CRETE Dialogue Day 4. Christa Tinari and Catrina Cuevas. “dialogue”. A conversation or discussion between two persons to reach an agreement. An exchange between a person and something else. An exchange of ideas and opinions.
Christa Tinari and Catrina Cuevas
A conversation or discussion between two persons to reach an agreement
An exchange between a person and something else
An exchange of ideas and opinions
Adapted from Webster’s online dictionary www.websters-online-dictionary.org and www.m-w.com
“…a conversation structured as a competition of participants and views.
It involves stating a starting position, rebutting opposing positions, defending one’s starting position with counter attacks, and seeing who wins.
One listens for points of disagreement, protects one’s starting views, and acts in an adversarial manner”
Poliner and Benson www.esrnational.org
The goal is winning
Believe there is only 1 solution
Don’t care about other’s feelings, hopes and ideas
Listen to find flaws
Search for weakness
Criticize the other
Collaborative, sides work together
Identify and share commonalities
Contributes to problem solving
Believe in many solutions
Sensitive to feelings, hopes and ideas of others
Improve on your ideas
Search for good and encourages open-mindednessDebate Dialogue
Adapted from Poliner and Benson www.esrnational.org
Attacks and interruptions
Differences within sides are denied or minimized
Statements are predictable
Success requires simple impassioned statements
Speak from own unique experiences
An atmosphere of safety
Differences in beliefs and values are explored
Listen to understand and gain insight
New information surfaces
Success requires explorationDebate Dialogue
Adapted from PCP Toolkit 1992
Judgments of others are alienated expressions of our own unmet needs.
The forms of speaking we have available to us regulate the forms of thinking, feeling and meaning-making to which we have access, which in turn constrain how we see the world and act in it.
~Kegan & Lahey