but just offer their guidance and advice.
Italian Woman Student
I did training last year in a Swedish Delivery Consulting Room for families, specialized in pregnancy and women, in my hometown of Milan. The training consisted of the participation to a post-partum course that some mothers with their babies attended. This course was run by a clinical developmental psychologist, specifically trained in Group Psychotherapy. The aim of this course was to help the young mothers during one of the most difficult periods of mothering: the first months right after the delivery. (cont.)
During this course we talked a lot about the separation process and the psychologist stressed very much the importance of teaching the baby to fall asleep alone in the cradle, saying that is very important for him to have his own room (when available) and to start to learn of independence as soon as possible. The course was focused on how to achieve this early separation, how to behave during the first months because, as the psychologist said, the habits that the baby learn early are the ones he will refer to always while growing up. (cont.)
When I came to Japan and started to follow Cross-Cultural Psychology classes, I learnt that the co-sleeping practice is very common in East Asia. At first this impressed me a bit because it was exactly the opposite of what the Italian psychologist said and of what I studied for four years at University, as my major is Child Psychology.
1) At what age did you stop sleeping next to your parents?
2) What kind of child-rearing style did your parents have?
3) Attitude to dependency – good or bad?
4) Did maturity = independent self-agency?