“Be Fruitful”

1. “Be Fruitful”

3. SESI 1 GROW DEEP (BE ROOTED)

4. SESI 2 GROW UP

5. SESI 3 GROW OUTWARD

6. SESI 4 GROW ONWARD (BE FAITHFUL & FRUITFUL)

7. SESI 1 GROW DEEP (BE ROOTED)

13. IDENTITY

14. SESI 2 GROW UP

15. Subtle and Unintentional Most mistakes in families are not made deliberately, but subtly and unintentionally.

16. Counter-Intuitive Meeting emotional needs is not as easy and intuitive as meeting physical needs. For many, it is actually counter-intuitive…

18. Ignorance & Lack of Training When children’s core emotional needs are not met, they are put in harm’s way. This is mostly as a result of: • Ignorance • Lack of training

19. Children are GOOD TAPE RECORDER BUT POOR INTERPRETER

25. Apakah yang anda lihat?

26. Yang tidak kelihatan?

28. Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor AS YOURSELF’” (Matthew 22:37-39)

29. Is it true?

30. WHAT IS OUR SELF IMAGE?

31. Your self image is the picture you have in your mind of yourself. Your self image is who you think you are.

32. Your idealized self is the person you think you ought to be

33. Your self esteem is how you feel about yourself Do you like yourself? Or not?

34. WHERE DOES OUR SELF IMAGE COME FROM?

35. Self Image People Impact Impact + (Positive) - (Negative) * It’s not what people “SAY” but what you “ACCEPT” what they say Self Image / Self Belief

36. WHERE DOES OUR SELF IMAGE COME FROM? (1 Cor 13:9-12) • Reflecting mirrors from moms and dads, brothers and sisters, playmates, cousins, relatives and friends • Reflecting mirrors from the culture and society that surround us (Romans 12:1-2) • Reflecting mirrors from our own expectations, proper or improper thinking, and proper evaluation ofthe people and events around us (Romans 12:3; Genesis 2:25, and 3:7) • Reflecting mirrors from Satan and his forces (John 8:44; 2 Corinthians 4:4; and Revelation 12:10) • Reflecting mirrors from the Lord God Who created us (Psalm 139:13-16)

37. Self Belief & Self Esteem Cycles Negative Self Belief Lower Negative Self Esteem Expectations Self Defeating Behavior

38. Self Belief & Self Esteem Cycles Positive Self Belief Increased Positive Self Esteem Expectations Confident Behavior

39. WHAT DOES A GOOD SELF IMAGE LOOK LIKE?

40. A Person With A Good Self-Image: ...accepts himself/herself for what he/she is ...is willing to expose the innermost being of the heart without fear of criticism or rejection ...is confident in personal abilities ...relates well to people, share burdens and listen to others’ problems ...has a sense of belonging to others, to a group, or to society ...listens to complaints without going on the defensive ...is not seeking to super achieve in order to prove anything to anybody ... “I am what I am.” (1 Cor 15:10)

41. A Person With A Poor Self-Image: ...doesn't trust himself/herself and often doesn’t trust others either ...often questions his/her abilities and what others are saying about him/her ...is afraid to be open ...has a fear of being known because he/she feels that if people see them as they really are, they’ll be rejected ...often wears a mask in order to hide from self, others, and God ...works to prove worth ...has difficulty accepting compliments and criticism ...has an inability to distinguish 'no' from rejection ...struggles to let go of a negative past

42. A POOR SELF IMAGE IS NOT JUST A SHAME, IT IS DEBILITATING Low self-esteem paralyzes potential (Matthew 25:14-30) Low self-esteem destroys dreams (Proverb 29:18; and Numbers 13:33) Low self-esteem ruins relationships (Romans 12:3-5) Low self-esteem sabotages Christian service (Exodus 3:11-4:17; and Romans 12:6-8)

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49. SESI 3 GROW OUTWARD

50. Why do we behave the way we do? We believe it is a combination of: • Temperament • Environment • Core Needs Met (combined with God’s Grace!)