Keep it Flexible – Restructuring Caregiving Approaches. Alexandra Morris March 2009. Objectives. Cognitive Changes in PWD Goals of Caregiving Roots of Caregiver Stress Caregiver Cognitive Restructuring Understanding Dynamics of Typical Dementia Related Behavior Challenges
Person Remain Calm
and in Control
Manage Daily Life: Keep
Person Enjoyably Involved
The Main Work of
Manage Own Well-Being:
Manage Resources --
Including Family Resources
“…feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are.”
Buddhist nun , PemaChodron
Practice the “So What” Principle
Take Gentle but Firm Control
Wrinkles should merely indicate where the smiles have been.
The Summer Day away from it
Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean –
this one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down–
who is gazing around with her enormous complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
Never refuse to do a kindness unless the act would work great injury to yourself, and never refuse to take a drink- under any circumstances.Mark Twain