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Loving More through Love Languages by Jody Capehart

Loving More through Love Languages by Jody Capehart. First Friday October 5, 2012 www. jodycapehart.com Head of School at Grace Academy of North Texas. What is “Love”?. 2. Love is a many splendored thing Love is the most used word

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Loving More through Love Languages by Jody Capehart

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  1. Loving More through Love Languagesby Jody Capehart First Friday October 5, 2012 www. jodycapehart.com Head of School at Grace Academy of North Texas

  2. What is “Love”? 2 Love is a many splendored thing • Love is the most used word • Love is the most abused word • Love is the most desired word • Love is the most confused word, So, “What is love?”

  3. I believe there are layers to how each of us process and learn which reveals how we are uniquely created by God!

  4. Personalities:DISCModel Personality Inslghts

  5. Personalities!

  6. We learn differently… • Are you a Visual Vi? • Are you an Auditory Audrey? • Are you a Tactual Tina? • Are you a Kinesthetic Karen?

  7. How do you process information? Are you a Concrete Sequential Connie? Do you need things to be • organized • sequential • predictable www.jodycapehart.com

  8. Are you a… Global Gladys? Analytic Al?

  9. I pondered…. www.jodycapehart.com

  10. Because, you see, I have assessments such as… www.jodycapehart.com

  11. My Story

  12. “Just 5 easy questions, dear!”

  13. Question:“What fills up your love tank?” • Words of affirmation? • Quality time? • Giving and receiving gifts? • Acts of service? • Physical touch? www.jodycapehart.com

  14. Fill ‘er up please! Keeping the love tank full! Just 5 easy questions. How hard can this be? I had a captive audience….. 25 20 15 10 5 5 10 15 20 25 www.jodycapehart.com

  15. Turning point in MY life! Was blind, but now I see!

  16. These are the 5 Love Languages: • Words of affirmation • Quality time • Giving and receiving gifts • Acts of service • Physical touch www.jodycapehart.com

  17. Love Language # 1“Talking” Words of Affirmation • “The tongue has the power of life and death.” (Proverbs 18:21) • Words are powerful communicators of love. • The word encourage means to inspire courage.

  18. Encouraging Words • For your mate • For your child • For your parents • For your friends • For your co-workers • For your boss • For those you don’t like so much….

  19. Words of Affirmation are: Words that convey empathy Words of kindness Words of encouragement Words of forgiveness

  20. Lookin’ for the Signs: • They encourage others easily, naturally, and sincerely. • Their ‘inner flower’ wilts when they are around negative people. • Their ‘inner flower’ blooms and they lit up when they are encouraged.

  21. and, of an empty love tank

  22. Story of the Babbling Brook and The Dead Sea

  23. Kids “Talking” Today www.jodycapehart.com

  24. # 2: Quality Time My Report card: F

  25. What they need: Love is spelled T-I-M-E! • Focused attention • Being together • Quality conversation • Eye-contact www.jodycapehart.com

  26. Multi-tasking Cell phone interruptions Watching TV Texting

  27. The irony…. I was giving “Gifts of Time”to my children without even realizing it…

  28. I needed to fill up my husband’s “TIME” Love Tank:

  29. #3: Giving and Receiving Gifts • Giving gifts • Receiving gifts • Gifts are visual symbols of love • Gifts that showed you were thinking of the other person • Not the value but the thought and time taken

  30. What are some signs? They give meaningful gifts They delight in the tiniest of “gifts” if they believe they reflect you were thinking of them. As children, they make you presents.

  31. What drains the Token Tank? • Gifts without meaning • Presents without their presence • Disagreements about $

  32. A true story about a big anniversary: Both loved each other She wanted… He gave… He wanted… She gave… Both came home with empty love tanks even though they really loved each other. Sad tale but ever so true. www.jodycapehart.com

  33. # 4: Acts of Service • Up and beyond the norm • Doing the unexpected • Serving without being asked • “Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.” (Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman page 92) www.jodycapehart.com

  34. To whom do we serve? • Mates • Children • Friends • Neighbors • Co-workers • Those in need • Those who can never do anything back for us.

  35. Signs of the Love Language of “Acts of Service” • They love helping others • They “light up” when you do something for them • They “shut down” when acts of service are not present

  36. #5 is: Physical Touch Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate love… or hate.

  37. Signs of the Love Language of Touch: • In a child • In a teen • In an adult • In a marriage • In older people www.jodycapehart.com

  38. Testimony Time He said, “In our dating, I had always taken the initiative on kissing and hugging. She was always responsive. After we got married, she never wanted anything physical. I took it personally. I felt rejected, unwanted, and unloved. I withdrew completely.

  39. The other side of the story… • She said, “When we were dating, I thought all the physical affection was how he showed me he loved me. • After we got married, it seemed that all he could think about was sex. Did he love me, or just my body? Did he want to spend time with me or just have sex?

  40. God is always ‘right on’! “This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” (Ephesians 5:32-33 ESV) Suggested Reading: Ephesians 5 For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn www.jodycapehart.com

  41. Wrapping it up with an easy way to remember: Talking: Words of Affirmation Time:Quality Time Towel: Acts of Service Tokens: Giving and Receiving Gifts Touch: Appropriate Physical Touch www.jodycapehart.com

  42. What is your love language? Talk? Time? Towel? Tokens or Touch? • “I feel most loved when… • We usually love others in our love language and feel most loved when it is returned in the same language. www.jodycapehart.com

  43. How to tell the Love Language of others: • Look for how your loved one shows love. • If you aren’t sure, love in one language for a week at a time and watch how the person responds. • Look for signs of what fills up their “Love Tank” www.jodycapehart.com

  44. How to best love those with the Love Language of “Words of Affirmation” • Communicate: • Kind Words • Positive, affirming words • Do: • Send encouraging notes • Avoid: • Critical words

  45. How to best love those with the Love Language of “Quality Time” • Communicate: • One-on-one time • Without interruptions • Do: • Spend time together • Avoid: • Times apart • Spending too much time time with others www.jodycapehart.com

  46. How to best love those with the Love Language of “Acts of Service” • Communicate: • Action words: I will! • What else can I do? • Do: • Help with chores • Avoid: • Not doing your part or waiting to be asked

  47. How to best love those with the Love Language of “Giving and Receiving Gifts” • Communicate: • You are thinking of them • Do: • Give gifts for special times and also, just because you are thinking of them • Avoid: • Forgetting special and significant dates

  48. How to best love those with the Love Language of “Physical Touch” • Communicate: • Lots of non-verbals • Do: • Touch often, lovingly, and appropriately • Avoid: • Physical neglect or abuse

  49. Look for the signs… If you are married: What does your spouse do or fail to do that hurts you most deeply? What have you most requested of your spouse?

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