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Love and Relationships

Love and Relationships. Agenda. Link to Gender Differences Factors influencing attraction Theories of Love Long term relationships Other issues. Links to Gender Differences. Studies by Lefkowitz (2002). Link from Gender Differences.

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Love and Relationships

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  1. Love and Relationships

  2. Agenda • Link to Gender Differences • Factors influencing attraction • Theories of Love • Long term relationships • Other issues

  3. Links to Gender Differences Studies by Lefkowitz (2002)

  4. Link from Gender Differences What women talk about more:Sexual behavior, Sexual feelings, Dating and romantic relationships, “Making out," The dangers of sex, Abstinence, How attractive members of the other sex were, How attractive they themselves were, Date rape and Contraception What men talk about more: Masturbation

  5. Link from Gender Differences So where to the stereotypes come from?

  6. Link from Gender Differences So where to the stereotypes come from? How acceptable is it it to sleep with a person if you’ve known them:

  7. Link from Gender Differences So where to the stereotypes come from? Men are considerably more likely to misinterpret a female’s friendly behavior as indicating sexual interest (Le Bouef, in press) Evolution and mate selection (Buss, 1995)

  8. Factors Influencing Attraction • Proximity • Physical Attractiveness • Similarity • Reciprocity • Conditioning • Courtship

  9. Proximity Reasons why proximity plays a role in attraction 1) Mere exposure 2) More opportunities to meet, interact 3) People are likely to live near people of similar economic, social backgrounds

  10. Proximity Mere exposure (Zajonc, 1966; Moreland & Beach 1992) Ratings of attraction.

  11. Proximity More opportunities to meet, interact: Homes for elderly, college campuses distance between rooms predicts attraction (Nahemow & Lawton, 1975) Manipulating dorm assignments (Festinger, 1950) Random (alphabetized) seating assignments in class (Segal, 1974)

  12. Proximity People are likely to live near people of similar economic, social backgrounds: Wealth, class, ethnicity, and education levels tend to cluster by neighborhood (U.S. Census Bureau, 1990). People with similar backgrounds are inclined to like each other more (Newcomb, 1956).

  13. Physical Attraction People like beauty. Halo effects (Hatfield et al, 1986) More attractive people get lower bail set, (Downs & Lyons, 1991), more easily influence others (Chaiken, 1979), earn more money (Hamermesh & Biddle, 1994). #1 predictor of date satisfaction for males is the attractiveness of the partner (Sprecher & Duck, 1994)

  14. Physical Attraction • Beauty is objective: • High level of agreement across cultures (Langlois et al, 2000) • Certain features of faces are reliably associated with attractiveness (Cunningham, 1986) • Babies prefer attractive faces (Cowley, 1996).

  15. Physical Attraction • Beauty is subjective: • Different cultures “improve” beauty in different ways (Newman, 2000). • Different body types are judged to be more attractive in different parts of the world (Anderson et. al 1992) • Body type standards vary over time (Silverstein et al, 1986).

  16. Physical Attraction • Things that people agree on: • Symmetrical faces are more attractive

  17. Physical Attraction Things that people agree on: 2) More average faces are more attractive 3) Waist/hip ratio for women is judged similarly across culture. Men prefer waists 1/3 narrower than hips (Singh, 1993) 4) Across culture, women prefer men to have a V-shaped physique (Singh, 1995)

  18. Physical Attraction Things that people agree on: 5) Women who have large eyes, prominent cheekbones, small bones and a wide smile are judged more attractive (Cunningham, 1986) 6) Men with broad jaws and chiseled features are judged more attractive (Cunningham et al, 1990).

  19. Physical Attraction • Situational influences on attraction: • Contrast effects (Kenrick et al, 1993) • Opinions of same sex peers (for women) (Graziano et al, 1993) • Girls all get prettier at closing time effect, (Gladue & Delaney, 1990) • Glasses (Terry & Macy, 1991)

  20. Physical Attraction Good male names: Alexander, Joshua, Mark, Henry, Scott, Taylor. Good female names: Elizabeth, Mary, Jessica, Ann, Brittany, Isabella Bad male names: Otis, Roscoe, Norbert, Ogden, Willard, Eugene Bad female names: Mildred, Frieda, Agatha, Harriet, Rosalyn, Tracy

  21. Similarity Schuster & Elderton (1906) Married couples report significant agreement about politics and religion. Friends were more similar in attitudes, beliefs, values, and interests. Correlation does not imply causation.

  22. Similarity Demonstrating that similarity is responsible for attraction (Newcomb, 1956) Gave students free rent in a dorm in exchange for being study participants. Took measures of attitudes on different topics before students arrived on campus. Over the course of the year, students with similar attitudes reported more attraction to each other

  23. Similarity Proportion of similar attitudes scale (Byrne & Nelson, 1965) Attraction Ratings

  24. Similarity Rosenbaum’s (1986) repulsion hypothesis Smeaten et. al (1989) proportion hypothesis After a decade of argument, it appears that the proportion hypothesis is correct.

  25. Similarity Matching Hypothesis: We like those who are like ourselves (Galton, 1870). Romantic pairs are similar in physical attractiveness (Zajonc et al, 1987) Even college roommates, prefer to be of similar attractiveness (Carlie et al. 1991) Sense of humor particularly important (Cann et al., 1995)

  26. Reciprocity People like positive feedback (Coleman, Jussim, & Abraham, 1987). Even obvious attempts at flattery increase liking (Drachman et. al. 1978). Being liked leads to positive interpersonal behavior (1986).

  27. Reciprocity Over time, people prefer increasing affinity rather than decreasing affinity (Aronson et al, 1965). This has been referred to as the “couple’s curse”.

  28. Reciprocity Playing hard to get Very hard to get empirical data supporting this strategy (Walster et al, 1973) Although people prefer moderately selective mates to those with no selectivity, lack of perceived interest is typically perceived as a turn off (Wright & Contrada, 1986).

  29. Conditioning Association with positive or negative stimulus influences attractiveness ratings. Negative mood leads to lower attractiveness ratings (Byrne & Clore, 1970). Unpleasant background music when meeting a person leads to subsequent lower attractiveness ratings (May & Hamilton, 1980)

  30. Courtship • Opening Lines • Female Courtship Rituals • Male Courtship Rituals

  31. Introductions

  32. Introductions • Kleinke et al, 1986; • Investigated what people say when trying to meet somebody they don’t know (pick up lines) • Typical Answers: • “Hi, I’m easy, are you?” • “Where are you from” • “Hi. I’m a little embarrassed about this, but I’d like to get to know you.

  33. Introductions Kleinke et al, 1990; Cunningham, 1989 Looked at the effectiveness of different types of opening lines in laboratory, and then real life settings Likeability

  34. Introductions Kleinke et al, 1990; Cunningham, 1989

  35. Female Courtship Rituals • Women’s flirting behavior Eibl-Eibesfeldt (1989): • Smile • Lift Eyebrows in fast jerky motion • Open their eyes wide • Lower their eyelids • Tilt heads down and to the side • Look away

  36. Female Courtship Rituals Moore (1985; 1989): Female courtship behaviors were defined as that specific subset of nonverbal behavior that consistently resulted in male attention 52 items identified Courtship found to be more important that physical attraction for garnering male interest.

  37. Female Courtship Rituals Type I, II, III glances, Eyebrow flash, head toss, hair flip, face to face, lipstick application, lip lick, lip pout, smiling, laugh, giggling, kissing, whisper, arm flexion, tapping, palming, gesticulation, hand hold, primp, skirt hike, object caress, caress (hair, leg, buttock, arm, torso, back), lean, brush, breast touch, thigh tough, foot to foot, placement, Lateral body contact, parade, approach, promenade, pinching, tickling.

  38. Male Courtship Rituals Male courtship rituals: Submissive displays: Palms up, shoulder shrug, tilt head. Dominance displays: Entering personal space, putting arm around shoulder, swagger. Resources displays: Paying for food, drink. Wearing expensive clothes. Bragging.

  39. Male Courtship Rituals Male rituals harder to chronicle (Taflinger, 1996): The less ritualized and more original his approach is, the more likely a woman is to accept it This leads to ad hoc courtship by human males.

  40. Theories of Love • Love Styles • Triarchic Model of Love • Equity Theory

  41. Love Styles

  42. Love Styles Hendrick & Hendrick (1993): Had subjects write “personal account or story of a romantic relationship”. Did a factor analysis on prevalence of different themes/adjectives Found 6 love styles – romantic partners tend to have similar love styles (Morrow et al, 1995)

  43. Love Styles • Eros – Passionate Love • Love at first sight • 34% of subjects rate ‘high’ on this scale • Men typically have higher ratings • Sample Question: My lover and I were attracted to each other immediately after we first met.

  44. Love Styles • Storge – Friendship Love • Very close friendship becomes love • 66% of subjects rate ‘high’ on this scale • Women typically have higher ratings • Sample Question: Love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical emotion.

  45. Love Styles • Ludus – Game-Playing Love • Flirtatious and not committed • 2% of subjects rate ‘high’ on this scale • Men typically have higher ratings • Sample Question: I have sometimes had to keep my two lovers from finding out about each other.

  46. Love Styles • Mania – Possessive Love • Feeling of ownership over lover • 2% of subjects rate ‘high’ on this scale • Women typically have higher ratings • Sample Question: I cannot relax if I suspect that my lover is with somebody else.

  47. Love Styles • Pragma – Logical Love • Cognitive appreciation for other’s quality • 17% of subjects rate ‘high’ on this scale • Women typically have higher ratings • Sample Question: It is best to love somebody with a similar background.

  48. Love Styles • Agape – Selfless Love • Putting one’s lover above one’s self • 2% of subjects rate ‘high’ on this scale • Highly correlated with religiosity • Sample Question: I would rather suffer than let my lover suffer.

  49. Triarchic Model of Love Three aspects of love (Sternberg, 1986): Intimacy: Closeness two people feel psychologically, how well partners understand each other. Passion: The amount of physical/sexual attraction and romance. Commitment: The cognitive factors such as the decision to maintain the relationship.

  50. Triarchic Model of Love Intimacy = Liking I + P = Romantic Love I + C = Companionate Love Consummate Love Passion = Infatuation Commitment = Empty Love P + C = Fatuous Love

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