The top ten skills for polyamory are the top ten skills for relationship, period. Nan Wise. What I will cover. Introduce myself—a brief update of my own journey The important basics of our emotional equipment to understand our 3 brains and seven minds for operational intelligence
Habit #1) Avoid a judgmental attitude. Judgment is damaging to relationships, even beyond the consequences of the behaviors we are judging.(e.g. a partner’s harsh and punitive judgements about a partner’s misbehavior can be as damaging to the relationship as the misbehavior in the first place)
Partners must learn how to respond well to partners complaints and be willing to accept the influence of the partner .
(Factoid: The willingness of husbands to accept the influence of wives, alone, predicts marital success 80% of the time, but not vice versa)
7) Maintain your cool. Keep track of your arousal. Don’t make a big deal of the issues at hand or your partner’s reactions. Self-soothe